Dating an older guy

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I have a question for the younger ladies here (20s), if there are any lol...would you date an older guy (late 30s) if he looked younger, was fit and healthy, talented, creative, good job (but not rich by any means)? And not just for a fling but where you would actually consider long term potential?
I guess this could be relevant for any woman of any age, 30s for 40s, 40s for 50s, etc..
 
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Been there and done that twice and id probably do it again
 

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When I was in my early twenties I was in a serious relationship with a man that was in his thirties. At one time I thought I preferred older men, now I only care that he's the right guy for me.
 
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I preferred older men when I was younger, it was more about maturity level than anything else. I'm still not into younger men so much, but I feel more comfortable around men my age these days as well as the older ones.
 

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For a lot of younger women like myself the attention of an older guy is, if anything, certainly intriguing. The keystone to a possible relationship with an older guy of course is that you find him attractive. I don't see why a young woman would pass on a guy because of his age (within reason of course) that she found attractive both physically and intellectually. A girl in her 20's vs a guy in his 30's isn't out of the norm. Lots of successful relationships share such age gaps. I think when you start talking a wider gap in age then things get more difficult, especially as far as starting a family goes, but who's to say? You love who you love.

Speaking for myself as a woman in her early 20's if you're a late 30's guy who's healthy, works out, has a nice body, is active and wants to go out do things, hit clubs, restaurants, hang with friends, have fun, is social, intelligent, open minded, considerate, and has a good sense of humor, you're in. I don't care that you're 15 or more years older than me. There are many guys in their 40's who a very attractive and don't look anywhere near their age. I imagine the only passing grade remaining for me to consider a long term relationship is that you're good in bed. An older sexually experienced man with the stamina, energy, of a 20-year-old sounds extremely appealing to me ... that is, if I hadn't already found the perfect guy. But hypothetically, at this point in my life, I'd certainly wouldn't throw a roadblock on an older guy who met aforementioned qualities, could stay out all night dancing and partying, and then fuck me like crazy at dawn. If you're man enough for that rodeo, you're in regardless of age.
 

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14 years ago I married a man 24 years older than me.

I have the most amazing marriage I think anybody could have.

I truly love him more than life itself.

No he's not rich and he doesn't have a enormous dick. But still puts me out of this world with sex.

Don't ever pass up a chance to date an older man.

A friend was talking to us both one day and ask. Don't you ever worry about the age differences.

Hubby said, Na, If she dies she dies. :tongue:

I still sleep with one eye open. :wink:
 

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For a lot of younger women like myself the attention of an older guy is, if anything, certainly intriguing. The keystone to a possible relationship with an older guy of course is that you find him attractive. I don't see why a young woman would pass on a guy because of his age (within reason of course) that she found attractive both physically and intellectually. A girl in her 20's vs a guy in his 30's isn't out of the norm. Lots of successful relationships share such age gaps. I think when you start talking a wider gap in age then things get more difficult, especially as far as starting a family goes, but who's to say? You love who you love.

Speaking for myself as a woman in her early 20's if you're a late 30's guy who's healthy, works out, has a nice body, is active and wants to go out do things, hit clubs, restaurants, hang with friends, have fun, is social, intelligent, open minded, considerate, and has a good sense of humor, you're in. I don't care that you're 15 or more years older than me. There are many guys in their 40's who a very attractive and don't look anywhere near their age. I imagine the only passing grade remaining for me to consider a long term relationship is that you're good in bed. An older sexually experienced man with the stamina, energy, of a 20-year-old sounds extremely appealing to me ... that is, if I hadn't already found the perfect guy. But hypothetically, at this point in my life, I'd certainly wouldn't throw a roadblock on an older guy who met aforementioned qualities, could stay out all night dancing and partying, and then fuck me like crazy at dawn. If you're man enough for that rodeo, you're in regardless of age.

thats helpful, thanks! :biggrin1:
 

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Heck yeah! My man is about to turn 50! 50!!! That's half a century! Wow! (Sorry, Cap, I just had to! LOL!).

Cap is only 8 years older than me, but I swears he can act 20 years younger than me sometimes. One thing I will say is that he takes care of himself. He doesn't act like an old man, and he keeps me laughing. Those are important.

Age is just a number, but we both have such vastly different backgrounds that it's hard to determine if it's age or just frame of reference. Doesn't matter. We mesh quite nicely.

I met him when I was in my late 20s and he was over 35. At that time the age difference seemed greater, but today not nearly so much.
 

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I had a very serious relationship with a man 12 years my senior before I was married. It was wonderful but ultimately we ended wanting different things from life. I have always found that younger guys were never as mature as I wanted them to be, so for me it worked. My husband on the other hand is only 2 years older than I am and I never found him to be immature (guess that's why I married him :)) I think it depends on what you are looking for in a partner and what things you have in common. If you have nothing in common you have a bigger problem then an age difference. I also believe that it depends how old you are when you are in the relationship with an older partner. If I was with the man who was 12 years older when I was 18 there is no way it would have worked, but as we all age the difference seems to matter less.
Regardless of age, if it is not a fling, for me there has to be a connection. I want someone who's company I enjoy and with whom I look forward to sharing experiences and adventures with. Younger, older or the same age, no connection and chemistry, no relationship. It mostly depends on the two people involved.
 

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Older men can be so sexy. Especially when they treat me like a little girl. Or the composed aura they give off. Young men don't have it!
 

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So taking you to the playground and buying you ice cream afterwards is your idea of a perfect date?

That made me lol

To answer the original question, I never have but the whole situation would really have to be just right.