Str8cfcuk has brought up an excellent point in his most recent thread.
This is actually something which I have been pondering, posting for about a month now. But to tell the truth I felt kinda silly mentioning it. :redface:
As most of you know I am from New Jersey, however I moved to Georgia 5.5 months ago. My problem is that I dont understand the hetero flirting/dating rules here. I hate to sound like a stereotype but in the New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania areas people tend to move more quickly, we are sometimes even grumpy or perhaps cranky is a better word. Back home we dont smile at strangers or start conversations with them unless we are bitching and kvetching about the lines not moving at DMV or the idiot with 20 items in his cart on the 12 items or less lane in front of us at Pathmark. So, assuming one is not at a club or bar but at Home Depot or the Cingular store its easy to tell if a guy is interested in you because he stops scowling long enough to smile or give an appraising glance. He may even approach you to chat. Yes, I once picked up a guy in the Cingular phone store in NJ.
In the Atlanta metro area people are almost eerily nice and chatty all the time, everywhere I go! I have no idea how to tell if a man is being just southern polite or perhaps showing interest? Seriously, everybody down here smiles and is chatty to everyone all the time!
I have an additional flirting/dating issue: though I am a black woman I have a predilection for white men. I have seen many inter-racial couples so I know its not impossible. They cant all have moved here from above the Mason-Dixon Line. However, racism is as alive here as it is in New Jersey. The thing is, in NJ the rednecks stick out more; its obvious who to avoid back home. :tongue: I am truly fearful of misreading a guy and ending up beaten up and dead in a ditch because I thought Billy Joe was flirting when in fact he was a racist redneck who smiled out of habit because hes a Southerner. :frown1:
Two Questions:
1) How can I tell when a Southern man is interested in me and not just being polite?
2) When you are new to an area how do you figure out the dating decorum?
If I dont get some big white boy cock soon, Im gonna have to do a road trip back to the Garden State and hit up one of my guido guys!
njqt466
*SNIP*After I moved to Canada and couldnt figure out the way people operate here from 1994 to 2002 inclusive making a total of nine years with no sex at all not even a kiss and it wasnt because I wasnt looking ... so how about for you guys (and girls)?
This is actually something which I have been pondering, posting for about a month now. But to tell the truth I felt kinda silly mentioning it. :redface:
As most of you know I am from New Jersey, however I moved to Georgia 5.5 months ago. My problem is that I dont understand the hetero flirting/dating rules here. I hate to sound like a stereotype but in the New York, New Jersey, Pennsylvania areas people tend to move more quickly, we are sometimes even grumpy or perhaps cranky is a better word. Back home we dont smile at strangers or start conversations with them unless we are bitching and kvetching about the lines not moving at DMV or the idiot with 20 items in his cart on the 12 items or less lane in front of us at Pathmark. So, assuming one is not at a club or bar but at Home Depot or the Cingular store its easy to tell if a guy is interested in you because he stops scowling long enough to smile or give an appraising glance. He may even approach you to chat. Yes, I once picked up a guy in the Cingular phone store in NJ.
In the Atlanta metro area people are almost eerily nice and chatty all the time, everywhere I go! I have no idea how to tell if a man is being just southern polite or perhaps showing interest? Seriously, everybody down here smiles and is chatty to everyone all the time!
I have an additional flirting/dating issue: though I am a black woman I have a predilection for white men. I have seen many inter-racial couples so I know its not impossible. They cant all have moved here from above the Mason-Dixon Line. However, racism is as alive here as it is in New Jersey. The thing is, in NJ the rednecks stick out more; its obvious who to avoid back home. :tongue: I am truly fearful of misreading a guy and ending up beaten up and dead in a ditch because I thought Billy Joe was flirting when in fact he was a racist redneck who smiled out of habit because hes a Southerner. :frown1:
Two Questions:
1) How can I tell when a Southern man is interested in me and not just being polite?
2) When you are new to an area how do you figure out the dating decorum?
If I dont get some big white boy cock soon, Im gonna have to do a road trip back to the Garden State and hit up one of my guido guys!
njqt466