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OK, here goes...
After much flirting and shy, inexperienced attempts at being attractive, I've kinda met someone on the net who has asked me out for coffee.
Progress it seems, after thirty something odd years, lol.
Thing is... I've never really ever dated and I simply don't know what to do.
I have a respectable set of social skills I hope but the fact this is a date makes the situation entirely different somehow, I'm so embarrassed about my inexperience and ignorance, I don't know what to do.
He's a lovely sounding guy, the physical type I find attractive, we've never met but chatted online and text each other. I believe he is who he says he is. Believe me, chatting and texting a man is a quantum leap forward from where I began, lol. But meeting a man, in public... is a big step.
Do you remember how you felt on your first date?
I hid a lot of confusion in my teens, so when other guys were dating and experimenting, I never did. Then I spent so long grieving over the realisation that I was gay that it's only about now I think I might be able to have a go.
My biggest fear, is if all goes well, and if I go and he doesn't think I'm a twat and I don't think he's a twat, then what? I'd be almost completely reliant on an attractive stranger to guide me... that requires a massive amount of both faith and trust.
To top it off... I don't know how to kiss... I'm kinda shy, and not a touchy feely person, if it leads to kissing, what if I don't even like it? How do I say, by the way, can you teach me what to do, I understand the principle but not the mechanics, lol.
There are so many things spinning around in my head... I don't know what to do.
This sounds so silly now I'm reading this but if anyone has any advice, if anything here sounds familiar to any one, I could really use some advice...
...please.
Cheers,
Pup, x.
After much flirting and shy, inexperienced attempts at being attractive, I've kinda met someone on the net who has asked me out for coffee.
Progress it seems, after thirty something odd years, lol.
Thing is... I've never really ever dated and I simply don't know what to do.
I have a respectable set of social skills I hope but the fact this is a date makes the situation entirely different somehow, I'm so embarrassed about my inexperience and ignorance, I don't know what to do.
He's a lovely sounding guy, the physical type I find attractive, we've never met but chatted online and text each other. I believe he is who he says he is. Believe me, chatting and texting a man is a quantum leap forward from where I began, lol. But meeting a man, in public... is a big step.
Do you remember how you felt on your first date?
I hid a lot of confusion in my teens, so when other guys were dating and experimenting, I never did. Then I spent so long grieving over the realisation that I was gay that it's only about now I think I might be able to have a go.
My biggest fear, is if all goes well, and if I go and he doesn't think I'm a twat and I don't think he's a twat, then what? I'd be almost completely reliant on an attractive stranger to guide me... that requires a massive amount of both faith and trust.
To top it off... I don't know how to kiss... I'm kinda shy, and not a touchy feely person, if it leads to kissing, what if I don't even like it? How do I say, by the way, can you teach me what to do, I understand the principle but not the mechanics, lol.
There are so many things spinning around in my head... I don't know what to do.
This sounds so silly now I'm reading this but if anyone has any advice, if anything here sounds familiar to any one, I could really use some advice...
...please.
Cheers,
Pup, x.