Dating fears?

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I think this is where my tendencies for rough play, aggression and dominance come into the equation...
It's male intimacy without vulnerability. I worry how I can change this in myself.

Are those tendencies removing the vulnerability or is that just what you like? Meaning to say, if you had no sense of vulnerability, and acted solely on how you wanted to be intimate, would it still be aggressive or dominant? Once you know for sure (by trying it out) you'll know whether its something you really want to change or not.
 

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If you want a second date with him, (the pizza etc. that you said above) why leave it to him? Ask him if he's like to do exactly as you said say Saturday night at whatever, even if on a text message. If he doesn't answer it, or answers it negatively, at least you know where you stand. If he accepts, go out and have fun. Second dates are less uncomfortable because the "first time seeing and hearing him" jitters are gone. You semi already know what to expect and can let down your defenses and he would hopefully let down his so both of you can be yourselves and see if the potential is there to keep it alive or not! Wishing you luck!! Grow a set, ask HIM OUT!!
 

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