In the past year or so there have been numerous threads relating to depression, anxiety, and mental illness in general. Sometimes people discuss the effect their illness has had on marriages and dating relationships. I have a few questions about this, as I am living with depression and anxiety myself. Frankly, I am amazed so many mentally ill people are married, let alone happily married. How do you do it? Did you meet them before you were diagnosed with depression or what ever your illness is? Were you in a manic phase while you were dating, so they just thought you were spontaneous and fun? Did you tell them right off the bat and they just didn't care? When do you reveal to a new guy/gal that you are being treated for depression and are taking meds & going to therapy? Do you just not tell them? Is that ethical? Is it ever right to not tell the person with whom you are having sex that you are being treated for depression? How does your significant other handle your manic or depressed episodes when they occur? How does one go about meeting the type of people who are intelligent enough to not be scared off by your diagnosis and strong enough to help you through the rough spots?