Alright, so this is directed to all you bisexual men out there.
As a gay man, I've had the strange circumstance of being involved or attracting a much higher percentage of bisexual men than I have gay men. I say strange because bisexual men have always seemed to be less of a common sexuality as men got older. Maybe its because of the stigma, but I found that men typically are forced to choose a side at some point or another. However, I've NEVER been in a relationship with a gay man, I honestly don't have a clue why that is but its the reality of my dating situation. Now, I have really only been in one romance with a man (2 years) and had a casual sex relationship with another (about 2 years.)
I have been on or dated several men who identified as bisexual. (About 10 or so men.)
Typically it's been a non-issue for me...considering the fact that gay men don't pay much attention to me. Romantically I've been with one other man who was gay but it was more of an online fling that wasn't destined to be anything other than two guys getting to know each other and then moving on with their lives.
Recently, I went on a date with a guy I met on Grindr, who I presumed to be gay. While we were grabbing drinks he mentions the fact that he's bisexual. After asking a few questions about it he explained that understanding his sexuality was a situation of coming to terms with his attraction to men, but still wondering what it would be like with a woman. He then tried to comfort me by explaining that he was more attracted to men than he is women...which by my lack of knowledge of his past aside from him living with a woman for a few months is mere conjecture.
ANYWAY HERE IS THE QUESTION:
Do you ever enter a relationship with either sex and miss the behaviors of the other? (The first guy I dated left me for a woman...which dare I say has led to a bit of insecurity on my part.)
If bisexual men are attracted to both sexes...how should gay men or straight women approach the understanding of that sexuality? I cannot speak for everyone but I am sure this is something that has come up before.
In other words....If I get serious with this guy, is he gonna get bored of a man and decide he wants a woman to fulfill him? The sexes are two very different things--is it a matter of taste, the individual, or is it a predetermined understanding? I.e. I've met many bisexual men who only have sex with men, but in their minds they see themselves in a committed relationship with a woman.
And I honestly do not mean to offend anyone with this question, I have the best of intentions and if I have said something off-color please understand that I mean no harm.
Thank you for reading all this!
As a gay man, I've had the strange circumstance of being involved or attracting a much higher percentage of bisexual men than I have gay men. I say strange because bisexual men have always seemed to be less of a common sexuality as men got older. Maybe its because of the stigma, but I found that men typically are forced to choose a side at some point or another. However, I've NEVER been in a relationship with a gay man, I honestly don't have a clue why that is but its the reality of my dating situation. Now, I have really only been in one romance with a man (2 years) and had a casual sex relationship with another (about 2 years.)
I have been on or dated several men who identified as bisexual. (About 10 or so men.)
Typically it's been a non-issue for me...considering the fact that gay men don't pay much attention to me. Romantically I've been with one other man who was gay but it was more of an online fling that wasn't destined to be anything other than two guys getting to know each other and then moving on with their lives.
Recently, I went on a date with a guy I met on Grindr, who I presumed to be gay. While we were grabbing drinks he mentions the fact that he's bisexual. After asking a few questions about it he explained that understanding his sexuality was a situation of coming to terms with his attraction to men, but still wondering what it would be like with a woman. He then tried to comfort me by explaining that he was more attracted to men than he is women...which by my lack of knowledge of his past aside from him living with a woman for a few months is mere conjecture.
ANYWAY HERE IS THE QUESTION:
Do you ever enter a relationship with either sex and miss the behaviors of the other? (The first guy I dated left me for a woman...which dare I say has led to a bit of insecurity on my part.)
If bisexual men are attracted to both sexes...how should gay men or straight women approach the understanding of that sexuality? I cannot speak for everyone but I am sure this is something that has come up before.
In other words....If I get serious with this guy, is he gonna get bored of a man and decide he wants a woman to fulfill him? The sexes are two very different things--is it a matter of taste, the individual, or is it a predetermined understanding? I.e. I've met many bisexual men who only have sex with men, but in their minds they see themselves in a committed relationship with a woman.
And I honestly do not mean to offend anyone with this question, I have the best of intentions and if I have said something off-color please understand that I mean no harm.
Thank you for reading all this!
