Dating the Friend with Benefits?

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Have any of you ended up dating or having a true relationship with one of your fuck buddies?
With me, I had a fuck buddy for about 6 months, but we stopped seeing each other because I started dating a girl and I am 100% against cheating on anyone I am having a true relationship with. So that went on for about 4 months of not seeing each other...but now that I am single and we have started seeing each other again, he got the courage to tell me that he secretly liked me way more than a fuck buddy and wants to go on a date and maybe start something.
So have any of you dated your friend with benefits and it went well? :rolleyes:
 

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I would grant that it is possible that fuck buddies eventually become friends who are more than friends. I would suggest that the healthier way is to find someone who becomes a friend without there being any expectation that the friendship will become so binding that one could only call it love. The sex that happens between two persons who have bonded to the point where they both need the sex to confirm the bond is in a different class; such sex is fantastic and transformative. Such persons find themselves fully content in a long term relationship.

Yes, fuck buddies do sometimes become committed partners, just don't count on that to happen.
 
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i ended up dating a fuck buddy. At first it was about the sex, that's it, but the more sex we had, the more time we spent together and it turned into a 2 year relationship by default i guess. I ended up ending it with her because she wasn't someone i wanted to have an actual relationship with. So that ended the whole thing - no more sex with her.
 

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i ended up dating a fuck buddy. At first it was about the sex, that's it, but the more sex we had, the more time we spent together and it turned into a 2 year relationship by default i guess. I ended up ending it with her because she wasn't someone i wanted to have an actual relationship with. So that ended the whole thing - no more sex with her.

Same thing happened to me, but for the breaking up bit. Still seeing one another after 2.5 years. We met through work, mutual flirtation, she invited me to a club and made me an offer I couldn't refuse.
 

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Have any of you ended up dating or having a true relationship with one of your fuck buddies?
With me, I had a fuck buddy for about 6 months, but we stopped seeing each other because I started dating a girl and I am 100% against cheating on anyone I am having a true relationship with. So that went on for about 4 months of not seeing each other...but now that I am single and we have started seeing each other again, he got the courage to tell me that he secretly liked me way more than a fuck buddy and wants to go on a date and maybe start something.
So have any of you dated your friend with benefits and it went well? :rolleyes:

Well, what do you think about going from being in a relationship with a girl to being in a relationship with a guy, Mr. 70-30?