My new favorite show which I TiVo is Millionaire Matchmaker. Yes, there are at least 5 other cheesey, dating, reality shows on; but this one is different. It's good. :smile: This dating agency caters to male millionaires who want to be married. It is based in California.
Some of her tips are obviously directed at people with a large disposable income, such as HazelGod, Uncut; and Drifterwood. For the most part what she expects of her male clientele is within the realms of common sense and courtesy.
1 ) Thou shalt think quality, not quantity! It is best to take your time and focus on finding the right women for you, not on dating as many hotties as you possibly can. Your membership will be much more valuable to you if you use it to find your life partner, rather than to facilitate rabid serial dating. Word about that will spread, and women will not want to date you.
2 ) Thou shalt call a lady within 48 hours on a weekday or 72 hours on a weekend or holiday once you get her number. The sooner, the better, as she'll be expecting your call. If you don't connect on the first try, be sure to leave her one or more telephone numbers at which she can reach you. If you don't hear back from her within 48 hours on a week day, or 72 hours on a weekend. Never ask a woman out on a first date via e-mail. Remember women are auditory and fall in love through their ears. A woman will bond with you more quickly if she can hear your voice.
3 ) Thou shalt not call a lady after 10:00 p.m., her time. Until you have spoken a few times, met, and established some sort of rapport, calling too late at the beginning of a potential relationship is presumptuous and rude.
4 ) Thou shalt leave a maximum of two phone messages for a woman.
If she doesn't call you back within 48 hours on a weekday or 72 hours on a weekend or holiday, she's not interested. Don't take it personally; just move on. If you're curious, you can contact MC via email and MC will discreetly find out what happened and report back. But always remember: There are a lot more yachts in the marina.
5 ) Thou shalt make appropriate arrangements, and not ask a woman out at the last minute Make the first date at least a week in advance, then call her on the morning of the date before 12 noon to confirm. Feel free to call every few days before that, however, just to let her know you're thinking about her and are excited about your date. Women love to fantasize about their date and about what they're going to wear. They make appointments to get their hair and nails done. If you ask them out at the last minute, you've taken away the joy of anticipation for the woman. Women generally make their plans from Monday through Wednesday for the following weekend, so if you call on Thursday or later to ask her out for the weekend, understand that she has probably already made plans and will not be available, except perhaps, for brunch. You also might get a Monday night date which means you are on her low priority list simply because you did not ask her out in advance. For your first date you must always ask to pick her up for dinner and take her to a five star restaurant. Because you might be dating a younger woman than yourself you are expected to teach her the finer things that life has to offer. Don't be offended if she suggests lunch, brunch, drinks or coffee instead of dinner for the first date (only she can suggest this for the first date, however, you must always offer her a 5 star dinner) after all; she hasn't met you yet and doesn't know how wonderful you are.
6 ) Thou shalt always have a plan for your date. Women prefer men who have direction. When you make your initial phone call, try to develop rapport with the woman and gather information about her likes and dislikes. Conversations should always be a tennis match of back and forth. Do not interrogate your potential date about her physical looks or age on the phone or in person If you want to make a great first impression, suggest her favorite restaurant or a restaurant she has always wanted to try. Never show up with the question What do you want to do? This shows that you do not cherish her feelings, and that she is not a priority in your life. Make a reservation at a five-star restaurant (remember: youre a millionaire, and shell be expecting the best). If necessary, also make the appropriate transportation arrangements. Always go to her side of town either pick her up, send a car for her, or drive/fly into her city. You must go to her, for the following reasons: 1) The woman needs to feel safe in her own environment. 2) If you fly her in on a first date and neither of you feel chemistry, most likely you will be stuck with an unwelcome guest for the weekend. If, after the first date you both feel chemistry and you would like her to visit you, you can fly her in but you must put her up at a five-star hotel with her own room. Finally, plan to pay for her valet parking if you have arrived in separate cars, or pay for her taxi. If you are invited with another couple to dinner, be prepared to pick up the entire check. You will come off looking like a prince to your date and her friends.
7 ) Thou shalt focus on your date and keep the conversation appropriate. Start the date with a heartfelt compliment on her appearance, such as You look really beautiful tonight! Look into her eyes with a smile -- eye contact is extremely important, and then lead the discussion into areas of common interest --- travel, sports, work, arts, etc. Try to stay on relatively neutral subjects at the outset. Please turn your cell phone off at all times unless you are a doctor on call or you have children that may need to get in touch with you in case of an emergency. If you are waiting on an important call that needs your utmost attention please put your phone on vibrate, let your date know what is going on and then excuse yourself for a short period of time to take the call. If you answer the phone during the course of the meal you will come off as a rude and callous man who is only interested in himself. DO NOT pay attention to other women, or keep looking at the door for the latest attraction. If she sees you behave like this, no matter how good looking, wealthy, and smart you are, she will not want to see you again. Also, do not ask her why she is still single or hasn't yet found a husband. This is an extremely awkward question, and is a quick turnoff to most women. Please remember that emotionally healthy women fall in love with men that fall in love with them.
Some of her tips are obviously directed at people with a large disposable income, such as HazelGod, Uncut; and Drifterwood. For the most part what she expects of her male clientele is within the realms of common sense and courtesy.
Patti's 15 Commandments
for Dating ~ for Men
for Dating ~ for Men
1 ) Thou shalt think quality, not quantity! It is best to take your time and focus on finding the right women for you, not on dating as many hotties as you possibly can. Your membership will be much more valuable to you if you use it to find your life partner, rather than to facilitate rabid serial dating. Word about that will spread, and women will not want to date you.
2 ) Thou shalt call a lady within 48 hours on a weekday or 72 hours on a weekend or holiday once you get her number. The sooner, the better, as she'll be expecting your call. If you don't connect on the first try, be sure to leave her one or more telephone numbers at which she can reach you. If you don't hear back from her within 48 hours on a week day, or 72 hours on a weekend. Never ask a woman out on a first date via e-mail. Remember women are auditory and fall in love through their ears. A woman will bond with you more quickly if she can hear your voice.
3 ) Thou shalt not call a lady after 10:00 p.m., her time. Until you have spoken a few times, met, and established some sort of rapport, calling too late at the beginning of a potential relationship is presumptuous and rude.
4 ) Thou shalt leave a maximum of two phone messages for a woman.
If she doesn't call you back within 48 hours on a weekday or 72 hours on a weekend or holiday, she's not interested. Don't take it personally; just move on. If you're curious, you can contact MC via email and MC will discreetly find out what happened and report back. But always remember: There are a lot more yachts in the marina.
5 ) Thou shalt make appropriate arrangements, and not ask a woman out at the last minute Make the first date at least a week in advance, then call her on the morning of the date before 12 noon to confirm. Feel free to call every few days before that, however, just to let her know you're thinking about her and are excited about your date. Women love to fantasize about their date and about what they're going to wear. They make appointments to get their hair and nails done. If you ask them out at the last minute, you've taken away the joy of anticipation for the woman. Women generally make their plans from Monday through Wednesday for the following weekend, so if you call on Thursday or later to ask her out for the weekend, understand that she has probably already made plans and will not be available, except perhaps, for brunch. You also might get a Monday night date which means you are on her low priority list simply because you did not ask her out in advance. For your first date you must always ask to pick her up for dinner and take her to a five star restaurant. Because you might be dating a younger woman than yourself you are expected to teach her the finer things that life has to offer. Don't be offended if she suggests lunch, brunch, drinks or coffee instead of dinner for the first date (only she can suggest this for the first date, however, you must always offer her a 5 star dinner) after all; she hasn't met you yet and doesn't know how wonderful you are.
6 ) Thou shalt always have a plan for your date. Women prefer men who have direction. When you make your initial phone call, try to develop rapport with the woman and gather information about her likes and dislikes. Conversations should always be a tennis match of back and forth. Do not interrogate your potential date about her physical looks or age on the phone or in person If you want to make a great first impression, suggest her favorite restaurant or a restaurant she has always wanted to try. Never show up with the question What do you want to do? This shows that you do not cherish her feelings, and that she is not a priority in your life. Make a reservation at a five-star restaurant (remember: youre a millionaire, and shell be expecting the best). If necessary, also make the appropriate transportation arrangements. Always go to her side of town either pick her up, send a car for her, or drive/fly into her city. You must go to her, for the following reasons: 1) The woman needs to feel safe in her own environment. 2) If you fly her in on a first date and neither of you feel chemistry, most likely you will be stuck with an unwelcome guest for the weekend. If, after the first date you both feel chemistry and you would like her to visit you, you can fly her in but you must put her up at a five-star hotel with her own room. Finally, plan to pay for her valet parking if you have arrived in separate cars, or pay for her taxi. If you are invited with another couple to dinner, be prepared to pick up the entire check. You will come off looking like a prince to your date and her friends.
7 ) Thou shalt focus on your date and keep the conversation appropriate. Start the date with a heartfelt compliment on her appearance, such as You look really beautiful tonight! Look into her eyes with a smile -- eye contact is extremely important, and then lead the discussion into areas of common interest --- travel, sports, work, arts, etc. Try to stay on relatively neutral subjects at the outset. Please turn your cell phone off at all times unless you are a doctor on call or you have children that may need to get in touch with you in case of an emergency. If you are waiting on an important call that needs your utmost attention please put your phone on vibrate, let your date know what is going on and then excuse yourself for a short period of time to take the call. If you answer the phone during the course of the meal you will come off as a rude and callous man who is only interested in himself. DO NOT pay attention to other women, or keep looking at the door for the latest attraction. If she sees you behave like this, no matter how good looking, wealthy, and smart you are, she will not want to see you again. Also, do not ask her why she is still single or hasn't yet found a husband. This is an extremely awkward question, and is a quick turnoff to most women. Please remember that emotionally healthy women fall in love with men that fall in love with them.
