DD and Over . . .

[D_Ginger_Vitas]

it's not your tits that are freakish, it's the imbeciles who are looking at them.

this is what i say to my teenager when she gets any body comments: would you pass comment on someone else's body that way? no. why? because it's an arsehole thing to do. ergo, these people are arseholes. and do we care what arseholes think? no.

if i guy looks at your boobs instead of your face, walk away.

Exactly, honestly there are good men still out there. If a guy is going to devalue you like that, say fuck him and move on.

 

[Guy-jin]

Boobs rock regardless of size.

Well said.

 

[justacynic]

I understand that, but I don't know . . . I'm young (19) and have these large tits on me and it just makes me feel . . . . wierd?

I get that "they're just tits", but still. I've had a few guys say to me that they think my tits are "freakish" and itjust puts me down so much. I would never have surgery on them, but even so. And before you go and say "ignore them", I've tried.

Hell, the other times, guys think that they're possesions that they could "own" and use. And that hurt almost as much that all they saw was my tits.

I don't feel like having sex most of the time because I feel guys see "TITS" and not "ME".

Now, I am, admittedly, a "more is better" guy. So the following may be a bit skewed... ;-)

Your story matches experiences I've heard since college and beyond. Roughly, it goes something along the lines of growing up with a lot of consciousness and concern about body image while also not being comfortable with your body because it is changing so much and all the evaluations being made, both by males and females. Girls envy the shit out of your big breasts (which seems to be a lifelong thing LOL) and guys--particularly given that you are 19 and presumably seeing guys in the same age range--are inexperienced and uncouth and of course are mesmerized by big breasts. This is just a broad picture based on numerous conversations with female friends.

Depending on your frame, your tits may *not* be "just tits". Large breasts on a smaller frame are fairly rare and--at least in my opinion--visually stunning. So if you have a smaller frame, this simply adds to why guys will ogle. Note that guys will ogle DD breasts regardless of the frame, however. ;-)

Now the guys that have called your breasts "freakish"--it depends on the guy saying it. (And I am assuming from how your post is worded that we are talking about guys you have casually dated or something). If he is a jerk in other aspect of life, he might be saying it as a means of being controlling. If he is a dork, it may be an awkward compliment. I fall into the dorkish category and can easily picture myself 'complimenting' a well endowed girl back when I was 19 by remarking on her size being amazing, that they're just so huge, so freakishly enormous. Hell, I more or less did it at 26 when it actually happened (32F--USA size) so I *know* it would have happened at 19! lol

Now, the whole sex being about tits vs. you thing.....you are (likely) dealing with young boys/men that are still incredibly pumped about just having sex--and now they are having sex with a gal with a huge rack. :biggrin1:!!! It's fairly normal for them to be focused--at *least* the first 6-10 times unless you say something--on your tits. I would recommend that you *try* to be more open to this focus. After all, your breasts probably played a significant factor in attracting the guy to begin. But then you can exercise your voice to him about wanting his sexual attention elsewhere as well--oral, kissing, eye contact, whatever it is that floats your boat. And the sooner you voice preferences the better. If he can't shift focus, well, there's no excuse for inconsiderate sex and it may be time to tell him you aren't feeling it anymore so please leave. The harsh methods are sometimes the only ones that are heard.

just my 2 cents!

 

[AlteredEgo]

Wasn't there a point when this forum was not adult-only? I'm 21-years-old now, but I seem to remember reading discussions on here when I was under 18, before I joined. If I remember correctly, somebody decided to turn this website more into a club or a hangout, rather than an actual support group for people with neurotic self-images such as myself.

This is off-topic, and should have it's own thread, but I will humor you. When this site was started, it was a practical joke, amongst a small group of friends. People kept coming by and asking legitimate questions. Men with large penises and the women who were trying to fuck them needed help. It slowly became a community of bright people, debating issues with passion (and sometimes venom) and then laughing and flirting together with just as much enthusiasm. There were no moderators. If you were a fuck-up or a troll, they just did whatever was warranted to make you want to go away. More and more people found the place, and the support topics got broader. The debates more heated. The comedy got more hysterical; the fleshpiles got sexier. MisterMark and LPSG.org were featured on UK channel four, and the population exploded. People began to ask for moderators, MisterMark went into negotiations to sell. That's when I joined, and probably when you did too. Shortly after, Rob E bought the place. When you were 16, this site went adult only, right after I joined, before Rob E made his buy.

There was a lot of debate about whether or not to do it. The decision was made because of the nudity in the galleries and the links to and discussion of adult material. It was safer from a legal standpoint, if the site wanted to keep operating as it was, to ban minors. Minors can still access the forums, and see avatars. Unregistered guests, including minors, cannot access the chat room, galleries, post or contact the members.

And you have it backward. The site was a hangout originally. It became a support group.

Next time, start your own topic.

 

[dolfette]

ooooo! like watching very spiky ballet.

 

[justacynic]

This is off-topic, and should have it's own thread, but I will humor you. When this site was started, it was a practical joke, amongst a small group of friends. People kept coming by and asking legitimate questions. Men with large penises and the women who were trying to fuck them needed help. It slowly became a community of bright people, debating issues with passion (and sometimes venom) and then laughing and flirting together with just as much enthusiasm. There were no moderators. If you were a fuck-up or a troll, they just did whatever was warranted to make you want to go away. More and more people found the place, and the support topics got broader. The debates more heated. The comedy got more hysterical; the fleshpiles got sexier. MisterMark and LPSG.org were featured on UK channel four, and the population exploded. People began to ask for moderators, MisterMark went into negotiations to sell. That's when I joined, and probably when you did too. Shortly after, Rob E bought the place. When you were 16, this site went adult only, right after I joined, before Rob E made his buy.

There was a lot of debate about whether or not to do it. The decision was made because of the nudity in the galleries and the links to and discussion of adult material. It was safer from a legal standpoint, if the site wanted to keep operating as it was, to ban minors. Minors can still access the forums, and see avatars. Unregistered guests, including minors, cannot access the chat room, galleries, post or contact the members.

And you have it backward. The site was a hangout originally. It became a support group.

Next time, start your own topic.

Well, I appreciate the info if he does not.

 

[B_TooHard]

I'm one of the rare men who appreciate truly large breasts. I favourite size is G cup and over and have a breast expansion fetish become there is nothing more sexy than seeing breasts grow larger and larger. I've never seen a pair of breasts on a slim/chubby woman that I've seen that's too big and this is coming from a guy who adores J cup breasts.

I do understand the negativity that comes from have big breasts though but for those who hate having large breasts I think large breasts are extremely beautiful as well as incredibly arousing. Large breasts are like viagra to me.

 

[D_Kidney Loggins]

My GF is GG and i love them

 

[EllieP]

Hubby and I have been having a continuing conversation since I responded on this thread. We watched that documentary together, and it brought up some interesting points: especially, if it were possible for them to feel smaller and look the same size would I take that option. Very interesting. I know they attract attention, but that's the hand I was dealt. They're me. That's who I am. I wouldn't want to be without the girls, but I do wish they were smaller.

My sister is barely a B cup. Mum is a G. Sis is jealous of us both and wonders what life would be like with bigger boobs. Mum and I tell her to be very happy with what she has, and that her life is good. But we know when we enter a room full of strangers which one of us they'll turn their heads to follow across the room. She always whispers "See!"

I used to be self-conscious in my early 20s. I'm not anymore.

Still I'd like them smaller. Maybe I can find clothes that fit, especially a bra that doesn't have extra engineering to make my shoulders feel better.

I don't think I'll have to worry about being small, but smaller would be nice.

 

[docilej]

I'm firmly in the "bigger is better" camp. My girl is a 42H and looks amazing in dresses. She's well aware of her "abundance", and is proud as hell of her dimensions. If money was no object she'd have surgery to be even bigger. Be proud with what nature gave you. Don't let the "haters" get you down. And I highly recommend Balconette and Cacique bras (Lane Bryant).

 

[TheRob]

it's not your tits that are freakish, it's the imbeciles who are looking at them.

this is what i say to my teenager when she gets any body comments: would you pass comment on someone else's body that way? no. why? because it's an arsehole thing to do. ergo, these people are arseholes. and do we care what arseholes think? no.

if i guy looks at your boobs instead of your face, walk away.

I'm with you until the last part
it's impossible not to glance at some women I'm not talking about staring but a glance is just not possible to avoid sometimes!
I love that you use ergo...

 

[TheRob]

I agree about the whole "clothing" thing. But with me, I do like to give a little show. I remember when I was in school, I used to wear my buttons 3 undone (I always had a tank top under though just in case), and that wasn't because I wanted to show them heaps, but because the button just would NOT do up . . .

I do get all my bra's custom made though. It's hella expensive but VERY worth it if you go to the right people and with me who works on my feet all day walking aroud, I'm very happy for the support.

I"m sure we would all love a little show
to be honest the problem isn't that you have big boobs it's that you are 19
no one is really comfortable with thier body when they are that young

 

[dolfette]

i said instead of, not as well as.
some guys never get as far as eye contact.

 

[TheRob]

I dont think anyone can understand how you feel unless they've walked a mile in your shoes which I have. I had the biggest breasts in my graduating class (and on a slim frame) and I really hated it. I hope this won't illicit a speech about body pride and all that bullshit. If you're young girl you simply do not feel comfortable having big boobs out there for any man, woman or child to see. For those who love their big boobs..bravo. More power to you!
I personally would give anything to be a comfortable B or small C. I wouldn't go as far as having surgery at this point, but if I had a magic wand, yes they would disappear.
I know that violates everything men believe about the magical powers of large breasts, but like I said until you've walked a mile in someone's shoes you can never really know.
As much as I appreciate the guys who say big boobs are lovely and how we should be proud, and all that...I really do not give a rat's ass what any man or anyone for that matter thinks.
I know what is comfortable for me, and I truly feel like having very large breasts is a daily burden I could do without. It's hard to find clothes that fit on top, it's terribly uncomfortable in humid hot weather (the squish), bras are very uncomfortable, it sucks at the gym (jogging) and sometimes I honestly just don't want that attention.
It would be nice if I could have them when I chose; when I'm going out at night, or having sex. But that's it. I try to just deal with it day to day and try not to be too negative about them, but honestly I really wish they were much smaller. To me, that would mean freedom.

walking a mile in someones shoes applies equally to you tho
it's nice that you THINK you'd be happier as a B cup but you don't know that for sure, just like other people don't nkow for sure that your happier stacked

anyway one unarguable point, you can't enjoy showing off your big rack and then complain when people pay attention to it...that's just stupid
that last part wasn't directed at you Seaside more the o.poster
"Oh I love showing my huge rack off...but then guys look at them, boohoo boohoo..."

 

[TheRob]

Well, I'm a DDD/E or an F depending on the bra brand and I never used to like my breasts until I joined LPSG. It's not that I found them physically uncomfortable, but buying bras was a hassle and I look heavier because my shirts are always so a few sizes larger than my hip size. The men I dated always said my breasts were too big. I seriously thought about getting reduction surgery.

Joining LPSG changed my mind. I got so many positive comments, that I decided not to go under the knife. I stand a little straighter and have discovered there are going to be men who will like both me AND my breasts.

and here I thought I was being a terrible person, who knew I was helping do good work!

 

[dolfette]

no one is really comfortable with their body when they are that young

so frickin' true!

it's a real relief when you grow into your skin.
the weight of all that angst is so suffocating.

 

[Intrigue]

^Word.

I am completely different now than I was ten years ago comfort wise. I much more comfortable in the skin I have. School, magazines, peers all put a level of angst on some that is just intolerable.

 

[D_Elvetta Boombooms]

it's impossible not to glance at some women I'm not talking about staring but a glance is just not possible to avoid sometimes!

I think she said somewhere that the face-glance boobs-back to face was an OK thing to do! I have a problem with the people who will start talking to me and not outright stare at my boobs, but I can tell they are just putting in enough face time to look like they aren't.

I work at a retail store for men and women, and learned the worst people were the ones who would put you in a situation where you had to help them, but only so they could look down my shirt, make me do something awkward, or get close enough to brush up against me. I say thats the worst b/c they're trying to appear like they need help, and I am just trying to do my job, but they take advantage of that.

Women can be just as bad as guys when it comes to putting you through the wringer, or saying hurtful things tho.

 

[Intrigue]

and here I thought I was being a terrible person, who knew I was helping do good work!

Lol why terrible? I noticed her profile and commented. Nothing wrong. Especially with some of the self esteem issues. She was hurt, needed some good ole intorwebz hugz and we all obliged! Shoot, she even gave me a great idea for a corset for my wife!

 

[TheRob]

i said instead of, not as well as.
some guys never get as far as eye contact.

ok yah that's bad
but some women are the same way...