My boyfriend is exactly the same way. He's nearly 40 and has been like this his whole life so it's not going away. Some of his ex-girlfriends were critical but it hasn't been a problem for us, just something to work with it. The main thing that helped is that I started doing kegels when we first started dating and now have extremely fast orgasms (it used to take upwards of 20 minutes of intense sex and lots of stimulation for me to get anywhere close). Now I usually come when he does, within a minute or two of penetration. I never thought that was possible for me. He also lets me control the movements when he's inside of me, whether I'm on top or the bottom. I tend to get him in really deep and then make small, controlled movements with my hips, not grinding too hard or moving too much since that would make him come almost instantly. The result is really explosive orgasms for both of us, usually simultaneously.
I'm not one for creams or condoms or anything that artificially makes a guy last longer because it reduces the overall sensation for him and that's a turn off for me. For a few months last year my boyfriend was on an anti-depressant (for other reasons) and could last a long time, but our sex life was awful during that time. He thought it was great that he could last so long but I had a very hard time having an orgasm at all because I knew sex didn't feel as good to him. SSRIs are sometimes prescribed to treat premature ejaculation, but I was relieved when he switched meds to one that doesn't interfere with sex.
Generally I don't think premature ejaculation is very well understood. The "tricks" that work for most guys to delay ejaculating just don't work with guys who are built this way. We can have sex multiple times in a short time span and it really doesn't delay his coming by more than 1-3 minutes with each subsequent session. But, my body seems to have happily acclimated. I've never had so many orgasms with anyone else in my life. And it doesn't hurt that he's learned to compensate over the years by becoming an oral sex god
. I'm a very happy camper.