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so this maybe the stupidest question but i have to ask. How does someone deal with a broken heart?
Long story short, My boyfriend and I broke up officially from a 2 year on-&-off relationship about 3 months ago. It was more so my decision to break up because our relationship was volatile, even getting to the point of violence at one point. There was betrayal on both ends (physical and mental). But he remained adamant that he was completely in love with me and wanted to get married with me one day and have children with me. He knew I was his one and only, but I never knew. I always questioned it when he told me that and I never fully felt the same. A month passed without us talking and I decided that if we could both work with each other, and learn to communicate better, we could make it work. Only to find that he had moved on to another guy that "makes him happier than he has ever been".
So I talk to him and he decides that he wants to date both of us to see what he liked better. I chose not to go down this route, I couldn't knowing that he was going to sleep with someone else. He tells me that he needs me in his life and that he can't live without me (as a friend), despite him dating someone else. I tell him I can't be friends right now because I still have feelings. Now when he sees me, he won't even look or acknowledge me. He instead has an angry face and makes sure everyone knows it.
And here I am. I try to move on, but I can't. I try to do stuff with other guys to suppress the pain, but I can't. I'm not the type to hookup. I want to be in a relationship, not with my ex because i know how bad it will be, but a relationship with someone new. But I have no idea if I am ready. I end up sitting alone, hurting and not knowing how to deal with it.
Advice? Please? Anything other than time?
Long story short, My boyfriend and I broke up officially from a 2 year on-&-off relationship about 3 months ago. It was more so my decision to break up because our relationship was volatile, even getting to the point of violence at one point. There was betrayal on both ends (physical and mental). But he remained adamant that he was completely in love with me and wanted to get married with me one day and have children with me. He knew I was his one and only, but I never knew. I always questioned it when he told me that and I never fully felt the same. A month passed without us talking and I decided that if we could both work with each other, and learn to communicate better, we could make it work. Only to find that he had moved on to another guy that "makes him happier than he has ever been".
So I talk to him and he decides that he wants to date both of us to see what he liked better. I chose not to go down this route, I couldn't knowing that he was going to sleep with someone else. He tells me that he needs me in his life and that he can't live without me (as a friend), despite him dating someone else. I tell him I can't be friends right now because I still have feelings. Now when he sees me, he won't even look or acknowledge me. He instead has an angry face and makes sure everyone knows it.
And here I am. I try to move on, but I can't. I try to do stuff with other guys to suppress the pain, but I can't. I'm not the type to hookup. I want to be in a relationship, not with my ex because i know how bad it will be, but a relationship with someone new. But I have no idea if I am ready. I end up sitting alone, hurting and not knowing how to deal with it.
Advice? Please? Anything other than time?