Dealing with a small(ish) dick...

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To be honest, I am jealous of anyone with a big dick.

My dick is not tiny, it's about 6inchs and I am 5"7". It could be worse (micropenises), but still, sometimes I just feel shit about it.

Logically I know that caring about it is stupid. Big or small it's 100% out of your control. If it were a choice, everone would be huge. It has zero reflection on your value as a person. Being proud or ashamed of your dick is like being proud or ashamed of your elbow width or natural hair colour.

But still, intellectual reason doesn't stop feeling jealousy.

I just saw on Xvideos Michael Biserta. It's so unfair that one person gets to be that tall, have such a gorgeous face and be that well hung. Meanwhile, I don't get any of those things. I can get A+s without trying. But I'd trade in brains any day for even 1 of those things.

Does anyone feel the same as this?
 

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I definitely struggled with that kind of jealousy and dissatisfaction.
Try finding role models that look more like you. I’m 5’9” and more than half my friends are shorter than me and all of them are better with women. So I’m sure u could find somebody.
Sometimes self improvement helps if u enjoy the process. Things to improve appearance like working out. But if u can find anything to draw confidence from, like intelligence, than use that
Also if you have jealousy issues, stop indulging it by looking at big dicks online. It’s addictive but it feed your own insecurity and it makes big dicks seem a lot more common than they are
 

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There was a period of time that I was deeply dissatisfied with what I've got. I used to think it wasn't good enough. It was too short, not girthy enough, too curved, etc. But it was a phase and I've pretty much lived through it. Like you said you know it's illogical as you have no control over it. You (and I, as it seems) didn't win the genetic lottery. And that's perfectly okay.

Yes, there are the odd days that I revisit those feelings of inadequacy, but really I've had a good run with my tool here and we're in this together for life.
 
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Just to add some perspective, you say you are 5'7" and have a 6 inch penis, and that it could be worse and reference micro penises. But if you are 6 inches then you are on the large end of average. Also, there are several smaller sizes you could have before you get to the level of micro penis.

Also, a 6 inch penis on your body probably looks proportionally larger because of your height. A taller person with the same size penis as you will appear as though they have a smaller penis relative to their height.

I don't know who Michael Biserta is, but I bet that somewhere in his mind he wishes he were 4 inches taller and had a bigger dick. No matter how whatever you are, you'll always want to be more whatever. I think its very rare for anyone to be truly satisfied with what they are physically, and as soon as you realize that everyone you see has the same kind of feelings that you do, the sooner you will realize how insignificant those feelings really are.

If you get A+s without trying, then that will be worth much more to you in the long run. Having a big dick and being tall might get you laid, but having a good job and lots of money will do a much better job of it.
 

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To be honest, I am jealous of anyone with a big dick.

My dick is not tiny, it's about 6inchs and I am 5"7". It could be worse (micropenises), but still, sometimes I just feel shit about it.

Logically I know that caring about it is stupid. Big or small it's 100% out of your control. If it were a choice, everone would be huge. It has zero reflection on your value as a person. Being proud or ashamed of your dick is like being proud or ashamed of your elbow width or natural hair colour.

But still, intellectual reason doesn't stop feeling jealousy.

I just saw on Xvideos Michael Biserta. It's so unfair that one person gets to be that tall, have such a gorgeous face and be that well hung. Meanwhile, I don't get any of those things. I can get A+s without trying. But I'd trade in brains any day for even 1 of those things.

Does anyone feel the same as this?
If you sort your relationship out with yourself you will become more attractive. I'd suggest a few counselling sessions.

No matter what you look like, don't forget to work on having fun, developing a sense of humor and becoming genuine, honest, reliable, financially stable and a good friend. All of these things can make you very attractive.

I used to look at some couples and wonder about the mismatch in terms of appearance - I have a much better understanding now as a survivor of relationships with stunningly beautiful people who were psycho, alcoholics and narcissists.

Don't use your body as an excuse not to be successful in relationships. Six inches used well, attached to an in shape body and a kind decent personality is enough.
 

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it's all in your head my friend. we all want what we don't have, it's very normal. learn to love yourself and use what you got. thinking about it just affects your self-image and self-esteem plus more importantly decreases your confidence.

trust me, low-confidence guys are not attractive.
 

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A lot of it is brought from your own perspective. Like, I'm 6' and 6 inches hard (so pretty much average) but soft I'm only 2.5 inches, which puts me in about the bottom 5% size-wise. For a long time that was a negative for me, consistently being the smallest guy in the changing room, but I've had people say how jealous they are of how much of a grower I am, or how I'm uncut, or really liked how much pubic hair I had etc. so I learned to see things in a more balanced way. Sure, I'd still like a couple of extra inches soft hang, but I've got other things going in my favour!
 

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It's all in your head. It's how you take it.

Lots of guys have said in one way or another that they're jealous of me. That they wish they had my looks, or build, or personality, or luck with chicks. Many of these guys have seen me naked at the gym. And I'm hung like a chipmunk. Especially soft.

I wouldn't change places with anyone in the world. I have a gorgeous wife, a great life and fantastic job. A small dick means very little in life. It's what you make of what you've got, and not obsessing over things you can't change.
 

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It's all in your head. It's how you take it.

Lots of guys have said in one way or another that they're jealous of me. That they wish they had my looks, or build, or personality, or luck with chicks. Many of these guys have seen me naked at the gym. And I'm hung like a chipmunk. Especially soft.

I wouldn't change places with anyone in the world. I have a gorgeous wife, a great life and fantastic job. A small dick means very little in life. It's what you make of what you've got, and not obsessing over things you can't change.
Wise words. Could have used them 30 years ago :(
 

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Wise words. Could have used them 30 years ago :(
You can use them today.

A change in your perspective isn't magic. Being positive isn't a one-time action that happens and then lets you coast. Life is NOT less of a struggle for people with positive attitudes and personalities. The most important thing liljock wrote was the last sentence. Make the most of what you have...every day, every moment. Some days will be more successful than others. The bad days are lessons, and make the good days that much better.
 

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You can use them today.

A change in your perspective isn't magic. Being positive isn't a one-time action that happens and then lets you coast. Life is NOT less of a struggle for people with positive attitudes and personalities. The most important thing liljock wrote was the last sentence. Make the most of what you have...every day, every moment. Some days will be more successful than others. The bad days are lessons, and make the good days that much better.
. Trying my best. Swinging the bat and missing the ball :)
 

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Time for me to chime in. @Logicpolice: my screen name says it all. I too am 5’7” (on a good day) and my end of summer weight is 145 (I’ll hit 160 by march) Packing a fully working 6”x 5” (full mast) two toned dick. (Check out my profile ;))

Some guys are part of what I call “the lucky sperm club“. That’s when you are born into wealth so college is automatic and you Can be a “leisure technician” or thru genetics are big, good looking and hung. That’s out of your control.

I’m sure you’ve already gotten this, but don’t be jealous. You and I are pretty much identical body types and sizes. I refuse to be jealous and neither should you. I do find some of the guys on here extremely impressive though. Whats nice is that I’ve only received positive comments from everybody who’s looked at my profile, and some of those guys are fucking hung! No trolling and no bullshit like that. I’ve seen profiles of guys who have far less than I do, and they don’t give a rats ass either. And I compliment them just the same as all the other profiles I see.

Just be confident with how you are, who you are and and people will respond positively to that.
 
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I am quite happy with what I have. Everyone's definition of small varies. Honestly if your dick is like my pinky when hard, it wouldn't do anything for me and if you are bigger than me, well thats murder to me lol but seriously thats my take on it. Like yhe saying goes, there's someone out there for everyone
 
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Wow. Some very good suggestions here. Thanks! I will take it on board.

I have also looked up some shorter guys for role models and I found Cody Christian. He's the same height and has a similar size dick from what I can tell of his leaked nudes. He is very buff and looking great. So there is hope. I will start working out again because that's controllable.
 
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Being with the right people in life makes you the man you want to be! I am about your mentioned sizes, have never been turned down and most ppl are returning customers lol

Married for 15yrs. and still hear once in a while that my body and cock rock... all you need is a real good match buddy!
 

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I am in the same boat as the OP... I feel I have a "smallish" dick. I'm 6.5" long with almost no bone pressing, Easily 6.75" with a push on the ruler. I am only 5'-8" tall and 145 lbs soaking wet... very lean , thin boned build. I keep what I have well toned, even at 57 years of age.

I feel smallish because of a lean girth... 4.5" at best... seems lately its coming in a little bit under that mid shaft when fully hard, almost down to 4 3/8"around. It really makes for a low volume of cock!

I too struggle with seeing the magnificent specimens on LPSG and elsewhere... big, girthy cocks that spew nice big loads of cum. I was in a miserable marriage for way too long and never felt my wife enjoyed my body or cock. I found I felt very loose when inside her and she even commented my cock could be thicker.

I found a sexual outlet on the internet where I found picture sharing sights and discovered a lot of gay and bi men were turned on by me. I found I was envious and turned on by their bigger cocks! So, eventually a time came where I succumbed to the draw of engaging in some M2M sex with well hung guys, playing the role of a big cock worshipping bottom!

I was heading down a path of thinking this is where my sex life was heading. I felt my smallish cock was inadequate to really please a woman, so I may just use my body and ASSets to service horny, hung men. There, my cock size didn't matter! And I was enjoying playing with big, hard cocks!

What changed my thinking was having a threesome with another couple where the woman wanted to experience another man's cock. I was that guy. I was surprised how much she liked my cock! The woman's partner was taking pictures and video of our activities, and when watching it with the guy some days later, there was a scene where I was kneeling on the bed as she gave me enthusiastic oral where she took my hard cock and was slapping herself in the face with it! He commented to me, "She was REALLY into your cock!"

it gave me pause to reflect and consider the fact that my cock can be desirable for a woman, and shortly after that found a woman who has now been my girlfriend for almost 8 years. We have fantastic sex. Her pussy can squeeze around my slender cock, and she moans a grinds with me for some hard pounding fucking! She often exclaims my cock is the perfect fit for her!

So, in the end, while I still struggle with feeling smallish when comparing to porn and others her on LPSG, there are women who still can adore any cock if it is on a man they love.
 
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Sadly for me I've just pulled away from dating and messing around. I feel the older I get the smaller it gets too and the less libido I have anyways. I max at 6" with a thinner 4.25-4.5 girth. So its definitely defined as a small or smaller-medium maybe. Its certainly small for my 6'1" frame.

I guess in time you just deal with it and hopefully you'll find someone. I dont believe that there is someone for everyone out there. I think thats just something people say. But ultimately you have to be somewhat happy with other things in your life and I would pull away from looking at porn. It doesn't help.
 
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I'm 80th percentile in dick size.... AND height. So if I stood next to you, you'd probably look like you have the bigger dick. So? Nothing. That's the point. Make sure your bush doesn't make your dick look smaller than it really is. Trim a bit if it does. Try wearing a glans ring to give you a bit of bob & swing. The right one both looks and feels good. Now you've done what you can with that. So leave it. As suggested above, change what you can to show off your assets (exercise, hair style, clothing, beard, etc.). once you've done what you can, leave that, too.

I have a bunch of skeletal issues that should've been addressed when I was a kid, but my parents couldn't be bothered so I'm stuck with an upper body that mainstream society finds unacceptable. I've been told so by complete strangers more times than I could ever count.

Am I jealous of guys who can take their shirt off any time, any place without getting negative reactions? You bet your ass I am! Will I ever stop being jealous? I doubt it highly. Those guys have a freedom that I have never had and will never have.

I think it's unrealistic to ask you to stop being jealous. But you have no obligation to give that jealousy any importance. When something triggers your jealousy, just stop, recognize it, and say to yourself, "Yup, I'm jealous and with good reason. But guess what? I have other things to focus on that are more important/interesting/fun." My point is that when your jealousy is demanding attention, you do NOT have any obligation to give it any. Period. You do NOT have an obligation to resolve issues before putting them on a shelf and saying, "I'll deal with you later.... when I have nothing better to do."

Typical example from my life: It's Friday early Friday evening. I hate my body. I will hate my body when I see it in the mirror Saturday morning. I have a choice. I can stay home and hate my body in the morning with full balls OR I can go to a naked drawing session, then go to a naked massage class with a happy ending and hate my body in the morning with EMPTY balls. You see, the problem is there, unchanged and unresolved, regardless of what you do. But you can make a choice to stop letting it run your life.

It's funny, but the fastest way to learn to keep body problems from affecting your life is probably to join a social nudist group. There're several threads on that topic in the Appearances forum.

I hope this helps a bit.
 
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