sexual enjoyment is supposed to be MUTUAL.
if a person does not enjoy oral sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if a person does not enjoy anal sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if you think sex should last 3o minutes but they want three hours, this does not make you selfish, this makes you incompatible.
nobody has a duty to perform any sexual act they do not enjoy.
nobody has the right to expect his/her partner to perform sexual acts they do not enjoy.
and anybody who can get his/her jollies from an act, whilst knowing full well that their partner is hating every minute, is one step away from being an abuser.
seems simple, doesn't it?
if a person does not enjoy oral sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if a person does not enjoy anal sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if you think sex should last 3o minutes but they want three hours, this does not make you selfish, this makes you incompatible.
nobody has a duty to perform any sexual act they do not enjoy.
nobody has the right to expect his/her partner to perform sexual acts they do not enjoy.
and anybody who can get his/her jollies from an act, whilst knowing full well that their partner is hating every minute, is one step away from being an abuser.
seems simple, doesn't it?