just because i bite you think i have issuesdolfette has anger issues with oral sex and we all know it.
what's a few tooth marks between pals?
just because i bite you think i have issuesdolfette has anger issues with oral sex and we all know it.
yeah, i find kissing kinda icky too...Oral sex these days is very common and many people expect it, but anal sex, not so much. If you hate giving oral then that's fine. But certain things are part of a normal and healthy sexual relationship. If one partner thought kissing was disgusting, then they should expect to not be compatible with many people.
It does, but the sad conclusion as we explore our desires is that at some point we all end up being incompatible.
As invisi says, he can go out and satisfy his needs elsewhere, but pretty much every woman in the world would consider that her partner was a cheating bastard if he went out to get something that she disliked and he respected her not to expect from her.
Tell me about that one.
Not every woman, there are some of us that would be open to our mates (and ourselves) seeking what they need outside of the primary relationship.
In my opinion, the important thing is honesty, not hiding needs, and if unable to come to a compromise where both are satisfied by each other, then allowing the freedom to seek it elsewhere (safely, of course).
Oh, and if it wasn't clear in my initial post, I very much agree with Invisi. :yup:
as long as it's made clear that this is the deal.Yeah, I want to say that. I can understand an occasional "no sex" period. Like if a person was sick. Or work stress. But not when it becomes an canned excuse. And not for looonngg stretches withholding sex like in a rebellious way.
If I like certain things in sex that was given to me in the beginning, if I want those things--I want them. If that person was giving me those things and then they no longer want them--that really is a disappointment. I won't beg him. He should expect that I will go find it elsewhere. If he felt that I was cheating on him, then that is his feeling. I am taking care of my needs. Picking up the pieces from where he left off.
I doubt that truer words have ever been spoken. I think the mods should make this a sticky at the top of this forum and sex with a large penis.sexual enjoyment is supposed to be MUTUAL.
if a person does not enjoy oral sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if a person does not enjoy anal sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if you think sex should last 3o minutes but they want three hours, this does not make you selfish, this makes you incompatible.
nobody has a duty to perform any sexual act they do not enjoy.
nobody has the right to expect his/her partner to perform sexual acts they do not enjoy.
and anybody who can get his/her jollies from an act, whilst knowing full well that their partner is hating every minute, is one step away from being an abuser.
seems simple, doesn't it?
i'm all clever & stuff. uh huh.I doubt that truer words have ever been spoken. I think the mods should make this a sticky at the top of this forum and sex with a large penis.
In an ideal world you are right, you shouldn't be expected or obligated to do anything that you dislike but outside our minds, it doesn't work like that - we still have to pay taxes, repay loans, etc. and these little pleasures we crave, are expected and obligated in reality.first, there is a world of difference between something you don't get much out of and something you actively dislike.
choosing to do something just for the other person's pleasure is super cool and hawt...but if it is actually unpleasant then, no, you shouldn't be expected or obligated.
Taxes and loan payments are not optional. Sex is.In an ideal world you are right, you shouldn't be expected or obligated to do anything that you dislike but outside our minds, it doesn't work like that - we still have to pay taxes, repay loans, etc. and these little pleasures we crave, are expected and obligated in reality.
You can create your own reality in your mind and convince yourself that everyone else is wrong or you can confront reality and adapt to the situation and find solutions to life's problems.
Actively disliking something is a phobia.
People overcome phobias by changing their understanding and perception of that thing. Confronting their fear and changing their focus from the problems that occur only in the persons mind, to the reality of the object/situation is a well proven therapy.
Even the most selfish person can be convinced that they want to do this with the right approach, the once unpleasant situation can become very pleasurable thanks to a change in focus.
Hypnotists must have great sex lives!!!:biggrin1:
I think that incompatibility problems are more likely to occur when one or both partners are too inflexible with the rules/limits that they create in their minds.
see, i read up to this point and thought 'he's talking shit!' and gave up.Actively disliking something is a phobia. .
is being straight a gay phobia?Taxes and loan payments are not optional. Sex is.
And while is is possible to overcome phobias, I don't class my not wanting to sniff a nasty ass as a phobia! Same goes for teeth scraping my dick or a handjob that feels like it's being performed by a Mix Master.
sexual enjoyment is supposed to be MUTUAL.
if a person does not enjoy oral sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if a person does not enjoy anal sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if you think sex should last 3o minutes but they want three hours, this does not make you selfish, this makes you incompatible.
nobody has a duty to perform any sexual act they do not enjoy.
nobody has the right to expect his/her partner to perform sexual acts they do not enjoy.
and anybody who can get his/her jollies from an act, whilst knowing full well that their partner is hating every minute, is one step away from being an abuser.
seems simple, doesn't it?
Us switch-hitters are riddled with phobias.is being straight a gay phobia?
and being gay a straight phobia?
ps. my arse is NOT nasty...but i wouldn't lick it either.
ahahahahaha!the exchange rate
lunch with your friends - 15 mins of depraved sex act
holidays with your parents - threesome
shopping on Sunday - homemade porn
shopping on a Sunday before a major holiday - homemade porn with props
helping you move - cost subject to change *flights of stairs, heavy ass couch, repainting new or old apartment*
driving you to the airport (5:00am-8:00am) (rush hour)- public area sex *bathroom quickie*
Taxes and loan payments are not optional. Sex is.
And while is is possible to overcome phobias, I don't class my not wanting to sniff a nasty ass as a phobia! Same goes for teeth scraping my dick or a handjob that feels like it's being performed by a Mix Master.
i have to work on my coffee phobia now.
and my onions phobia.
and my scat phobia.
and my bestiality phobia.
as long as it's made clear that this is the deal.
sexual enjoyment is supposed to be MUTUAL.
if a person does not enjoy oral sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if a person does not enjoy anal sex but you do, this does not make them selfish, this makes you incompatible.
if you think sex should last 3o minutes but they want three hours, this does not make you selfish, this makes you incompatible.
nobody has a duty to perform any sexual act they do not enjoy.
nobody has the right to expect his/her partner to perform sexual acts they do not enjoy.
and anybody who can get his/her jollies from an act, whilst knowing full well that their partner is hating every minute, is one step away from being an abuser.
seems simple, doesn't it?