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After reading another forum -- where post after post said that deepthroating was rare -- I felt compelled to offer my two cents.
I'm an older gay guy who's had lots of deepthroating experience over the years, and I think I've picked up a thing or two (no penicillin jokes please). I'm also curious to see if anyone agrees or disagrees with me.
In this discussion, BOTTOMS are the suckERs and TOPS are the suckEEs.
This may sound like a copout -- speaking as a bottom -- but I think most deepthroating problems are caused by the actions of the top.
Tip 1. Mind the Gag Reflex. It's my view that the gag reflex is dormant unless disturbed. And once disturbed, it's nearly impossible to get it to calm down. For the bottom, it's all about staying relaxed and breathing normally. But the top is really in control, and the best ones try not to trigger things.
Tip 2. Let the bottom breathe. I've had fun with well-hung tops who've never been throated. I start out with a normal BJ, then when the time is right, I go all the way down. They are usually quite surprised -- and often thrilled -- but the mistake they then make is to grab the back of my head, shove their dick all the way down -- and keep it there. Though hot in concept (lol), eventually the bottom needs to breathe. And there's something about the gasping action that tightens up all the throat muscles and triggers the gag reflex. The bottom pulls back violently, coughs, and in many cases, the party's over.
Better for the top to do two or three regular strokes, then just one deep one, maybe two, then three regulars, one deep, three regulars, one deep, etc. You can stay deep a little extra time, but pull back before the bottom starts gasping for air. When the top gets in sync with the bottom's breathing rhythm, he can keep going for hours.
Tip 3. Let the bottom do the work. In most cases, especially for a first encounter, I think it's best for the top to remain still, and for the bottom to do all the motion. I like the top to be standing or leaning against a wall -- or seated on the edge of a bed or couch (with me on my knees). This way, with the bottom holding both sides of the top's pelvis, the angles are right, and it's fairly easy for the bottom to mind his own gag reflex and breathing. I like tops to lightly touch or hold my head with their hands, but not to grab it hard and push it down on their cock.
Tip 4. The angle of the dangle. For me, cocks that curve slightly downward are the easiest to swallow. For up-curving cocks, it's probably better to get into a 69 position, with the top on his back. Another position to try -- for any shaped cock -- is for the bottom to lay face up on a bed, with his head hanging over the edge slightly, mouth open. The top stands near the bed and slides his cock into the open mouth.
Tip 5. THE AMAZING TOP TECHNIQUE. I once encountered a super-well-hung guy at a sex club. At first glance, I thought throating would be impossible, but he had a technique that proved me wrong. Here's what he did: he stuck his hard cock in my mouth, just part way -- as far as it would naturally, comfortably go. Then he took hold of the back of my head (at the top of my neck) and pulled it toward him, pushing my forehead into his stomach. Mind you, he didn't push my head down on his cock at all -- his cock was in its perfectly comfortable position, and that stayed intact as my head got to his stomach. Then he pulled my forehead against his stomach, kind of rolling the top of my skull gently into his torso (hard to explain). Anyway, with his upper torso and my head totally motionless he then flexed just his pelvis and his cock went all the way down my throat. Not only was it not difficult to swallow, but it was surprisingly comfortable. He was well aware of my breathing and pulled out, let me take a breath, then went back in. He was in total control, and I was amazed that it never made me gag. (has anyone else ever done it this way?)
I'm an older gay guy who's had lots of deepthroating experience over the years, and I think I've picked up a thing or two (no penicillin jokes please). I'm also curious to see if anyone agrees or disagrees with me.
In this discussion, BOTTOMS are the suckERs and TOPS are the suckEEs.
This may sound like a copout -- speaking as a bottom -- but I think most deepthroating problems are caused by the actions of the top.
Tip 1. Mind the Gag Reflex. It's my view that the gag reflex is dormant unless disturbed. And once disturbed, it's nearly impossible to get it to calm down. For the bottom, it's all about staying relaxed and breathing normally. But the top is really in control, and the best ones try not to trigger things.
Tip 2. Let the bottom breathe. I've had fun with well-hung tops who've never been throated. I start out with a normal BJ, then when the time is right, I go all the way down. They are usually quite surprised -- and often thrilled -- but the mistake they then make is to grab the back of my head, shove their dick all the way down -- and keep it there. Though hot in concept (lol), eventually the bottom needs to breathe. And there's something about the gasping action that tightens up all the throat muscles and triggers the gag reflex. The bottom pulls back violently, coughs, and in many cases, the party's over.
Better for the top to do two or three regular strokes, then just one deep one, maybe two, then three regulars, one deep, three regulars, one deep, etc. You can stay deep a little extra time, but pull back before the bottom starts gasping for air. When the top gets in sync with the bottom's breathing rhythm, he can keep going for hours.
Tip 3. Let the bottom do the work. In most cases, especially for a first encounter, I think it's best for the top to remain still, and for the bottom to do all the motion. I like the top to be standing or leaning against a wall -- or seated on the edge of a bed or couch (with me on my knees). This way, with the bottom holding both sides of the top's pelvis, the angles are right, and it's fairly easy for the bottom to mind his own gag reflex and breathing. I like tops to lightly touch or hold my head with their hands, but not to grab it hard and push it down on their cock.
Tip 4. The angle of the dangle. For me, cocks that curve slightly downward are the easiest to swallow. For up-curving cocks, it's probably better to get into a 69 position, with the top on his back. Another position to try -- for any shaped cock -- is for the bottom to lay face up on a bed, with his head hanging over the edge slightly, mouth open. The top stands near the bed and slides his cock into the open mouth.
Tip 5. THE AMAZING TOP TECHNIQUE. I once encountered a super-well-hung guy at a sex club. At first glance, I thought throating would be impossible, but he had a technique that proved me wrong. Here's what he did: he stuck his hard cock in my mouth, just part way -- as far as it would naturally, comfortably go. Then he took hold of the back of my head (at the top of my neck) and pulled it toward him, pushing my forehead into his stomach. Mind you, he didn't push my head down on his cock at all -- his cock was in its perfectly comfortable position, and that stayed intact as my head got to his stomach. Then he pulled my forehead against his stomach, kind of rolling the top of my skull gently into his torso (hard to explain). Anyway, with his upper torso and my head totally motionless he then flexed just his pelvis and his cock went all the way down my throat. Not only was it not difficult to swallow, but it was surprisingly comfortable. He was well aware of my breathing and pulled out, let me take a breath, then went back in. He was in total control, and I was amazed that it never made me gag. (has anyone else ever done it this way?)