This "out/Open" thing.... is not something I am quite ready for.
My only thoughts on this matter... Let's be hypothetical for a moment.
Situation#1:
I come to the realization that I am gay, or realize that I may not have any interest in women anymore. As a result, I muster up the courage to tell my parents and close friends. Who knows how people will take it but lets say everyone has a difficult time with it at first, then becomes ok as time progresses.
FIVE years later, I have had a slew of sexual/emotional relationships with men. I find my life unsatisfying, or perhaps realize that life with men isn't exactly what I wanted... and realize I still care for women a great deal. Now, I have to COME OUT as a straight/bisexual man to my parents.
The Situation sounds like alot of added stress on my family and friends. Not that they wouldn't accept me no matter what I choose, It is just alot of things to consider for them.
Now, I know I am gonna get reemed out.. called a coward, or a shithead because I am unwilling to stand up and make a decision, but
I don't care. While I respect Lex, and others who have stood up and come to terms with themselves... I am not willing to do that because I am concerned that this situation is fairly valid in my life. I refuse to hurt my parents and friends (Please hold the bullshit about good friends accepting you no matter what.)
I figure, why not ride the idea of bisexuality out.... and experiment a bit without telling friends and family. Once I find someone who I wish to be fully committed to, THEN I make the leap to the next step.
Also, coming out to a World that isn't Completely Gay friendly sounds like alot more turmoil than I am willing to face at this moment. Being discriminated for something I have no control over.... well, that just sucks.
I hope that makes sense... and that people will respect my choice. As most of you know, I have yet to have sexual contact with a man. Perhaps I will hate it, and this will not affect me.
kudos on the great topic, GoneA.