depression

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  1. spagbol1989

    spagbol1989 New Member

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    hi, i am 21 and i have been suffering from depression for the past 2 years. i am not on medication. my length is 16.5cm and my girth is 18.5 cm, and i am cut. since the depression started i have been having a lot of trouble, i can get it up but it is very difficult too, it is very difficult to orgasm, it has very little feeling in it.

    has anyone else ever experienced this? i have spoken about it with my doctor and counsellor, but they just said 'yes, sometimes men lose libido', and anyways i have to concentrate on my exams etc. so that is where they place most of the help on!

    is there any special diet i can go on to improve this, or maybe it will just go away with the depression, my doctor and counsellors weren't concerned so it's probably a good sign! :)
     
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    Umm, you couldn't be any wronger if you tried. One of the HUGE side effects of severe depression is a severe loss of libido. Hell, if you're in a severe bout of depression, you won't be able to get an erection period. I speak from many many years of experience.

    EDIT: Don't waste your money (or risk worsening your condition or yourself) on crap drugs like ColonialBoy is peddling. Go see a psychiatrist and get on some anti-depressants. Find a good therapist and start working on finding and fixing what it is that is making you depressed.
     
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  4. ColonialBoy

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    You are from alabama hence beyond being a moron.

    The over-the-counter medication I suggested, s-adenosylmethionine, is the most used anti-depressant in Germany & Italy. S-Adenosyl methionine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia . OP said his doctor did not want to prescribe antidepressants.

    Lack of libido has many causes including pituitary tumors. My depression has not affected libido one bit.
     
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    You need to change doctors--and counsellors--right away. The doctor should do a physical to eliminate physical causes for depression, and then (s)he may recommend an antidepressant. But antidepressants aren't long-term answers. If your depression does not stem from a physical condition, a good counsellor will help you identify what caused a sense of loss, which is generally where affective depression starts and your reactions to that loss that brings about what you feel as depression. Find a good behavioral cognitive therapist who can help you deal practically with your problem. But you must act now and see at least another physician. Make it a one-two step program: see the doctor, find a good counsellor.
     
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    First of, I am far from a moron. Second off, not all Alabamaians are morons. Hell I'd bet there are more rocket scientists, ph.d's, and M.D.'s within a hundred mile radius of where I live than in the entire population of your country.

    Back to the OP, as this is his thread. A loss in libido is very common in those who suffer from depression. I was diagnosed with Major Depressive D/O when I was 13, and was rediagnosed in my early 20's as having Bipolar D/O II, with hypomania.. I've seen so many different psychiatrists, and been on so many different anti-depressants its not even funny. My own personal experience in combination with the fact that I am a mearn 3 credits from completing my bachelors in psychology. While I'm no PH.D or M.D., I feel I have a considerable grasp on psychology than you.

    It seems that the OP would benefit from a standard SSRI (and if libido is a big concern for you, try Wellbutrin) and psychotherapy. I don't think that prolonged use of a SSRI would necessicarily be a good thing, but in combination with therapy could help prove to be very benificial. Once you start feeling better about yourself and your life, your libido will begin to increase. When your libido increases, you will be able to acheive more quality erections. Frankly, I don't see why your Psychiatrist would be so adament against you taking anti-depressants. You might want to look into finding someone that better meets your needs. Frankly I find it disturbing for any doctor to say that sometimes men loose libido, to you, which if your screen name is indicitive of your age, you are around 21. 21 year olds are usually riding high on testosterone, and not suffering from decreased libidio.

    Not giving medical advice, but just offering a suggestion.
     
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    I'm no doctor, but I do think you need to see new doctors and get a thorough
    physical exam.
    You are too young to be having ED...although I do know that depression certainly
    can cause it, for a good friend of mine had depression and it caused him to have ED.

    Another thing that can cause ED is Diabetes. Have you been checked by a doctor
    for Diabetes Type II? I have it and it stopped me cold...couldn't get an erection if
    my life depended on it. But now with diet, exercise and medication...I no longer have
    an ED problem at all. If anything it is stronger now than before...:biggrin:

    Do yourself a favor and go see a new doctor and get tested for Diabetes. If you are
    at school, go to the infirmary and have yourself tested for Diabetes and also get a
    testosterone level test...that could be the problem also.
     
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  8. B_stanmarsh14

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    Think you will find that YOU are moron here.

    I have never heard as much shit coming out of one mouth, like yours!

    I'm 35, and have dealt with depression, both to do with mum, and also myself as being a carer, I have also suffered mentally for a good 15 years.

    The problem in mental health care there days, is the massive interest of pushing sufferers on to medication only treatments, and just letting them rot, something which I have seen myself all too often.

    An altered state of mind from the norm, can and will alter things in life, sex being one of them, and only time will tell, as to how far you can recover from them when treatment is applied, being drug or counselling.

    Medication treatments can often affect sex in general, so if you are placed on such medication, it may take some time to get things right.

    Myself, when I was on Lorzepam and Diazipam, I was actually ok, but I have known others who have not been as fortunate.

    Bottom like is, you FIRST need to be set up with the right counselling, so your primary healthcare doctor (GP in the UK), is the first step, and possibly some short term medication, but at the end of the day, we can only speak from experiences, everyone is different, and this is why as always, any medical matters need to be referred to the right health care pro, and NOT to a forum like this, as you will get flaming morons like ColonialBoy basically saying.... take a pill, you are cured attitude just does not cut it.
     
  9. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    I've had depression for 20 years since my baby daughter died.I've been on meds since then i can definately vouch that depression has affected my libido and ability to orgasm.

    SSRI's did work for me but my previous doctor wasnt interested in anything other than money so i changed doctors,he actually listened and genuinely cares for his patients and sent me to hospital...i was diagnosed as bipolar and my new meds are fabby (a combo) and my libido is definately on the up.
     
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    Get a physical exam with a full blood workup.

    Silvertriumph2 mentioned Type II diabetes.

    Additionally, the symptoms of low testosterone are exactly the same symptoms as depression in men.

    So get yourself checked out, maybe by another doctor, as something is not right.
     
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    How true! I was treated for depression for 10 years or better with little success. I finally found a Doctor to test me for low testosterone. Soon after getting my T-levels back to normal I was able to give up the anti-depressants completely. Low testosterone in someone your age is not common, but not unheard of.
    I agree that many doctors only want to treat the symptoms and not the cause. Finding a good doctor can be difficult, but not impossible. If you think low T may be your problem, find a good endocrinologist. He shold not only test our total T level, but also how well your body is using what T is available. At any rate, find better medical advice. Good Luck!
     
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    Very amusing

     
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    Forget the anti-depressants – they will do you no good and will only create side effects to deal with. I would be more focused on fixing the depression at this stage - the sexual dysfunction should then right itself too.

    From my experience with depression, I suggest you find yourself a good herbalist who can recommend herbs and minerals to balance your brain chemistry.

    Secondly join a fitness/running group or create your own exercise program, even if it is just jogging around the block every morning or afternoon. Exercise is very important in ending and preventing depression. Also relaxation/meditation is also very useful.

    Work on expanding your social circle of friends. Whilst you are stuck in a bout of depression it is important to have good friends around you to give you support and provide social interaction.

    Diet will also help - cut out sodas, packaged fruit juices, refined sugar products and refined carbohydrates (white breads) and instead go for whole grain or better still, sprouted breads (Essene or Ezekiel bread) as these have a higher density of vitamins and minerals. Ensure adequate nutrition: protein, complex carbohydrates, lots of vegetables especially green leafy vegetables (buy organic if you can or wash well in water with vinegar added to the water), and good quality fats – avoid vegetable oils, cottonseed oil, canola, margerine – instead use olive oil, coconut oil, butter.

    Go to your GP and get a vitamin/mineral test, incase you are low in something. However a good herbalist will have access to laboratory testing for mineral 'ratios' and this is a better indication of body chemistry than individual levels on their own.

    Also make sure you get plenty of sleep – at least 8 hours.

    I do hope this helps, I know that depression can be an insidious condition, but with conscious effort, you can beat it and return to a happy enjoyable life again.
     
  14. SpeedoMike

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    consider yourself lucky if what you expound works for you. clinical depression is a medical condition treated with medication. sounds like your dealing with situational depression which often does not require medication.

    I'd probably be dead by now if it wasn't for my psychiatrists properly treating me with anti-depressants. I'm one of the small percentage (< 1%) of patients who receive little benefit from meds. they barely work for me, but they do help.
     
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    Well of course I am not a doctor, so my comments are only based on my own experience with depression. Different treatments will work for different people, but it is good to have information from a broad range of sources.

    I am glad that you have been able to find a treatment that has worked for you, and from what you say, has saved your life. That is nothing short of amazing.

    I just hope that the OP is able to find a treatment that works for him and that he has a positive outcome also.
     
  16. pablovian

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    I hope the OP got some good advice but now I would like to jump on his coat-tails and get some new advice.

    10 years ago I finally (after being depressed my whole life) went to the doctor and was diagnosed with clinical depression. He put me on Paxil and it is the best thing I've ever done. I no longer have the hopelessness and suicidal tendencies I used to have. Regardless of the side effects - I am very happy with Paxil's results and plan to be on it for the rest of my life.

    Side effects - weight gain - it sucks. I gained about 30 - 40 pounds. Hate it, but I know I could also eat better and quit drinking and exercise and that would help too.

    My libido defintiely went down too. I can get hard but it is difficult to stay hard. I can get hard enough for penetration, but usually wilt mid-thrust - very frustrating. I've even tried Viagra and Cialis to help - not very helpful - all those did was give me a headache.

    Sssooooo, my question is, does anyone have any exercises, pills, tantric meditations, mantras I can do to help myself stay hard???
     
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