Desires and Kinks

merc41

Superior Member
Joined
Mar 30, 2018
Posts
2,884
Media
0
Likes
4,114
Points
158
Location
Detroit (Michigan, United States)
Sexuality
69% Straight, 31% Gay
Gender
Male
How do I tell my girlfriends about my desires and kinks without scaring them. I don't think they are extreme but they are varied and definitely not vanilla. No scat,children, incest,blood but pretty much everything else. Plus I like sex pretty much everyday sometimes more. Not opposed to compromise and I do know what I like is alittle excessive. Very willing to compromise just want to be very honest about my desires and kinks in a perfect world.
.
 

marriedasian

Legendary Member
Joined
Sep 2, 2008
Posts
1,578
Media
1
Likes
2,020
Points
343
Location
Wisconsin (United States)
Sexuality
69% Straight, 31% Gay
Gender
Male
Just tell her, period. Be kind and respectful knowing that she may freak out and walk away. If you're not willing to risk losing her over your kinks and desires then keep your mouth shut. Either suffer in silence together or be free alone.

You can't force her to conform to you nor have any expectations that she should or will. All you can do is tell her what you want and see if it aligns with her.

I never understood why we are so afraid to be honest. It's like we're so afraid to lose her/him. There's so many people out there. You're bound to find a good match if you take the time to figure out where to fish and what bait to use.