Development with the ex.

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My first time with a guy wasn't graceful. He wasn't large, rather average and is a top. He's more of an alpha male type, which was scary at first, but he never hurt me. The thing is that he was older and a bit bossy. I dumped him because I felt I learned what I needed and my friend said he was just using me because of my autism and my status in my trousers. I don't have many friends, but when it came down to it they were there and we had fun on this weekend's camping trip. He got close on a few occasions and he made some advances that seemed nice.
The thing is, I don't know know if I should agree to see him. Yes, he's a bit of a brute, but maybe he means well. If a relationship with someone who won't switch and pins me most of the time only satisfies half of your interests in sex, is it worth it? I don't want to be told what to do, but that's everyone I know. I've never mounted a guy and he won't let me try with him, not even with a toy. I guess he is set in his ways. And someone like me who is nonverbal and autistic doesn't have many options. What do you guys think?
 
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never settle. i believe that sex is too important to only get half of it. life's too short. if he's being a prick and not considering your sexual needs or desires then he's not worth it. don't let the idea of not being able to find someone else sway you towards him.

sometimes we will settle for what is in front of us because it is the "easier" route. life is hard and taking the harder route sometimes is worth the pain and will yield what you truly want. this is how i have lived my life and it is how i found my wife. many women had thrown themselves in my path and i have consciously ignored them and not settle.
 
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Live on your terms. If the half of your sexual interests that he can meet are what you want at some given moment, then scratch that itch at that moment. You have no obligation to him, nor does he to you, for anything more. All experiences have value, and the exposure to others can be beneficial to you. Meanwhile, keep looking for the right person.