I'm a 57-year-old man, married, but of late wondering about the possibility of meeting another male for intimate conversation and possibly and eventually sex. I think there are a few other men in my age bracket who would fit my description. I would never think that my desire and my condition to be absurd or unheard-of. The other day I was chatting with another guy, younger than me, in his late twenties. I know, I know, the difference in age is considerable, and it doesn't much help that I am in very good shape and look much younger than 57. We asked each other a few questions and the conversation seemed to be going quite well, but then at some point I told him that I had never had any experience with other men. His reaction was twofold. First he said: "What a shame. I am seeking more experienced guys (he didn't say younger guys)." That was very good. I was very cool with his frankness. But then he went on to say: "You have wasted much time in your life" and logged off. I was dumbfounded by his rude and thoughtless comment and by his immediate disconnection. I much appreciate frankness, but I also think that people should think twice before discharging their truth. What the heck is that? Just because I never went to bed with another man and now I feel that I could do that, if perhaps Mr Right would come my way, (ok, my cheating on my wife is not on trial), does it mean that I have wasted much time in my life? What about my experience with other women, my experience of being a husband, a father, of having an affair, etc, etc - does that not count at all? Or, at least, does my actual status entitle him to utter his final words? Do all men in my position or those who at the same age do not even comtemplate the idea of hooking up with another man feel they have wasted much time in their life? Are we retarded people, as it were? What do you think? I have at least learned a lesson from this incident: if I ever talk to another male he will ideally be as old as myself and I will be as reticent as possible about my sexual experience with others of the same species. My vengeance, so to say, is that this young (and perhaps too frank so as to sound rude) man discarded the opportunity of meeting a very interesting mature person who, albeit clumsy with homosex, would be willing to teach him a few good tricks he has picked up in his life, including, if adequate, good manners.