Did I marry the right woman???WOMEN PLEASE HELP

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    Don't get me wrong I love my wife to death inside and out. I would give my life for her. She is a very beautiful lady and has a wonderful heart. I sometimes question our sexual compatibility. I am 6 ft 205 lbs she is 5'2" and 113 Lbs. I am so hot for her. I have what I would say an above average sex drive and she has what I would call a below average sex drive. We have had great sex the best I have had, but when we do we only can do it spooning style? Or it is to painful for her and she doesn't enjoy it. One wrong move just trying to adjust my postion and its over for her. I know I don't have a big penis but for her most of the time it is to big. When I was single I was with women that were more like 5'5" and up and 135 and up and it was a lot easier having sex if that makes sense. What can I do to help her enjoy making love or did I marry the wrong women sexually? And again I do love her, I just want her to crave me like I do her
     
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    Sweetheart it may not have anything to do with your wife's desire for you. A woman can develop Vaginismus at any time as her body's response to pain it can go anywhere from making it difficult to impossible to experience vaginal penetration. I am sure it is just as frustrating and humiliating for you wife as it is for you. You shouls check out the www. vaginismus.com site to read more about it and what can be done to correct it. I wish you the best of luck.
     
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    Thank you for the advice I will definately look at the site
     
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    This may be irrelevant, but were your sex drives compatible prior to marriage? Were you able to easily enter here in any position? If so, then Naughty's advice is spot on. :cool: Get your wife to a gynecologist who specializes in the treatment of vaginismus as soon as possible!

    Her height and weight shouldn't matter. Look at all the porn with 5', 100 lb Asian women or petite blondes.

    If not, what made either of you think the situation would improve after the wedding? :confused: I hate to be critical of what I know is a very serious issue but you are NOT the first man or woman to post here with this problem. :confused: I just don't understand how that little matter of being sexually incompatible slipped your collective minds.
     
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    Why not do everything but intercourse? Kissing, necking, breast-play, massaging, oral sex, fingering, etc. She probably can have plenty of orgasms and be satisfied with just that.
     
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    Because even if she is pleased with just that, it doesn't sound as if he will be pleased with that. :frown:
     
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    I think we hear that , PA. The problem is that he is trying to help her get back to the point where they may be able to have a more mutually satisfying sex life. When sex hurts it can tend to put a damper on everything and eventually make the one in pain dread even the though of a sexual encounter.
     
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    Thank you for all the responses. To answer some questions, before our marrige our sex life was good. She was spontanius, and enjoyed sex. Now not so much. The whole kissing, foreplay, necking, oral etc. Stuff doesn't do it for it for her, I enjoy pleasing her but it is what seems to be impossible sometimes. Some of the responses I think hit the nail on the head.
     
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