WOW! I don't know what to write and certainly not how to vote.
Generally, and from the outside, it was a pretty perfect family set up.
Certainly no physical abuse or shit like that.
However, I have just gone out and bought the book 'They Fuck you up' by Oliver James!!! :tongue:
My mother is pretty sadisitic and very judgemental. She learnt early on that the best way of 'handling' me and making me do what
she thought was right was by the threat of me being 'disowned' by the family.
She was actually pretty astute! 'Spot on' infact!
It completely screwed me up for years... 42 of them, to be honest.
But that was my fault. I was stupid enough to believe her, unquestioningly.
SO I've believed all this time that sex is wrong, dirty and should not be partaken of, especially out of wedlock.
That I should be ashamed of my body
That I have horrible boobs (her mother-in-laws, don't you know) and that I should never ever ever have a tattoo.
oh and smoke
and drink
and be loud or vivacious
or have an opinion.....
and she and my Dad rowed a lot, which I used to get in the middle of cos I hated seeing her screaming at my Dad and preferred her to scream at me.
But they are still together and bonking twice a week!
I completely take full responsibility for the negative effect she's had on my life cos I let her.
But shall no more! :biggrin1:
ish....
kind of
I'm still a work in progress! :redface: