Did You Have a Happy Childhood?

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by earllogjam, May 21, 2008.

?

Did you have a happy childhood?

  1. Yes

    34 vote(s)
    53.1%
  2. No

    20 vote(s)
    31.3%
  3. None of the above

    10 vote(s)
    15.6%
  1. earllogjam

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 15, 2006
    Messages:
    5,027
    Likes Received:
    21
    What made your childhood a happy one or unhappy one?
     
  2. B_jacknapier

    B_jacknapier New Member

    Joined:
    Oct 7, 2007
    Messages:
    710
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Pittsburgh
    Unhappy- abusive older brother
    Happy- my own awesomeness
     
  3. lwd

    lwd New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 19, 2007
    Messages:
    178
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    I wouldn't say it sways too heavily one way or the other. The family was stable (no major drama or abuse) but heavily critical and negative. This still holds true today and has transcended to me. I am a pretty critical person by nature and don't enjoy it....Also, I was left alone too much.

    If I had to choose either/or it would be unhappy...

    Nice thread, btw.
     
  4. Principessa

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 22, 2006
    Messages:
    19,494
    Likes Received:
    28
    Gender:
    Female
    [quote=earllogjam;1493716]
    I say yes, it was quite idyllic. However my shrink thinks I didn't have a good childhood. :tongue:

    I had 2 parents who were always there for me and took care of all my wants and needs. We lived in a modest home in a nice neighborhood. I had lots of friends. I was occasionally spanked when bad; but not beaten or abused in any way.
     
  5. jason_els

    jason_els <img border="0" src="/images/badges/gold_member.gi

    Joined:
    Dec 16, 2004
    Messages:
    10,576
    Likes Received:
    25
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Warwick, NY, USA
    I don't consider my childhood all that tragic because it didn't seem so at the time. Looking back I'm amazed I survived as well as I did.

    When I got to know the inner family workings of my friends as I grew older, I came to understand that quite a few had worse homes than mine, but many also had better. Perhaps the most glaring example came from 3 brothers and their parents we spend summer vacation with. Despite one of the kids growing to be a slash-and-gore film director, I just marveled at how well they truly got along with their parents. They are the most unaffected guys I know and they didn't understand how my parents could be the way they are. We were all in mutual astonishment of the family lives of the other family.
     
  6. prince_will

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 5, 2006
    Messages:
    2,102
    Albums:
    6
    Likes Received:
    39
    Gender:
    Male
    Mostly happy. wonderful parents, friends and experiences.

    but there were low points. being teased as the fat kid brought up a huge amount of problems.
     
  7. ManlyBanisters

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 19, 2007
    Messages:
    12,807
    Likes Received:
    8
    I had a happy childhood.

    My parents were always very positive and supportive. We lived in a quiet road, in a neighbourhood of families and retired people, where we we could play outside most of the tiime it wasn't raining. I had no hassles in school. I did occassionally notice that we didn't have the 'best' things or the newest things and I was sometimes uncomfortable about my appearance - but I had two parents at home telling me I was wonderful, beautiful and clever - I chose to believe my own press :biggrin:
     
  8. TinyPrincess

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2008
    Messages:
    7,190
    Albums:
    2
    Likes Received:
    2,496
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    London (GB)
    The best - filled with great and happy memories!!!
     
  9. B_ScaredLittleBoy

    B_ScaredLittleBoy New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 24, 2007
    Messages:
    3,337
    Likes Received:
    8
    My childhood was generally okay, quite good in fact. Although it wasn't privileged or "rich" or anything.

    The problems arose in my teenage years. It was quite a shock to be told that my (dead) 'father' was in fact not my father. It was then a shock to find out who was. Then there were the questions such as 'if he (the deceased) is not my father - then why do I have his first and last names? Why was I lied to? etc.

    Without ranting on and on: my childhood was generally quite awesome and I have great memories of it, quite a good memory in general. My teenage years - especially from 15-18 - were pretty shit.
     
  10. got_lost

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2007
    Messages:
    2,022
    Likes Received:
    3
    WOW! I don't know what to write and certainly not how to vote.

    Generally, and from the outside, it was a pretty perfect family set up.
    Certainly no physical abuse or shit like that.

    However, I have just gone out and bought the book 'They Fuck you up' by Oliver James!!! :tongue:

    My mother is pretty sadisitic and very judgemental. She learnt early on that the best way of 'handling' me and making me do what she thought was right was by the threat of me being 'disowned' by the family.

    She was actually pretty astute! 'Spot on' infact!
    It completely screwed me up for years... 42 of them, to be honest.
    But that was my fault. I was stupid enough to believe her, unquestioningly. :rolleyes:

    SO I've believed all this time that sex is wrong, dirty and should not be partaken of, especially out of wedlock.
    That I should be ashamed of my body
    That I have horrible boobs (her mother-in-laws, don't you know) and that I should never ever ever have a tattoo.
    oh and smoke
    and drink
    and be loud or vivacious
    or have an opinion.....

    and she and my Dad rowed a lot, which I used to get in the middle of cos I hated seeing her screaming at my Dad and preferred her to scream at me.
    But they are still together and bonking twice a week! :eek:

    I completely take full responsibility for the negative effect she's had on my life cos I let her.

    But shall no more! :biggrin1:
    ish....
    kind of
    I'm still a work in progress! :redface:
     
  11. NightFish

    NightFish Active Member

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2008
    Messages:
    533
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    90
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Maine (US)
    I'm not sure if unhappy would be the correct choice of words for my childhood. I was the youngest of ten children. I never felt like I belonged there, no real connection to my family. When I turned 18 I moved away, at 42 I am finally getting comfortable going to the home of my youth.
     
  12. Mr. Bungle

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Feb 6, 2008
    Messages:
    1,056
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    117
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    In the Huge Tits On A Thin Body thread
    Yeah, I had a generally happy childhood - a few minor whippin's here and there, but that was pretty much the norm back in the day!! I'm still on great terms with my parents - talk to them once a week on the phone, although I only see them a few times a year.
     
  13. D_Fiona_Farvel

    D_Fiona_Farvel Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Nov 27, 2007
    Messages:
    3,790
    Likes Received:
    17
    Yeah.
    The presence of a large immediate family and both parents, however bitchy they are, made my childhood OK. Not unrealistically, zippy do dah happy, but stable and decent. They are good people.
     
  14. SyddyKitty

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 18, 2007
    Messages:
    2,507
    Albums:
    9
    Likes Received:
    269
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    California
    It wasn't terrible, it wasn't great. I had an average or slightly below average childhood. I was teased and bullied a lot but I also had many friends.
     
  15. nudeyorker

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 6, 2006
    Messages:
    42,918
    Likes Received:
    37
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    NYC/Honolulu
    It was the best...Great mother...stepfather got better with time. We lived in a great house overlooking the Pacific ocean.We had alot of parties and Sunday Brunches and BBQ's Went to a great school. We had really nice vacations. My brother and I had a great childhood. My step brother claims to have had a horrible one. Same family, same house, same experiences, he is five years younger...go figure
     
  16. Calboner

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Aug 16, 2007
    Messages:
    9,026
    Albums:
    5
    Likes Received:
    2,465
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    USA
    "Did you have a happy childhood?" Fuck no. Stable household, caring parents, and all that good stuff, but I was the youngest and lived under the tyranny of my immediately older brother who never missed an opportunity to humiliate me. I wet the bed for years, a classic symptom of emotional disturbance (as I only learned in adulthood) as well as an additional humiliation.

    I have never wanted to have children because I could not bear the possibility that they might be something like me.
     
  17. alex8.5

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Mar 1, 2007
    Messages:
    1,644
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    32
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Bel Air, California. USA
    I had shelter, food, clothes, some affection, and some friends, mixed in with some abuse. It wasn't great but it was much better than a lot of kids I knew. Did it scar me for life. No
     
  18. 8060

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 1, 2008
    Messages:
    1,363
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    1,026
    Location:
    The Midwest
    Verified:
    Photo
    I would describe my childhood as "hard knock." My dad was the worse the kind of husband to my mother, and completely neglected my brother and I, but my mom was a soldier. She can take a direct hit and keep tickin'. We laughed a lot and that made the worse days...okay. I always had a lot of friends, was rewarded when I excelled in something, slept peacefully when I knew my dad wasn't coming home and I could tell that my mom was at peace.

    Childhood was cool. How about that other than happy or unhappy? It's too difficult of a time to just place in the happy or unhappy box, for me at least. I wouldn't do it again if that says anything.
     
  19. Mem

    Mem
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2006
    Messages:
    8,087
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    FL
    Yes I had a good childhood. We didn't have a lot of money but we always had food and clothing and a home. I had neighbor kids that I was friends with. In the summer on the weekends we would go to the lake and have an all day BBQ. The only regret is that when we drove to Florida with my grandparents we wanted to go to Disney and my grandparents were against it. My parents are very different types of grandparents and never would say no to my niece or nephew.

    After I graduated High school me and my older sister went to Disney for vacation and it was great. By coincidence we picked the perfect time in early September when the kids were all back in school.
     
  20. vince

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2007
    Messages:
    14,785
    Albums:
    1
    Likes Received:
    540
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Asia
    Childhood was pretty good. I have six brothers and sisters and I was second from the last. We had the usual sibling dramas, but we generally had a lot of fun. Our parents were firm, but kind and funny as hell. We always ate together at a big table and manners were strictly enforced. I was the family comic and got away with a lot of shit that the older kids never would have. I think parents mellow as the number of kids increase.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted