...i just think it's a shame that people still have to perpetuate lies in order to get along in life and that the fewer people who elect to buck that trend, the longer it will endure.
If only you knew, if only you had the slightest understanding of why. When you read your own words, they alone indicate why people still hide- myself being a prime example (which I am currently about to go into elsewhere- as in the Iraqi thread, which I began earlier today). Yes, it would be nicer and much better if the lies did not need to be perpetuated; but, sadly they still do because ignorance exists everywhere. Momentary vanishings of such ignorance are just that-
momentary! If he had come clean at the time, would the world have listened to him openly? Extremely doubtful. Even now, some 16 years (yesterday being the anniversary of his passing) after his passing gays are still held at arms length in many communities, parents still toss their HIV+ child out the door as if it is a reflection only upon themselves (the parents). I was speaking with a young man recently, born and raised in New York City, his parents are both educated and maintain good jobs. When this young man told his parents he was gay, they ordered him out of their home immediately- he joined the ranks of homeless persons in the world as he dealt with the agony of being disowned by his own family. See? Things are not all that wonderful- if a young man is now despised by his own family, what chance would some music player have? The world thrives upon being deaf and blisfully ignorant of what is happening around them and as much as it grieves me to say this, it will not fully change- not ever. Ask any person who is a minority or who is handicapped in any way. Ask them about the discrimination which continually throws up a wall in front of them. My name alone brings looks of fear, hatred and anger. After recent events (September of 2001) men and women have been spat upon, beaten, cursed, turned down for employment- many of these persons were born and raised in the U.S.A. and many are second or third generation. Once more, I remind you, people make choices- not always good ones; yet, they are choices and each choice provides in and of its self a lesson.
Freddie was in a position to make a huge change and he chose not to, even the band felt shamed enough to set up a foundation and raise millions of pounds for AIDS research after his death....and the sad stupid thing about all of it, is that had Queen AND Freddie chosen to do that four or five years earlier, he might not have died at all.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing; now, isn't it? At the time when Freddie was diagnosed fear still stalked the world and he himself was perhaps terrified for his life-and not just from the deadly disease which was about to claim his body for its own. When Ryan White, died in the springtime of the preceding year, people were still ostracizing him and threatening his life. In the years since the death of both of these persons children have been banned from swimming pools, excluded from activity with other children, adults have been beaten senseless, fired from their jobs... Did Mercury have a choice? Of course he did. We all have choices, and we often make mistakes. Then again, all mistakes can be viewed as learning experiences for others.