Did You Know You Wanted To Bottom?

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I definitely was "persuaded" by the other guy. I really was very naive and had no knowledge of anal sex, except that people said that it hurt. But, I was in a bathhouse on my 21st birthday, sitting in the steam room. A guy sat next to me and started playing with himself. I did the same and he started with me, while moving closer. We started making out and all of a sudden, he started playing with my hole. It felt really good and I got really excited. He inserted a finger gently and that was it. He asked me if I wanted to come to his room. I did and he told me to lie down on my stomach. I did and he proceeded to rim me. I had never felt anything that good before, so I lifted my hips to let his tongue get in deeper. After a few minutes, he stuck his finger in and loosened me up. Then he asked, " Can I fuck you?" Well, yeah. He did; it didn't hurt at all. I think it was because of the gradual build up, rather than the stick it in without foreplay approach. As a virgin, I certainly appreciated it.
 

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I definitely was "persuaded" by the other guy. I really was very naive and had no knowledge of anal sex, except that people said that it hurt. But, I was in a bathhouse on my 21st birthday, sitting in the steam room. A guy sat next to me and started playing with himself. I did the same and he started with me, while moving closer. We started making out and all of a sudden, he started playing with my hole. It felt really good and I got really excited. He inserted a finger gently and that was it. He asked me if I wanted to come to his room. I did and he told me to lie down on my stomach. I did and he proceeded to rim me. I had never felt anything that good before, so I lifted my hips to let his tongue get in deeper. After a few minutes, he stuck his finger in and loosened me up. Then he asked, " Can I fuck you?" Well, yeah. He did; it didn't hurt at all. I think it was because of the gradual build up, rather than the stick it in without foreplay approach. As a virgin, I certainly appreciated it.
Oh nice. That’s proper hot. Thanks for sharing
 

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My first boyfriend and I were both newbies .... first time kissing a guy, first time giving and receiving a blowjob and generally learned all the hot spots on each other's buddy .....I love having my nipples sucked and he loved feeling my beard brush against is neck while we kissed. Anal sex never was on our radar, but I would find myself on the bed pulling him on top of me as me made out or pulling him up on top of me after he had given me amazing head. One day while we were kissing and our tongues were darting around our mouths, I wrapped my legs around his waist ....... wow from that moment I wanted him! It was the same for him ..... as my legs wrapped around him and pulled him closer, he would tell me later that is when I realized he wanted to be inside my body the most intimate way possible. Our first experience was clumsy and awkward, but I knew when I felt so full and felt his entire body against mine as he filled my ass with his cum, that I truly new what it means to make love.
 

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My first boyfriend and I were both newbies .... first time kissing a guy, first time giving and receiving a blowjob and generally learned all the hot spots on each other's buddy .....I love having my nipples sucked and he loved feeling my beard brush against is neck while we kissed. Anal sex never was on our radar, but I would find myself on the bed pulling him on top of me as me made out or pulling him up on top of me after he had given me amazing head. One day while we were kissing and our tongues were darting around our mouths, I wrapped my legs around his waist ....... wow from that moment I wanted him! It was the same for him ..... as my legs wrapped around him and pulled him closer, he would tell me later that is when I realized he wanted to be inside my body the most intimate way possible. Our first experience was clumsy and awkward, but I knew when I felt so full and felt his entire body against mine as he filled my ass with his cum, that I truly new what it means to make love.
Wow. Properly spontaneous then.
 

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First time I felt a guy slide into me, it was amazing. The pleasure sensation his cock was causing my ass, the knowledge that another guy had his hard cock inside me and was going to fuck me until he came...when I finally I came, it was so hard I knew I wanted it again and again. When I discovered with my third partner ever that I was a natural at taking large cocks, and learned that many struggled (as I soon learned with my own extra thik piece), I know what I wanted to pursure. Now I can take anything you can think of pretty much and hosrehung guys come to me constantly because I can take them as long and rough as the want to go. The sensation of yet another guy's erection filling my ass never gets old and groups make it even more satisfying.
 

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First time, did you know you wanted to bottom? Was it like a massive fantasy for you to be fucked? Or were persuaded by the other guy?
I’m not sure about others but I felt a definite urge to get fucked when I was a virgin. Now I’m a complete switch vers but back then, I definitely knew I wanted a dick in my arse.
 

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First time I had thought about anal was when a guy I messed around with a few times wanted to fuck me. I had never thought about it before then. But I'm thinking all he did was bend me over and try to stick his dick inside me with no lube or spit. It hurt like a bitch and I jumped or screaming. I told him that wasn't going to happen and told him that he needed to leave. He really wanted to try it again, but it hurt so bad I told him that it would never happen. For many years after, that I would top occasionally, but for the most part, I was oral only. When I met my first boyfriend, he was a top and I let him top me. He used plenty of lube and used his fingers to open me up. He slid right in and it was heaven. I knew I was a bottom after that.
 

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When I was younger, I found a book of sex stories my father had hidden in his bedroom. I used to steal it when they were out of the house and read it as I masturbated.

The book had sections on straight guys experimenting with anal play with their partners, straight guys having gay experiences etc.

So these stories led me to experimenting with fingering myself and whatever objects I could use and dispose of easily.

When it came time for my first time with another man, I was already well prepared so it wasn't anything scary or unusual to me.
 

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for me it was holy shit this hurt bad and I couldn't do it. I wanted to do it with this guy bad but he was huge, so i did not tell him this, but hooked up with some smaller guys until i could relax enough for him. It became something i was determined with lol.
 
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I've been thinking about this question for a couple days. My instinctual answer was "yes" but then I really thought about that and realized that's probably hindsight talking. My first time getting fucked was also with the first guy I sucked off, but several months apart - up to that point I was pretty regularly blowing him, and had graduated up to also regularly blowing a couple of other guys our age that we both knew, though everything was pretty DL for the most part - I don't know that any of them knew that I was sucking them all off on average once a week. My god the summer after this started was hot LOL.

Anyway, we spent a weekend together out of town down out at the beach, got pretty drunk, were messing around, I'd already blown him earlier in the night, and we were enjoying being able to take our time exploring each other's bodies. He was only really into making out and occasionally jerking me off, though he'd never do that spontaneously - it would only happen if we had time and after I'd suck him off. Seeing as we had the weekend to have fun, and nobody around to interrupt us, and were feeing no pain due to terrible cheap beer, he was being a lot more affectionate than usual (he was never a dick or cold but the dynamic between us wasn't really mutually affectionate per se). I was enjoying making him hard and teasing him, pretty much edging him but I didn't know that was a thing at the time. He was doing the same, teasing me both literally and figuratively (the latter being more about him being super clued in to my desires, and it was already clear to both of us that I was getting off BIG TIME just from getting to touch and worship his body and cock, so he would tease me by showing off his muscles and cock and body hair etc., and encouraging me to explore him and to do things to make him moan etc.)

I do recall that I kept opening my legs and pressing my hips and butt against him, but I wasn't consciously thinking "I want you to fuck me" it was just happening naturally. Eventually his fingers found their way toward and then in my hole, and it pretty much snowballed from there. Between that, my general lust for him, his dirty talk, and the length of time we'd been messing around that evening, it was a given what was going to happen. I realize now that I was extremely lucky and am grateful that I got my first time with somebody who was super patient, kind, and in the generalist of senses somewhat experienced (he had fucked several girls up to that point, including at least one anally, so while he wasn't a sex god yet he at least knew the basics to guide us). It was still awkward as hell - he'd never fucked a guy - and he also didn't last long one he got inside me because he wasn't anticipating the tightness. But he'd spent time leading up to it to play with my hole, finger me, get me loosen up and relaxed (he didn't eat my hole out that first time but he did try that a couple fucks later and lucky me he really dug it LOL).

I feel pretty confident about that first time being when I first learned I was a bottom... but it took a bit of time after that before I knew I was a bottom, if that makes any sense? I tried topping - it was with another friend I was sucking off; my first-time guy had zero interest in trying that, but once he started fucking me on the regular it didn't take long before I basically offered up my hole to 4-5 guys I was sucking off pretty regularly and 2 more of them took me up on it. I just wasn't into it and didn't enjoy it, and whenever I'd try, or whenever I'd be the one getting sucked, all I could think about was how much I wanted to suck him or get fucked instead. My experimentation extended to girls too (hence my 10%). Every time I tried something new it paled in comparison to getting fucked and the rush I got from making guys cum.

So it didn't take too long before I just pretty much started exclusively bottoming and developing confidence and pride in that, practicing whenever the opportunity arose (ahem) so I could become a great fuck, and unlocking the ways I get pleasure from my hole. To me it made more sense to lean into the stuff I realized immediately that I enjoyed and felt amazing, instead of trying to make fetch happen with stuff I wasn't that into.
 
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my current bf says from a young teen he knew he was gay and only wanted to be the fuckee not the fucker, imaging being taken by a guy, and now he's done it with me he's even more sure that is what he needs, wants, likes - i've asked him if he has any desire to be the fucker and he says the idea of it does nothing for him at all - maybe some guys are just born/know what they are/want to be and thats that?
 

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Getting fucked properly ie. gradually, comfortably then building, for the best time and a hot well built boy inside me I liked it so much I said to myself, 'how can something as good as this be wrong'.

From then on I never felt happier being gay.