It's damn interesting to hear the female take on this one. I'm dealing with neighbors who separated two months ago for the second time in Five years. On each ocassion, the wife plotted and planned her careful departure over few months. This time she told her husband that she was off to walk the dog and never returned. He tracked her down through her family and found that she had flown to another state to start over. Last week, it appeared that amends have been made and she may be returning home to be with him. Then they had a conversation about the first time she left, five years ago, and she confessed that after leaving, she fell into a relationship with a guy that she met while alone at a movie. He walked up to her and asked her out. The relationship lasted, she said, for two months. The whole time she was talking and kind of dating her husband and deciding if she wanted to get back together. Now... here is where the help is needed. She swears to her husband that during the two months, the man would come to her new home/condominium and that they were never intimate. She says that they would sit on the sofa and watch movies. They never laid in bed to watch movies, he didn't kiss her accept to say hello and good bye on the cheek, there was no touching private parts directly or indirectly. She says, not everyone thinks that way. But she met her husband long ago and they had intercourse on the second date, on his sofa. Personally, her husband and I believe she fucked the guy, probably many times. I believe they had full-out oral and penetrative sex and that the relationship fell apart. She's older than the guy and he got what he wanted and split over time. If she had told him this, he would have believed her and still took her back. Now she's coming home and this "lie" is looming over the relationship. He had never cheated on her until she told him about this guy. Then he met a women and fucked her in his bed. Note: She told him that she wasn't wrong to see the guy because they were separated.. she had moved out. She believes she was wrong for not telling him during the five year period that they've been back together. And Now that she's planning to come home, she's pissed because he won't say if he's getting laid in her absence. Go figure. Ok..women... and men. Is she lying? What is your gut? Note also that she and her husband were not having sex for over a year when she left. She wanted it but the husband lost interest. They had intimacy problems and planned to get help.