difference between friendly gym talk and flirting?

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  1. hunGreek

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    Hello people, im in a a bit of a pickle here :p:p

    there is this guy at the gym that ive recently met, im pretty sure he is gay (ausie bum underwear, amazing body, interested in theatre and all those stereotypes we like to deny :))
    and we are very friendly and talkative at the gym, i spot him, he spots me, we talk all the way through our routines about everything, (he does talk to other people too though, generaly friendly attitude)

    and im very confused, is he interested? or is he just very friendly in general? i rarely socialise with people that i have no interest in, so its very dificult for me to judge.. any pointers ?
     
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    joffreyxxl New Member

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    He might just be friendly, or really interested! Go and grab a coffe with him after your work out routines, and who knows what else you will grab.....
    Good luck,
    Joff
     
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    I wear Aussie Bum underwear once in awhile, workout, and into theater (I'm an artist). Does that make me gay too? Sheesh... LOL :rolleyes:
     
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    well, not in the states or in other countries.. but for greece.. the only way to get aussie bum is to order them from their website.. so you would REALLY need to want a pair to go ot the trouble.:rolleyes:
     
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    You could make a comment to your friend on the body of a male passeryby.

    I think that would elicite a repsonse sufficient to confirm your friend's suspected sexual preference.

    Or you could go the other way and make a comment about a woman and see how he responds.
     
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    Acvtually I have noticed/wondered...

    at the gym men who wear 2Xist underwear I assume are gay...do straight men wear them?
     
  7. hung

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    Skiviez/2Xist/Baskit Underwear are not reserved for any certain lifestyle. I own one pair of each brand listed here and I consider myself quite "Straight."

    That stated, I usually freeball, but I enjoy jocks and underwear and often profile my torso and equipment with these items as a portion of foreplay.

    Enjoy life and try not to fit people into boxes.
     
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    I don't know what Aussie Bum underwear is...lol.

    But I agree with the above...shouldn't try to fit people in boxes. If you enjoy the guys company as a friend, I wouldn't take it any further.
     
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    my question wasnt about underwear... my gaydar is very finely tuned.. my question is that do you see the gym as a place to make new friends,boyfirends,girlfriends? or a place that you plug in your ipod and go do your routine?

    and since str8 people got offended by the remark, if a very pretty girl was being friendly with you at the gym, would you assume she is looking for a friend? or something more?
     
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    I agree with joffreyxxl's advice.

    If I think someone at the gym is interested in me while we are lifting - I'll slyly remark to him that it's time for me to hit the showers. If they are interested in me "that way", it's not long before they are sitting next to me in the sauna, lol.

    If your gym has no sauna or isn't the cruisy kind of gym - ask if he wants to grab a cup of coffee after working out - you'll know soon enough if he is gay and interested in you or not. :wink:
     
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    I'd suggest going to a coffee shop or something to sit down and talk. If you can get him out of the gym environment and see if he's still that friendly towards you, maybe there is something there.

    If nothing else, he'd be a friend that may slip into being more.
     
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    Ask him for a coffee afterwards and play it from there. You can then get into convos about home life, jobs etc etc and pick up the proper clues.

    That said, I failed to notice a colleague was gay when I was buying his car off him because he was talking about his 'partner' and stuff and I just thought he was being politically correct around me because he knew I'm gay. Couple of weeks later, we were talking and both 'came out' to each other which was funny cos neither had realised.
     
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    thanks guys.. coffee sounds like a fairly light proposition that wont leave me exposed if he says no.. wish me luck!..
     
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    I agree with those that say get him away from the gym also start off as friends that way you can find out bits about each other along the way so to speak, go out for a drink etc. I know as i am in similar position myself but nver ever dare openly admit.
     
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    Hey hunGreek,
    make sure to keep us posted on what happened during your coffeebreak!
    Good luck,
    Joff
     
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    I think that you just need to make every effort to read the tea leaves carefully. I mean, I'm a super friendly guy...so men and women often mistake my friendliness as signs that I am hitting on them. If they have the guts to ask me, it creates an awkward situation 'cuz I gotta tell 'em that they were wrong...that I'm just their friend. It's weird.

    If in doubt, don't ask him.

    Just my two cents' worth...
     
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    I agree with some of the others who suggested that you agree to go for coffee or a drink outside the gym - a more neutral place where any two other people who met in any other place would go to get to know each other. A place away from the gym would remove some of the pressure that a locker room situation would possibly create.

    I opted for something like this in a particular situation. A guy at the Y in Chicago several years back basically stalked me in the locker room. The first times I encountered him didn't involve a friendly "Hi, how are you?" He basically followed me to the showers and showered right next to me (in a big communal shower room where we were the only two people) while stroking his dick the whole time. Well, it was pretty obvious what he was after. I let him do this a few times and basically ignored him - I wasn't necessarily interested in responding to his "propositions" at the time. Eventually he talked to me like someone would in a normal social situation - he said hello and asked if I would be interested in a drink sometime and gave me his number (giving me the opportunity to decline). That I could agree to, and we met at a bar and took things from there. I felt more comfortable either getting to know him more or distancing myself in a place outside the gym rather than feeling the pressure to do something while both of us stood in the shower nude.

    So I'd suggest taking it to neutral territory, which will easily give you an "escape route" if you need it.
     
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