Difference In Gay and Bi Dudes

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Gay/Bi Difference in Anal/ Oral Sex Preference

Poll closed May 19, 2009.
  1. Gay/ Prefer Anal Sex over Oral Sex

    2 vote(s)
    10.5%
  2. Gay/Prefer Oral Sex over Anal Sex

    6 vote(s)
    31.6%
  3. Bi/ Prefer Anal Sex over Oral Sex

    2 vote(s)
    10.5%
  4. Bi/ Prefer Oral Sex over Anal SEx.

    9 vote(s)
    47.4%
  1. Capitolhillguy

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    As a gay man ( married eons ago) who is only interested in oral sex, I find that my online hookups end up being with mostly bi men. It seems that with gay men, buttsex is king and oral is mostly only foreplay. Bi men rarely get good head from women and marvel at my skill, so primarily they seek me out. And speaking of head, I rarely ever run into the type of skilled head that died out with the passing of so many skilled sex addicts who passed with The Plague. One only has to look at the current crop of pornstars to realize that hardly any of them know good cocksucking skill. Damn, virtually all of the guys in movies getting head in movies have to jack themselves off to cum. Sadly, this is most evident in all oral videos today. With a good cocksucker, they should always be telling you to back off lest they cum to quickly. I hear that all the time. I took notes from the aforementioned sex addicts who were so skilled:)
    Any thoughts, guys.
     
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  2. D_Jerry_Atric

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    I'm mainly into oral sex too but while I'm very good at sucking cock I'm very picky who I give oral sex to, who I 69 with, and a bit less picky who I let suck me.

    I eat my own cum/piss, but I don't like to swallow someone else's cum or have them cum/piss in my mouth or cum on my face/body. I'm OK with having a man piss on my body but I prefer to do W/S with boyfriends only. I'm mentioning piss or W/S since some people consider it to be oral sex. I'm also big into kissing as I get told this is pretty oral too and I'm a very good kisser.

    I'd like to try rimming someone as I've been told that this is oral too but while I am vaccinated for Hep A and Hep B I'd only do this to a partner/boyfriend since I would not want to use a latex barrier or dental dam at all. I was rimmed once and it was OK but I do not like the crazy queen I briefly dated who did it to me, and I'm happy that he is a learning experience now.

    I do not use my hands at all when I suck cock, like how some men will suck you off and jack you off at the same time, and I like to keep a partner/Boyfriend of mine on the edge of ejaculation with my mouth for a long time and get him to the edge of cuming and then hold off and do this for days if I can!

    I also enjoy getting sucked off and I did want my first blowjob to be from a guy in public which is what I did when I picked up a guy in a mixed crowd GLBT bar and we had sex in his car.

    I like telling a man how to suck my cock and if he has facial hair I love to rub my cockhead/balls on it and have him do other things that probably only other men know how to do. I'm not cut so I like to teach men who are cut how to suck a man with a foreskin off and how to lick the inside with all the sensitive nerve endings and how to lick my piss slit.

    I advocate safer sex so the only people who have swallowed me are boyfriends/men who I dated and this was only after I was tested HIV negative and they told me that they wanted to do this to me. I had one friend who did want to swallow me and I did not let him because he and his partner at the time were in an open relationship and I loved him and I did not want him to get into the habit of just swallowing people who he sucked and at the time I was not 100% sure of my HIV status.

    I've been told by doctors and medical professionals that swallowing is pretty dangerous and how it is not the 1970s/1980s anymore.

    The only time I once did give a woman oral sex she said I was very good at giving it but she was submissive and I gave her dominant/aggressive oral sex and I had used a crop on her earlier that day, and I got her all worked up to take my cock and get fucked (this was not going to happen) and then I did not fuck her because it would have been giving her exactly what she wanted!

    I have no desire to do other sex acts with women except for BDSM (safe, sane, and consensual!) and I have had sex dreams about doing MMF 3 ways with a male lover, and fisting a woman.

    I have never had a woman suck my cock and to be honest it does not really interest me that much. The only way I would do it would be if I were with a male partner/boyfriend/lover and a woman wanted to suck both of our cocks together or if a male partner of mine wanted to show a woman how to suck cock.

    I have no trouble meeting bisexual and gay men who are not into anal sex at all and who just do oral sex. The same goes for meeting bisexual and gay men who are big into jack off and wrestling/body contact/frottage. If a guy really wants anal sex I'll just put latex covered toys into him or finger him while I suck him. I do not use latex barriers for fingering a man since if I had a cut or broken skin I just would not do it at all, and I do not fear santorum as this is why there is soap and hot water.

    Eventually I would like to try fucking a guy but I have no desire to be in a relationship or even date a hardcore anal sex bottom or someone who just wants anal sex all the time and just wants to be fucked and nothing more. If I were to date a guy like this I'd be able to tell pretty quickly if that's all he wanted and if he was pushy about it and basically dropped his pants and asked me to fuck him when we barely knew each other I'd just leave and go home.

    I'm personally not into hook ups/1 night stands but I prefer sex in a relationship as I have tried hook ups/1 night stands and they are not my thing.

    I am also picky about who I give oral sex to since I do frequently get cuts/sores in my mouth and while I do not swallow or take cum in my mouth I only give oral sex to a boyfriend/male partner who I know and after we have talked a lot, communicated about our sexual history, and both been tested and are both HIV negative. I know you can use latex condoms for giving oral sex but I'd rather not do this at all as I want to taste/feel a bare cock in my throat/mouth and suck it for hours.

    I have friends who are POZ/HIV+ and they do not see the fact that I do sero-sorting or any of this to be bad at all.

    Some men do have to jack themselves off in order to cum. This is evident in both oral and anal sex. Also do not believe everything you see in porn as there is a lot of editing.
     
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    bi's- fuck women AND men
    gay's- just fuck men

    if you write it down enough it starts to click
     
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  5. D_Jerry_Atric

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    This is true but IME you can't really say that in general gay men are somehow more into anal sex and bisexual men in general are somehow more into oral sex.

    I know bisexual men who love anal sex and are happiest when they have a finger/toy/cock inside their anus or when a woman is doing them with a dildo, or when they are doing a man/woman and giving him/her anal sex.

    I also know gay men who are completely not into anal sex at all and just the idea of it grosses them out and is a total turn off to them.

    Unless you meant something else? :confused:
     
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