Difference in sex with or without a condom to you

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It's actually 98% when used correctly, and catching an STD two out of every hundred times doesn't meet my definition of reliable. Typical use is estimated to be about 85%. Granted, that's due to human error, but you can't claim something is reliable on a commonplace basis if people can't figure out how it's done (especially when doing it correctly is so damned simple).

Unreliable? How is it unreliable? Used correctly, condoms are over 99.99% effective in preventing pregnancies and many STDs like HIV.
 

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Gawd, this discussion makes me feel old!

In the 1960s condoms came in one size. Having the damnned thing break about half the time was an early hint that my size was larger than average. My high school gf finally decided to do it, and we used condoms for about a month until she got on the pill. After I went away to college I used them a few times in new relationships, although feeling that *SNAP* could take the romance out of the relationship. Except hearing her whisper, "When you're ready to cum, I'll take it in my mouth," could put the romance back very quick!

By 1966 or so it was safe to assume that any girl who fucked was on the pill, and I very rarely wore one after that. During my lifetime I've had sex with more than 300 women, and fewer than 400. Once I caught an STD, from my second ex-wife--Gawd, that was an awful relationship!

But in short, condoms are horrible! When magnums came out, I tried a few, and they broke less often, but as fire77 says, it's like swimming with your clothes on.
 

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For balance, I feel obligated to chime in as someone who prefers sex with condoms. However, maintaining my erections (condom or no) is not something I tend to struggle with, to be fair.

A few thoughts:

Deciding to have unprotected sex for "emotional" reasons is pure lunacy. There's no emotion strong enough to prevent a sexually transmitted infection. The only reason I'd ever go unwrapped again is if I were trying to make a baby, which . . . not likely.

Gonorrhea is a bitch! There's nothing like turning your wing-wang into a constantly oozing puss-faucet to teach someone the value of safer sex.

There are also crazy common STDs that don't always present with noticeable symptoms, like HPV. 1 in 15 Americans has HPV and 1 in 2 sexually active people will contract it at some point in their life. I had a close friend who got Chlamydia and HPV from her "committed, monogamous" relationship. I stayed up all night with her while she cried her eyes out, worried sick that she was going to develop cervical cancer. Thankfully, she dodged a bullet.

Is the sensation of protected sex different from barebacking? Yes. Does it mean the difference between "I'm not enjoying this at all," vs "OMFG, this is SO HOTT!!! I'MGUNNACUM!!!! UNF, UNF, UNF!!!!" Uh, . . . no.

I have serious doubts about guys who claim they can't feel anything with a rubber on. Perhaps you suffer from death-grip-masturbation-induced loss of sensitivity? With a condom on, I can still feel warmth and texture. The only thing I can't feel is the moisture, which is a plus in my book. Less messy.

I suspect that going condomless is a fetish for a lot of people. They get a thrill out of being "naughty." I get that, and I wouldn't have any objections if it weren't for the fact that there are millions of people in this world suffering horrifically from STDs that could be stamped out in a generation or two if everyone would just wrap it up.
 

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I suspect that going condomless is a fetish for a lot of people. They get a thrill out of being "naughty." I get that, and I wouldn't have any objections if it weren't for the fact that there are millions of people in this world suffering horrifically from STDs that could be stamped out in a generation or two if everyone would just wrap it up.

A consequence of trying to make the unnatural, natural.
 

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As so many people have pointed out, the difference between sex with and without a condom is atonishing. I don't mind in a FB situation, but in LTR, I don't want to use a condom - I want the full experience.

The sensation is completely different - I can really feel him, grip him, pull him - all in ways that I feel I can't do when he has a condom on. With a condom, his cock is more alien to me, without one, his cock is truly him. I can feel him cum inside me and I can feel him fill me. I can feel his cum leaking out of me. I can lick the cum off his cock and it tastes like us - not latex *gag*.

Someone said earlier that condoms keep the moisture off his cock...so it's cleaner. For me to hear that from my s/o I'd be heartbroken....you don't want my juices on your cock? I like my sex messy....I want his cum and my cum all mixed together and I want to feel it. No condom between me and the man I love.

But is it safe? That's a whole other question involving trust and relationships. *sigh*
 
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As so many people have pointed out, the difference between sex with and without a condom is atonishing. I don't mind in a FB situation, but in LTR, I don't want to use a condom - I want the full experience.

The sensation is completely different - I can really feel him, grip him, pull him - all in ways that I feel I can't do when he has a condom on. With a condom, his cock is more alien to me, without one, his cock is truly him. I can feel him cum inside me and I can feel him fill me. I can feel his cum leaking out of me. I can lick the cum off his cock and it tastes like us - not latex *gag*.

Someone said earlier that condoms keep the moisture off his cock...so it's cleaner. For me to hear that from my s/o I'd be heartbroken....you don't want my juices on your cock? I like my sex messy....I want his cum and my cum all mixed together and I want to feel it. No condom between me and the man I love.

But is it safe? That's a whole other question involving trust and relationships. *sigh*

QFT, exactly how i feel, especially when it comes to bodily fluids. i always find it a downer when I am having sex with a partner using a condom and I can feel his cock throb inside me when he's cumming but never get to feel his semen. i like knowing its me and my juices that he's rubbing against, not the condom and its lubricant. little turn ons like that help make sex so much more special

sex is slimy, hot and messy. that's why it's fun :)
 
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Try it without a condom once. Especially if you are a big guy. It really is the best feeling in the world (especially doggystyle). Dont get carried away though. babies arent a laughing matter.
 

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To be honest, I have never had issues maintaining an erection with a condom on - so I personally cannot use this argument. I used condoms all the time early in my sexual career and enjoyed sex immensely with them. Then the day came that I was with a woman and I didn't have a condom on and it was AWESOME! Of course, there were the occasional slip-ups when the condom broke or something - but to have sex completely without a condom and have that sensation the WHOLE time was amazing. I loved it.

And like someone else posted, my orgasm was really big that first time. Knowing that I was gonna cum inside her was driving me over the edge - my brain was working overtime. And when I finally started to cum, feeling the warm of my cum all over my penis and hearing her gasp as I shot inside her was...just amazing.

After that I vowed to condomless sex as often as I could. Of course that meant having sex with a couple of women I probably should have worn a condom with - but thank goodness nothing came of those lapses in judgement. But I'm a strong proponent for bare sex - as long as both partners swear to monogamy and are STD free. If you can't be monogomous or suspect your partner of cheating, then wear a condom.

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As so many people have pointed out, the difference between sex with and without a condom is atonishing. I don't mind in a FB situation, but in LTR, I don't want to use a condom - I want the full experience.

The sensation is completely different - I can really feel him, grip him, pull him - all in ways that I feel I can't do when he has a condom on. With a condom, his cock is more alien to me, without one, his cock is truly him. I can feel him cum inside me and I can feel him fill me. I can feel his cum leaking out of me. I can lick the cum off his cock and it tastes like us - not latex *gag*.

Someone said earlier that condoms keep the moisture off his cock...so it's cleaner. For me to hear that from my s/o I'd be heartbroken....you don't want my juices on your cock? I like my sex messy....I want his cum and my cum all mixed together and I want to feel it. No condom between me and the man I love.

But is it safe? That's a whole other question involving trust and relationships. *sigh*

I absolutely agree. I too like my sex messy. I remember the first time I was a "messy" woman and seeing my cock covered in her juices was the biggest turn on! Or seeing the base of cock and pubic hair saturated in love juice when she gets up from riding my cock and having an orgasm. So effing sexy!

I would like to think that women like the feeling of a man cumming inside them. Some might not care for it, but feeling him finish off inside her - I think would feel great! Am I right?

Simba
 

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I absolutely agree. I too like my sex messy. I remember the first time I was a "messy" woman and seeing my cock covered in her juices was the biggest turn on! Or seeing the base of cock and pubic hair saturated in love juice when she gets up from riding my cock and having an orgasm. So effing sexy!

I would like to think that women like the feeling of a man cumming inside them. Some might not care for it, but feeling him finish off inside her - I think would feel great! Am I right?

Simba

Yeah sex without a condom is amazing and I love to feel when he is cumming inside, the intensity of the moment is unbelievable. However, I am not in a monogamous relationship and will not take the risk.
 

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My boyfriend and I after being committed for a while chose to not use them as they take away a lot of the sensations of feeling each other inside of one another. We are monogamous, but we don't like condoms and my boyfriend and I have difficulty being strangled by them when we did wear them which caused us to lose our erection level at times and enter in with a semi which made sex difficult at best. We never had anal sex outside of a committed relationship, but had we condoms would've been used.

Being able to 'feel' the other person in terms of body temperature and texture as well as the other sensations you experience from the other person during sex is so powerful and condoms tend to remove most if not all of them. With that said, safe sex is best when not in committed.

This is very similar to my experience. Like people often say, one of the benefits of monogamy is getting to skip using condoms. The feeling is more powerful. Of course, the feeling of not contracting some crazy STI is way, way, way more powerful than that...so if I had any doubt in my mind at all I'd be strapping my shit up - or practicing harm reduction and just getting a beej.


Sex with condoms its like swimming with your clothes on.

This is a great analogy. It's still fun, but it feels different. Though, I'd say it's more like swimming with a wet suit on...because sometimes it's just stupid not to.
 

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Sex without a condom feels so much better, much more texture and warmth. I love the feeling without a condom. A condom makes it so you last longer and easy cleanup, but that is about it it is like wearing a rubber glove instead of feeling something with your hand.
 
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Sex without a condom feels numb, almost like nothng. Sex with a condom is warm, wet, slippery, delicious. But there's more to it than that. I've had sex with a lot of women using condoms and I've had sex, including casual sex, with a lot of women when I was not using a condom. Most of my casual sex encounters where I used condoms I can't remember much, but every single one night stand with natural sex I can remember ever detail.

So it's more than how good it feels; without condomes there's an emotional connection thats many, many times stronger. These days I sometimes have couple threesomes and other casual relationships, and because these are set up in advance we all get tested so we can have natural sex. My vasectomy is my birth control, but before then my wife took the birth control pill with absolute reliability.

There are ways around condoms, depending on all of our circumstances.
 

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god i hate condoms, i've faked many orgasms with them because you feel nothing

HOWEVER

i'd rather deal with the minor annoyance of barely any feeling and the high chance of not cumming (even though is does make you look like some sex god who can last forever) than dealing with an STD, because there are some dirty dirty people out there

PS - fire & ice sucks donkey dick, it feels like someone rubbed tiger balm on my dick head
 

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After being with my man for about 8 months, the condom issue has caused some issues in our relationship. There is complete trust and always with eachother and are completely dedicated to one another. I feel like the condom is between us now and want to ditch them and want to enjoy the sex between us and not have the barrier.

My BF though says he feels safer with it between us. My issue is that both of us are completely clean and neither have anything/diseases to worry about. Him saying that he feels safer and that I am taking him saying that too personally is really causing an issue.

And after all the condom at this point has broken a few times, so what is the point.
 
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Meh. Anal sex really needs a condom anyways. There is all sorts of bacteria, so even if you clean or whatever you say, all that bacteria can go right up your urethra. It's a UTI waiting to happen.

But I want to try it, just rarely.

My condom broke with a woman yesterday and we didn't notice it till after I came. Being that I had already came in her, we decided to just keep going after I had some recharge time, with no condom. Amazing experience.