Different sex drives in relationships?

[EviRef44]

Hey guys, question if anyone else has big differences in sex drives within a relationship?

I am super horny pretty much all the time and he’s not at all, I’m lucky if he makes a move once a week these days. And I can’t make the move because I don’t want him to feel pressured to do anything or for him to say no.

we have talked about it before and he used to be super active but then I worry that it’s me that caused it! Any advice would be great

 

[deleted5048271]

It's the same for me. While we get together once a week and it's super horny, I want it more than that. I'm also at the point in my life where I'm sexually confident and want to sub and try BDSM.

I masturbate a lot, but the drive to explore my kinks concerns me that I may start looking elsewhere.

We've talked about my desires and he is helping me to kick things up a gear in the bedroom, even though it's not his thing. Talking honestly and openly has helped. I think he enjoys the less vanilla stuff too.

Frequency is still an issue, as life gets in the way! So sometimes I just grab him and see where it takes us.

 

[notthatguy]

My drive is most definitely too high for one person to handle.. hell for any 3 people to handle.

I am in an exclusive relationship with several females and before everyone complains, yes they all know each other and are friends.

This way I am satisfied and no one ends up in the hospital.... well usually no one... last week was pretty bad and two doctor's visits were needed

 

[Longwood8]

I've experienced that before. I love sex and jerking off and my sex drive is high and I need to get off a lot. I would wind up jerking off even more between sex sessions.

If you want sex with me, pack a lunch cause I can go all day I'm all about that marathon sex.

 

[deleted11243831]

It's the same for me. While we get together once a week and it's super horny, I want it more than that. I'm also at the point in my life where I'm sexually confident and want to sub and try BDSM.

I masturbate a lot, but the drive to explore my kinks concerns me that I may start looking elsewhere.

We've talked about my desires and he is helping me to kick things up a gear in the bedroom, even though it's not his thing. Talking honestly and openly has helped. I think he enjoys the less vanilla stuff too.

Frequency is still an issue, as life gets in the way! So sometimes I just grab him and see where it takes us.

Yo with that dick u have, I’d let u take me anywhere lol. Dm if u want a jerkoff companion

 

[deleted817718]

The difference between my sex drive and my wife’s is huge. Basically I have a normal sex drive and she has none. Fortunately she is quite open about this and we are quite clear about why she doesn’t want to have sex. Our agreement is that we march to the slowest soldiers pace, meaning as she has the lower sex drive she decides when we have sex, so she isn’t being pushed into any unwanted sexual encounters or made to feel pressured to perform. I have been kindly asked not to initiate sex but rather wait for it to be offered to me.

 

[18wheeler]

Yes.
I’m horny 24/7 and since my last daughter was born, in 2015, my wife has had ZERO sex drive.
I think it’s fibromyalgia, hormone issues, and her mirena IUD, that has killed her libido. She finds intercourse uncomfortable to painful, even with lube. So…. We’ve had sex maybe 4 times since 2015 and messed around maybe 10-15 times a year at best.

 

[amazzzed2]

I have always thought I have a fairly high sex drive. I was happy that my first wife also had a good sex drive. However, I was surprised and embarrassed when I realized that her sex drive was quite a bit higher than mine. Due to my small penis and poor performance, she ended up having affairs. I also found out later in the marriage that she had had a much bigger cock before we got married.