Dildo is OK, Pocket Pussy is not OK

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Does anyone else find it funny how it's perfectly fine if a women has, uses and openly talks about using a dildo, but if a man has a pocket pussy he better not mention it ever or be considered some kind of deviant?

Double standard? Or are dildos just not as bad for some reason?
 

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Pocket pussy?
Is that a general term for stuff like fleshlights?
And you're right there kinda is a double standard.
Think its because osmetimes people use dildos during actual sex like to dp a woman or if the guy's too small or whatever, but you never hear of someone using a fleshlight while they're gf masturbates next to them or something
 

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yeah fleshlight is what im talking about.

I mean girls like leave their dildos out and think its funny/cute I swear. or like showing everyone how comfortable they are with their sexuality.

but I feel like if a guy was caught with a flesh light he would be made fun of and ostracized lol.

I personally do not own a flesh light. I don't really want one but even if I did, I would never own one bc of how I feel they are judged.
 

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I know what the OP is saying here.

I dont know why this is, but it is. It probably has something to do with the fact that anytime a girl is outwardly sexual and shows this by having a dildo out, or talking about a dildo, or having penis decorations around the house, they think guys will get turned on by it bc it makes them come off a little slutty or at the very least sexually liberated.

But guys are already known for being obsessed with sex to the point where it's kind of gross, and they probably think a guy with a fleshlight must use that thing constantly. Or that he's some kind of loser and doesn't get any real women, where as a women can have a dildo and there will always be a guy ready and willing to fuck her.

Not trying to offend any women here. I love women, please dont get mad at us men so much. Give a guy a break once in awhile!
 

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Apart from women who believe masturbation is akin to cheating, I disagree any stigma exists about male sex toys. If anything, I think women are curious, but this tends to be an area of male sexuality men hide, Ime.

Personally, I enjoy watching men use sex toys, have purchased a few for partners, and used them with him as well. Never did I equate the toys with deviance, just as most men, save the nut cases who, again, find masturbation threatening, would find my dildo fun time hot, not problematic.
 

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I wouldn't leave a dildo laying around, it's nobody's business.

I could care less if a man has toys. Actually if he did, I'd ask if I could watch! I don't think there is a double standard. I believe some men and women are intimidated by their partner having sex toys, which probably stems from their own insecurities.
 

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Or that he's some kind of loser and doesn't get any real women...

This is my suspicion as to what's going on. Certainly not everyone is weirded out by guys talking about their masturbatory aides, and there are absolutely social pressures on women not to discuss dildos - which I guess is my long-winded way of saying I don't think things are black-and-white here - but there is a weird thing going on where guys really aren't supposed to talk about fleshlights or whatever.

I'm guessing another big part of it is good old-fashioned homophobia: That guys just shouldn't talk about anything but dick-in-pussy sex with each other, lest it be perceived as gay.
 

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It isn't something I have an issue with, but I suspect for those that do it may have less with thinking he's a loser for not getting a real woman and more to do with the mechanics involved...

It is far harder for women to simulate sex with our hands than it is for men, a dildo serves this purpose quite nicely (granted, neither a dildo for women, nor wanking for men are akin to the real thing, but as I said, I'm guessing here!) Going the extra mile to obtain a toy to do the job may seem a little overkill and obsessive.

Personally, I couldn't care less how you do it or what you use, I draw the line at picking up socks and other items of clothing you've used for the clean up after though :tongue: