Dirty Kinky and Sexy? Or Boring?

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  1. petite

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    How to talk about sex the wrong way​
    Say in a very serious boring voice, "Honey, sit down next to me. I want to talk to you about sex. I want to tell you what things I like in bed and what things I don't like so that you know, okay? Is that okay with you? Then I want you to tell me. I've set aside the next three hours. Do you think that's enough time? Okay, let's start with foreplay first..."


    How to talk about sex the right way​

    1. In your sexiest voice open the conversation with, "Want a sex slave tonight? If you do, I'm yours!" Go on from there.

    2. Sext the kinky things that you what you want to do to your lover all day long, flirting back and forth until both of you can't wait to get home.

    3. Watch porn together. Say, "Oh that's really hot! Do that to me!"



    Talking about sex should be like the best most flirtatious foreplay ever. Talking about what turns you on should make your lover want to do those things with you. When you describe your kinks it should turn your lover on. Discussing sex should never be boring!

    What would you say? How would you do it? Would it be sexy?

    How do you talk to your lover about sex and the dirty kinky things you want to do to each other?



    All responses are appreciated!
     
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  2. Daisy

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    LOL..The first paragraph made me laugh! I've had to get my bf more enthusiastic about sex talk because I really want to know what turns him on. So yes I ask him to show me porn he likes..I tell him what I like. I also love dirty x rated texting. It's a good way to discuss sex in a non threatening (bedroom) setting. And yes..I love it when we're texting and he tells me he's hard. Thats hot!
     
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    OK Seas ! I need ur digits so I can text U ! lol
     
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    I am also a big fan of dropping a text hint here and there -
    e.g 'god I wish you were here doing xyz to me right now'
    I'm currently in a new sexual relationship and am filling his head with wicked ideas and imparting my preferences in a fun way rather than a confrontational or threatening one ;)
     
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    ..I hope your new sexual relationship is hung like me.....
     
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    Why no answers from men? Do men not tell women what they like in bed?

    Thanks! I was hoping someone would find it funny. I think that's when men expect when they hear the word "talk" come out of the mouth of a woman.

    I'm just shocked at how many people on LPSG say that they could never tell their lovers what they enjoy doing in bed because it would be "boring" and ruin the fun. Boring? Not fun? Why make it boring?

    I think showing your partner porn that shows what you want in it is one of the easiest ways to explain what you want. Then you don't have to describe it!

    I bet he loves that! How wicked?
     
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    I never sexted very much, but once my ex was in the middle of class and sexted me, "I'm thinking about your cock right now." It might sound strange but to this day it is somehow one of the hottest things I've ever experienced.

    Sharing porn is fun...Once she learned my favorite kind of porn - POV blowjobs that end messily - another ex and I made a few videos just like that. Once she let me lie down with my laptop stand over my belly, to watch that kind of video while she sucked me out of view. Not that I wanted her out of the picture but it was very fun to say the least.

    When I do the sexy chat I describe in great detail how I'd eat her pussy, or how I'd put her on her knees and overwhelm her with my schlong fucking her mouth - if she's into that - a surprising number of women are, and more than just talking about it at that. =)

    Hmm, getting worked up now!
     
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    We talk throughout the day, but especially when we were getting to know eachother, we'd talk ourselves to sleep each night. A lot of open ended questions back and forth about our lives before we met, hopes, dreams, etc. Mixxed in with all that were plenty of questions about what the other enjoyed, fantasized about, and so on.

    So I think we have a good idea of what the other enjoys and wants, where lines are drawn, and so on.

    Beyond that we just have an open relationship (not open to other partners, I mean I don't feel there's anything I can't tell her) so if something new pops into my mind that tickles my fancy I'll just bring it up when the timing's right.

    When we're having sex, there's very few questions.... we're not usually asking what the other is in the mood for. If one of us wants something badly enough and not getting it, we'll just playfully demand it ;)
     
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    Yes, sexting is wickedly awesome. I get a new message every time she masturbates while I'm at work.

    Love that woman.
     
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    I'm quite envious
     
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    DAMN IT ! I tried using " Dex Knows " and damn me all to hell ! Seaside and Cougar have unpublished digits !!!! :cry: All Sexted up and no where to send ......
     
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    I have found that sometimes, when planning something kinky, a talk before can work well. I'm not into texting much, so I'm not into sexting much either. But sometimes I do, and it's another way to build up excitement for something special. Another good time for us is after sex,when I might talk about the naughty things we could do next time.
     
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    That's a good woman you've got there! I can't believe you just called it a schlong. :lmao:

    That's wonderful!

    Sexual 20 questions is fun, the "Would you do this? How about this?" because it can spark a lot of really fun conversations. The last time we did it, I was pleasantly surprised by some of his answers. We laughed a lot and it was fun and sexy.
     
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    I answered a lot of this in another thread but I'll just add that I think sex talk is dirty kinky and sexy. It would be a plus in most relantionships. Now for all of us to get there (myself included) the biggest step I've taken is sending pic's and a few message's during his day. I still haven't told him everything. I'm working on it!
     
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    I hope that this thread has helped you out with some ideas that might make it easier! Maybe you could show him some porn that shows some of the stuff you like in it to gauge his reaction before you bring it up? Maybe you could ask him to share with you which clips from xvideos.com turn him on, too?
     
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    Maybe:wink: I've seen the porn he watches and none of it is kinky, but I never know:biggrin1: I'm sure going to try since what I've been doing isn't enough!!! YET... hehehehe
     
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    I can guarantee that I can make talking about sex in your "wrong" way feel quite a bit "right". The brain's a sexual organ and the more you know, the more of it you get to play with.
     
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    I intended the first one to be humorous, especially after so many men and women said that talking about sex is boring and would kill the mood and ruin all the fun so they never want to tell their lovers what they enjoy in bed. No discussion about kinks, sex, preferences, dislikes, nothing. They expect their lovers to just figure it out on their own! That's insane to me.

    I wrote what I thought they imagined that "boring" conversation would be like, the reason why they don't want to have it. I've been insisting that if it sounds boring, then they're doing it wrong, but obviously people need things illustrated in order to get the point, don't you agree?

    It's also different if you're a man talking to a woman than if you're a woman talking to a man, no? Men fear the words "We need to talk" and the method I presented there would make most men very uncomfortable, whereas I think most women wouldn't feel as uncomfortable if a man brought the subject up the same way (not the exact same way, my lady in the first example sounds far too much like a Christopher Guest character. A man who said the exact same thing would sound very prissy.) I find it interesting that as a man it didn't sound like a conversation you wouldn't want to have. I don't want to have that conversation. I'd rather it be filled with more laughter, more flirting, and a lot more fun.

    So what would you say exactly? You say it would be sexy, so tell us!
     
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    I love sex talk. She's great about sexting me thru the day. Sometimes its subtle"I want you"
    Sometimes its" I want your hard swollen cock in me right now"

    Let me tell you. If you get any of this in the middle of the day when you least expect it and it doesnt do somethig to you.....run dont walk to the doctor, something is wrong.

    We go back and forth and by the end of the day im speeding to get home before the girl is out of school. Tip stuck to boxers from dripping.

    hell I think about it all day anyway....Ima man, but when she does this. Im useless.
    I cant do shit.

    Sometimes, I'll bait her and we spend the next 3hrs casually talking about something sexual.
    By the end of the night, she'll say it, "Talkin about sex all day has got me worked up"

    Porn can be good. Play it right and you'll find out soem things about each other you didnt know.
     
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    Petite the entire idea of me trying to sound sexy is unbelievably funny. If you met me and you saw how much I laugh and smile at everything you would laugh at the thought as well. I'm about as much of a seductress as a butterfly..... meaning some think I look the part BUT I can be really hard to follow!

    That was a horrible comparison I know but everything I thought of I couldn't make work :) I'm incrediably silly!!!!!!!!!
     
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