Most of the guys I've been with refuse to indulge in it because they feel awkward or don't think they're good at it...I have to say that it's hard for me to understand. (It's true that working as a phone sex operator for over a year helped me hone my skills, but it's also true that I was a natural from the get-go.) The thing is, I'd rather someone refuse to do it than try it only to sound completely ridiculous...people who are good at their game are the biggest turn-on ever, but silence is a lot sexier than botched attempts. I do realize this makes it hard for people who want to learn to "get better". What phrases/words instantly make you soft/dry? My turn-offs: - talk about "making love", or otherwise expressing overwrought emotional sentiments that aren't really appropriate for a fuck-buddy situation with someone I hardly know (though honestly, those two words are icky even with a long-term partner) - calling my vagina anything associated with a garden: this isn't the Georgia O'Keefe exhibit - when a guy who is NOT hung acts like he is and says something like "You can't wait for my massive cock, huh?" I guess I'll have to, because you don't have one. This is not to say that smaller guys can't verbally entice me with their goods, but better to focus on something that's real - how hard it is, how full your nuts are, etc. - attempts to sound intellectual by bringing way too many fifty cent words into the bedroom. I'm a smart girl, but save the thesaurus for your doctoral dissertation. I'm sure I'll think of a few more, but I'm curious to hear from others!