Dirty talk - where is the line drawn?

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  1. sbat

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    I've always let my current girlfriend set the boundries of dirty talk as I have with a previous gf way overstepped the line with something completely cruel, and I now don't trust myself. She enjoys the whole degrading, whore thing - but it stays quite firmly only in the bedroom.

    I did once tell her, when I saw some small change on my bedside dresser - " I left you money for last night" to which she replied "Oh, but that's too much"

    What kinds of line do you ladies draw in terms of dirty talk? Does it stay only in the bedroom? Really raunchy? Romance only?
     
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    Hello, sbat! You've been gone awhile it seems!

    Hmmm, something said between two lovers, myself and my partner has loose limits. I've had mine say, "your my little slut aren't you..." and it didn't upset me. It was kinky and fun during the moment.

    I think it depends on how he says it to me. I don't really like the way the people talk to each other in porn, I have to turn the volume off when they go overboard and most porn just sucks anyway to me :rolleyes:

    The money comment is funny, I would have said "oh no honey, I've already got your credit card" lmao...

    I think as long as you are having fun and you've been with someone awhile it's ok. I tend to shy away from saying some things, mainly just because I feel weird saying them. But dirty, nasty talk in my ear during sex really ramps up my arousal. It doesn't even have to be profane just something sexy.
     
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    I have no boundaries where dirty talk is concerned in the bedroom........i don't care how degrading it is,it gets me soOooOOOoOOo horny! One thing though......i have to know he really doesnt think i'm all the things he is saying i am.....does that make sense?

    Don't get me wrong,i have to be in a really durrrrrrty mood for dirty talk,sometimes i like romance and romantic words whispered down my ear......
     
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    I don't like degradation at all. I don't want to be called a slut, whore, cunt, bitch etc etc.

    I don't find it erotic, I just get upset.

    For some reason I'm fine with anything related adjectives, just not nouns.

    So, I'm okay with dirty girl, naughty girl, maybe even slutty girl if during sex with my partner and even then it's "his" dirty girl etc as to not imply I'd do that with just anyone because I wouldn't. I still would never want to be called a "bad" name. I don't find it arousing at all.
     
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    There's supposed to be a line? :eek: :wink:


    It totally makes sense. I feel the same way. If he really felt that stuff it wouldn't be sexual anymore and I certainly wouldn't be screwing him - I would be running far, far away.

    As long as we have a great relationship and I know he respects me, he can dirty talk me as much as he likes. It's a massive turn on for me. And if he's doing it outside the bedroom, all thee better. Then it works as a promise of what is to come.
     
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    I used to know this guy who got off by talking dirty while I sucked him off ... he would call me "fag," "whore," cum-guzzling slut," that kind of stuff. And I told him that if he was expressing some actual contempt he had for gay people, I would not tolerate it, but if it was just for fun, then I enjoyed it too. Isn't it weird how our minds can respond like that, in completely different ways to the exact same words?
     
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    I'm not much on the 'whore/slut/cunt' bullshit.

    Actually, I'm not much for talking, unless we're directing each other toward better moves.


    I *DO*, however, love the natural grunts and moans a guy does, and the sounds of him breathing hard. The more he does, the better it is for me :D
     
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    When I'm chatting with guys here on the site, some of them I find are very aroused when I call them dirty names. There's a bit of sassiness, that can be quite a turn on. But there is a difference between 'sassy' and 'totally disrespectful'. I can take it in the chatroom, but if you but if you are passing it out, you better be prepared to take it from me, too. What's that your mom used to say? If you can't take it, you better not dish it out?? :wink:

    HOWEVER, when it comes to actually having sex, the name calling (Like slut, whore, bitch, etc.) is a reall turn off. I don't mind the dirty talks that applies to the sex, such as: "oh God, Fuck me harder, I love your cock" or "what a great pussy you have there". I think there is a place for "dirty" talk...and the line can only be crossed if it has been well-defined. Otherwise, it's all fair game.:biggrin1:
     
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    I prefer innuendo over the usual dirty talk. Requires more skill and finesse.
     
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    Other than a few no-nos, there's always room to maneuver. If the relationship is strong and there's mutual respect, I do not have an issue with variety in dirty talk. Once or twice, I have been in the midst of really mind blowing sex and asked "am I a dirty, little slut?" and made him respond that I was... and the best one ever, too. :biggrin1:

    Does it stay only in the bedroom? Yes.

    Really raunchy? Yes, please!

    Romance only? No, but a combination is nice.
     
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    Personally, I find fake "I love you" talk cheapens and degrades the actual sentiment and can't stand it. Anything else is fair game, though.
     
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    For some reason I like it when my husband calls me “little girl” during sex and sexual activity (it’s a whole different thing outside the bedroom). Maybe this makes us some kind of perverts, but it really produces a strong response in me.

    I don’t call him Daddy or anything, and we don’t roleplay as child and adult, but just the phrase “little girl” is arousing to me, as are related phrases such as “bad little girl” or “slutty little girl.”

    That said, although I am submissive and enjoy some kinds of humiliation play, I really don’t get off on being called a slut, a dirty whore, a cunt, or anything like that. It just sounds too strange coming from the lips of a man who I know loves and respects me more than anyone else in the world.

    I am fine with using frank words like “cock,” “pussy,” or “fucking” to refer to our equipment and what we do with it, though, both inside and outside the bedroom. But I don’t really consider that dirty talk.
     
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    The dirtier and nastier, the better. Pull my hair, spank my ass and call me names. But I have to be in the mood for it and it has to be with the right partner, cause not every guy is good at dirty talk.
     
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    I don't like real 'I love you' talk during sex. Ruins the mood entirely for me.



    I find it arousing too! Although my FB also calls me 'little one' outside the bedroom occasionally.
     
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    Im like Fleur. I'm not into the whole humiliation talk. Yes, we do talk dirty to one another and I constantly tease him outside of the bedroom. He's very self-conscious about his size, so I love to tell him that his big wanker is showing! He's so cute and gets red. In the bedroom... well, what happens in there stays in there.
     
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    I don't mind dirty talk...the extreme stuff is ok if he tells me in advance. White guy calling me Ni**er is ok....as long as he told me he was gonna say it beforehand.
     
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    I for one dislike dirty talk in bed - makes me feel like I'm in a bad porno or something. I do like talk in bed and *real* stuff such as, *baby that feels amazing* or *damn your cock feels so fucking good* or *god your pussy is so wet* But, non of the Nasty Nick type talk - *in your face you whore*
     
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    Same here - I find it insulting.

    That's me too! I sometimes find talking distracting. But I love the grunts and moans!

    I don't mind that too much either, I sometimes find it (or any kind of talking) distracting, but I won't get upset. I just find the degrading type of name-calling insulting.
     
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    Yeah, I agree, love grunts and moans. But, the biggest turn on ever for me was when my last partner would tell me to 'cum all over my big dick'.

    I always loved it and always did almost right away when he said it.
     
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    Fuck thats hot. And not just because Ive said that my self often.
     
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