Discomfort Watching Guys "Doing" It

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_Hung Jon, Dec 7, 2007.

  1. B_Hung Jon

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    I'm wanting to hear other peeps opinion on this issue. I haven't seen that many guys having sex with each other but when I have I feel self-conscious as fuck. I've seen some guy-on-guy porn and I always feel a little uncomfortable watching it. They look so vulnerable being together intimately. Do you think this is a homophobic reaction or just my own fear? I don't care what other people do sexually with each other, but watching it feels strange sometimes. Thanks.
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    so in your profile you say your 90 % gay and 10 % str8 what part of you is gay----and why feel uncomfortable in watching----In my opinon sex is suppose to be a natural thing between people that is shared behind closed doors, watching it on porn is a different thing that was made for our entertainment....when you have watched it are you alone or with someone???
     
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    Dude, guy-on-guy porn is so GAY!!!

    Heh, in all honesty, gay porn makes me cringe a bit, you're not alone - to each their own, but it's certainly not my cup of tea.
     
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    not saying it was my cup of tea either---not really into it, and I'm not going to participate in it but like you said kazoo to each his/her own----as long as your not doing it in my front yard I don't have a problem with it
     
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    As beachboywb pointed out, you say you're 90 % gay and 10 % str8. To me, it's just plain weird that you feel that way. Seeing two or more guys having sex really excites me to the point that I'm hard in a nano-second and want to join them.
     
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    I am confused. I read the topic originator and he stated 90% straight. Did I read this incorrectly?
     
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    He's always said 90 percent straight.
     
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    I felt the same way at first. And then I found some gay porn with guys that I was attracted to. After I watched Tiger Tyson and Supreme/Castro fuck with Supreme/Castro being the bottom, I got hard as a rock in a nanosecond. And they had a certain rapport that made it seem more natural than an act.

    But man, find one where you are attracted to one of the guys, and it changes completely.
     
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    Perhaps in the back of your mind the uncomfortable feeling comes from a reaction that gay sex is wrong, I'm gay and I still from time to time question on some level gay sex is not acceptable. I don't like that feeling because I do know I was born as a homosexual and really would like to feel entitlement that seems to comes with heterosexuality.....or I'm just babbling lol
     
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    if you don't like watching man-man action...

    Don't watch it!

    Next problem?
     
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    sounds like guilt to me. I would guess guilt from enjoying something that your conscience tells you is wrong.
     
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    It means you don't like watching man-on-man action. I don't like watching lesbian porn but it doesn't mean I'm afraid of women or anything else. It's just not my preferred viewing material...
     
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    Sorry to everyone. I think I "mis-spoke". What I mean is this. Guys look very vulnerable when they're having sex with each other. At least to me. I'm not offended by it or freaked because of the sex part. It just makes me feel different than girl on guy stuff. It doesn't gross me out at all. It makes me feel like guys are more emotionally sensitive than I realized. Maybe that's where the discomfort comes in. This site has a lot more guy/guy photos & vids so it's been an education for me. I haven't had a lot of "just sex" with other guys. All my experiences have been with peeps I'm close to. Sorry again for the misunderstanding. I was just interested in other's feedback.
     
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    Vulnerable? You mean someone could sneak up on them and catch them in the act? Or perhaps you are afraid that someone could catch you watching them? Velly interesting! :rolleyes: Your case is a psychiatrist's wet dream.:wink:
     
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    Funny. My gay friend feels the same way about straight porn. He just doesn't get it. It makes him uncomfortable and he questions why girls want boys to just fuck them like they are a piece of meat. He put up watching it with me... but I think we were both kinda awkward around it. The gay porn worked much better for the both of us. He responds much better ;P
     
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    Does 'vulnerable' = 'submissive' in this usage, Hung Jon?
     
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    you know on a similar note
    I cannot bring myself to watch straight porn
    because
    it makes me feel
    kinda
    awkward
    whatever

    I'm sure I have some kind of psychological issue or something in that regard
     
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    I was wondering what you mean by "vulernable"? Like being used by the top? Not actively using thier dick so maybe not getting anything from the action? or what? If this is the case, I like both to give and recieve, i can have as much fun making a man cum as cumming my self and dont think either is more vulernable, if that is what u mean.
     
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    I wrote about this a little bit in my last blog post but I think it might be applicable here.

    Watching guys have sex is an intense experience because it appears one is submitting completely to the other. That's not what's happening. If a guy bottoms or sucks off another man then it's his choice to do so. The man who is topping or getting sucked is actually the one who is submitting. He's allowing control of the experience to pass from himself to the man who is allowing penetration. If the receiver did not want to do these things then he would not do them and the act would not take place. If a guy is getting fucked then it's his choice to get fucked. If a guy is sucking another guy then it's his choice to suck.

    With straight porn there's a tendency to automatically equate female with submissive and male with dominant. When we see men take on the apparently passive role there's a little shock to our expectations of what role the male should take. That's a socio-culturally loaded expectation and one that, in porn, misleads. Porn is exaggerated, less real than we'd like. Many times the people being filmed feel as if they have to act certain roles.

    A few weeks ago I was at a bear run, essentially an orgy for bears, otters, and admirers, and I had the privilege of watching two men who were very in love with each other. The sex was nothing like it was in porn. It was beautiful to watch these two men express their sexual desire in love and respect. I felt deeply moved to see something so intimate and it gave me hope that one day I'd find something similar in my life.

     
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    I think I get what he is saying. I know i am pretty particular about the straight porn i watch because it seems like so much of it is demeaning to women. I get turned off when I think the woman is not enjoying it. Whereas some guys enjoy it being all about them, or being in total power and forcing themselves on a chick.

    Gay porn . . . well it seemed weird to me at first. It can still be quite comical at times.

    I dont think youre discomfort wiht gay porn is masking some sort of homophobia or whatever. Its just not for you. And that's okay. Dont sweat it so much and just watch/do stuff that does turn you on.

    No one is forcing you to watch the stuff, right?
     
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