I'm curious about how many here have discovered something unexpected or new about someone they are or were in a relationship over a long period of years and how did it make you feel?
Ever since we got married and when feeling in a particularly romantic mood, I'd sing to my wife usually a song that would have significance to either one of us. She always loves this and claims I have a good voice (aside from the fact I was in the choir for one year in High School, I guess I believe her
). But this was always a one-way street and it never occurred to me to ask her to reciprocate.
A few years back when I was giving her what she likes using an online karaoke site to try new songs, I told her on a whim "Your turn to sing now. Pick one". While she was hesitant at first, she nevertheless tried and surprised the hell out of me. She actually was good and had a beautiful voice. After spending 30 years together with this woman at this point, this was like discovering an unknown side to her that was always there, but I never thought to explore. I not only felt pride for her, but was more than a little aroused.
Since I was well aware I could be somewhat biased, I asked her to sing for a couple we used to know as the husband was big into the amateur/independent music scene and had his own band that performed small functions mostly on an unpaid, volunteer basis. Not only did he agree with me, but was interested in using her for one of his gigs to supplement his male vocalist. However before that came to pass we had drifted away from them for other reasons and shortly afterwards retired from the lifestyle. Yet it was at least confirmation my initial evaluation was correct.
In a small way I regret not discovering this sooner and taking advantage of it back when karaoke used to be the highlight at some family get togethers (being introverted, we both always declined to participate). I've also asked her about maybe exploring her talent further, but she seems to have little interest.
So how many members have found out something only years later about your significant other you never knew or thought possible after you thought you knew all there was to know? While this could obviously include discovering something negative (like say cheating), I'd be really interested in positive ones. Something that made you not only love them more, but confirm you made the right decision by choosing them. Stories please.
Ever since we got married and when feeling in a particularly romantic mood, I'd sing to my wife usually a song that would have significance to either one of us. She always loves this and claims I have a good voice (aside from the fact I was in the choir for one year in High School, I guess I believe her
A few years back when I was giving her what she likes using an online karaoke site to try new songs, I told her on a whim "Your turn to sing now. Pick one". While she was hesitant at first, she nevertheless tried and surprised the hell out of me. She actually was good and had a beautiful voice. After spending 30 years together with this woman at this point, this was like discovering an unknown side to her that was always there, but I never thought to explore. I not only felt pride for her, but was more than a little aroused.
Since I was well aware I could be somewhat biased, I asked her to sing for a couple we used to know as the husband was big into the amateur/independent music scene and had his own band that performed small functions mostly on an unpaid, volunteer basis. Not only did he agree with me, but was interested in using her for one of his gigs to supplement his male vocalist. However before that came to pass we had drifted away from them for other reasons and shortly afterwards retired from the lifestyle. Yet it was at least confirmation my initial evaluation was correct.
In a small way I regret not discovering this sooner and taking advantage of it back when karaoke used to be the highlight at some family get togethers (being introverted, we both always declined to participate). I've also asked her about maybe exploring her talent further, but she seems to have little interest.
So how many members have found out something only years later about your significant other you never knew or thought possible after you thought you knew all there was to know? While this could obviously include discovering something negative (like say cheating), I'd be really interested in positive ones. Something that made you not only love them more, but confirm you made the right decision by choosing them. Stories please.