I gotta question for the ladies when comes to discussing sexual topics with a man.
Generally speaking, how honest are you with a man when it comes to discussing sexual topics?
Are there certain topics you don't quite tell the truth about especially when it comes to things like number of partners you've had, sexual preferences, or things you're insecure about maybe or suspect that you're partner could be or might be?
The only reason I ask is that I'm a good observer and listener of people in general. I do notice that women tend to contradict themselves when it comes to discussing sexual things. I suppose it's frustrating for some men (like me) who really are confident and secure and non judgmental and truly want to know a woman's mind.
However, when you get into a conversation with some women they definitely make it obvious they are hiding somethings when they contradict themselves.
I'll illustrate with a real world example. Let's say a woman says to you that she had a lover who was way younger than her, says he was not cute, had no job, got into trouble a lot, BUT was very well endowed and that she had sex with him three days a week for 15 minutes during her lunch break from work and it was just for sex. That same woman will also tell you that penis size isn't important to her in the least and never has been. But she'll post a remark on her facebook "9 inches 15 minutes" during the time she was banging the guy.
Now, any man, confident with himself or insecure is going to be able to see the contradictions. I just use this example to illustrate a frustration men have sometimes with women. I think if you're going to tell your stories voluntarily (as was this case) then be honest. Some of us men are really put off by obvious contradictions. It's kind of insulting to your intelligence type thing. So, what's up with that? Are we really that fragile in your minds?
I'd say it would be a lot more fun to just be open and honest. Like, hell yeah, he wasn't anything but a big dick to fuck and I liked it. He had nothing else going for him and I needed sex and that was his purpose in my life. I got what I needed. I'd rather hear truths than obvious contradictions. Anyone want to remark on the question of honesty in general when it comes to talking about sex with a man?
Generally speaking, how honest are you with a man when it comes to discussing sexual topics?
Are there certain topics you don't quite tell the truth about especially when it comes to things like number of partners you've had, sexual preferences, or things you're insecure about maybe or suspect that you're partner could be or might be?
The only reason I ask is that I'm a good observer and listener of people in general. I do notice that women tend to contradict themselves when it comes to discussing sexual things. I suppose it's frustrating for some men (like me) who really are confident and secure and non judgmental and truly want to know a woman's mind.
However, when you get into a conversation with some women they definitely make it obvious they are hiding somethings when they contradict themselves.
I'll illustrate with a real world example. Let's say a woman says to you that she had a lover who was way younger than her, says he was not cute, had no job, got into trouble a lot, BUT was very well endowed and that she had sex with him three days a week for 15 minutes during her lunch break from work and it was just for sex. That same woman will also tell you that penis size isn't important to her in the least and never has been. But she'll post a remark on her facebook "9 inches 15 minutes" during the time she was banging the guy.
Now, any man, confident with himself or insecure is going to be able to see the contradictions. I just use this example to illustrate a frustration men have sometimes with women. I think if you're going to tell your stories voluntarily (as was this case) then be honest. Some of us men are really put off by obvious contradictions. It's kind of insulting to your intelligence type thing. So, what's up with that? Are we really that fragile in your minds?
I'd say it would be a lot more fun to just be open and honest. Like, hell yeah, he wasn't anything but a big dick to fuck and I liked it. He had nothing else going for him and I needed sex and that was his purpose in my life. I got what I needed. I'd rather hear truths than obvious contradictions. Anyone want to remark on the question of honesty in general when it comes to talking about sex with a man?