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I have been seeing my therapist for one year and he is very easy to talk to. However I find it really hard to talk about sex hookups. I have opened up generally about what I don't like to do eg. anal. However I don't want to admit that I have random hookups. I know that he is curious and broached it but I told him that I struggle to share such intimate details.
As our therapy explores my issues with relationship intimacy and shame I am unsure if I need to tell him that I have had meaningless hookups. Is it not enough that he can suspect it or do I need to say it out loud? My intuition says that I need to tell him but it's so humiliating to me.
What do you think? Would you tell your therapist that you glanced at a person's groin area and then went to a public place and fooled around? I'm afraid of judgement. I'm probably mistaken in assuming that most people have casual public hookups so can't I just keep this to myself and discuss everything else? He is a straight man and is about 10 years older than me which makes it more difficult. He is married.
As our therapy explores my issues with relationship intimacy and shame I am unsure if I need to tell him that I have had meaningless hookups. Is it not enough that he can suspect it or do I need to say it out loud? My intuition says that I need to tell him but it's so humiliating to me.
What do you think? Would you tell your therapist that you glanced at a person's groin area and then went to a public place and fooled around? I'm afraid of judgement. I'm probably mistaken in assuming that most people have casual public hookups so can't I just keep this to myself and discuss everything else? He is a straight man and is about 10 years older than me which makes it more difficult. He is married.