A few of you may remember me. I was the annoying, yet somehow enjoyable, sex-fiend with a highly prolific (some may even say prodigious) post count, right out of the gate, when i joined, just under a year ago. I was energetic and spunky. Funny (i think) and even sometimes insightful. So, what happened? Many, if not most, of you don't even know who i am. You can see by the word under my avatar that I am a "Moderator," but you don't recall seeing any contribution from me. Some of you who do remember me probably wonder where i went. A greater few of you probably don't give a rat's shitworm. Well, there are many factors at play here. I was living for a time with one of my best friends (Snoozan), and we had a falling out. There's no need for details on that. She and I are both adults and we both claim and accept our fair shares of responsibility for our falling out. However, at the time, it was dire, and i decided, for better or worse to move out. I was homeless for a time. And then i was couch-crashing for a time. And then i was sleeping on a day-bed in an office for a time. Finally I found a stable home and settled in. Snooz and i have since mended our fences. Now, at the same time i was floating in semi-homelessland i was attending school and working odd hours. School is great. I love school. The odd-houred job wasn't so great. Naturally, i wasn't busy enough so I started a serious relationship as well. And then switched jobs abruptly. So, here i am... estranged from one of my best friends, crashing in the office of a near-stranger, working, schooling, romancing... and LPSG suffered the consequences. I simply didn't have time to be here. Those of you who were close to me at all understood. And life went on. And life settled down. I tried a few times to get back into the LPSG groove. Yet, each time i tried to come back i found myself disappointed by one or more members whom i'd once had great respect for. It just keeps happening. There are members here who i once admired, almost to the point of adoration; and now, all i'm left with is sour resentment. I'm not going to name any names, and please don't ask me to. This isn't kindergarten, and i don't need a wall of friends behind me to support my opinion. I'm simply explaining why i haven't been here very much. But while i'm here, i may as well use my pulpit to speak out against a grievous trend i've noticed from my distant perch: Mod-Bashing. Yes, yes, i see you all there looking at the blue letters under my name. I hear your thoughts: "he IS a mod, of course he would stick up for them... he's ONE of THEM!" While your argument would seem solid, it isn't the case. I AM a mod, but i am also a member. I have contributed much to this forum. I have a lot invested in it. I am a Member before I am a mod. I can't speak for the other mods, but i'm sure most of them feel the same way. The reason I think Mod-Bashing is so dangerous is because people make a lot of huge assumptions when they do it. They assume, for instance, that they have a right to why the mods did "x" and who voted for it. Sorry, it doesn't work that way. I was not elected to my position as a mod. I do not have a constituency. I do not represent y-number of members. I represent myself. I look at each situation i am presented with and decide, FOR MY SELF, weather i think an action is warranted. I do not answer to any of you, and i don't think it's fair that any of you would ask me to. I don't think it's fair that you ask ANY of the mods, co-administrators, or even owner to answer to you. We're all adults here, and the only people we have to answer to are ourselves. The moderators simply ensure that nobody abuses the freedoms bestowed upon them. We make sure the rules are followed. We try to maintain peace. I think it's fair to say that we are a varied group of people, and that our only common agenda is to keep LPSG great. So why is it that some of our members insist on mistrusting us? Why do they ask us to be held accountable to the masses... when they don't expect themselves to be held accountable to anyone but themselves? I'm not going anywhere. And with any luck I will find the time and energy to make my presence known to all, like it once was. All I ask in return is that you, the masses, treat me like you do everyone else around here. Don't revere me, because you fear my wrath. I'm not vengeful (usually). Don't hate me because i wield a power you do not. I'm not any more powerful than you are. I'm a member, just like you are, only i have a few more headaches.