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Your mother doesn't have to be an important person in your life.

I would suggest that you start living your life with this attitude. You can change it later as you wish.
 

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I guess it goes further then that, you probably seek out women similar to your mom to get the approval you yearn for from them.
Which is pretty much a destructive cycle.

But you're 23 years old, the time to blame other people or things for your current situation is no longer valid.
Only thing that is happening is that you are letting/enabling past events to control your life. Not your mom, not God or destiny or wherever the finger is pointing at.
It is you and you alone.
 

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I guess it goes further then that, you probably seek out women similar to your mom to get the approval you yearn for from them.

This is a freudian phallacy. I agree with the rest of what you say though.

OP, cut the umbilical and lead your own life. You can choose your friends, but not your family. We would all love to have a perfect mommy, but that's a fantasy, some women are terrible mothers.
 

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Have heard so many stories of how Gracious Grandparents have raised there children's children matey
Maybe they have needed a 2nd go at it to be such wonderful loving/caring people
Perhaps you can take your Grandmothers example of how a Woman really is and be thankful she has brought you up to appreciate Women for what they are
Their is always hope
 

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Just my perception of things are screwed.

thats the great thing about screws, you can unscrew them.

I don't want to give out a father to son like speech but heck here goes.

You can be whatever you want to be, you can go to tibet shave your head and be a buddhist monk if you willed it or be a pilot and strand with a group of strangers on a magical island that is lost in time for all I care.

It doesn't matter what you choose to do but right now you are choosing to let your mom be the reason you can't move on.

Let the past be the past, your mom isn't there right now holding a gun to your head saying you should hate women because of her treatment years ago.
 

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I think most of you don't know what's it's like to be rejected by your immediate family. They pretty much dumped me onto my grandparents. for about 9-10 years. Tye only wanted me back for their personal financial gain. Which was fucked up. I think everything would have been all right if I would ahve just stayed with my grandparents .
you're not the only person to have come from a thoroughly fucked up family. but there comes a point where you have to decide whether you're going to let it define you and stay fucked up forever, or if you're going to try to repair the damage and thrive regardless.
 

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Problems with women can often be traced to poor relationships with older female siblings and of course a Mother. Domineering females and even recessive females can cause a world of problems as one is growing up. This is one that needs professional therapy and time to deal with. A Board is not going to give you the help you need. . . .
 

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Problems with women can often be traced to poor relationships with older female siblings and of course a Mother. Domineering females and even recessive females can cause a world of problems as one is growing up. This is one that needs professional therapy and time to deal with. A Board is not going to give you the help you need. . . .

well yeah my oldest sister has always been mean to me . Nearly lost 1/2 " of one of my fingers because of her and yeah it is permanently disfigured .
 

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As you can read, there are many people with opinions here. They are only opinions; please don't let them guide you. The best response was to seek therapy.
 

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That would make sense, but wouldn't you just have resentment towards your mom instead of all women? Probably the women you've dealt with were shitty.
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Personally, most people in general annoy me (women tend to annoy me more than others because, in general, they're more fake) but that doesn't stop me from finding nice people who are men & women

Since you're stereotyping all women....(women tend to annoy me....they're more fake). I could say the same thing about men, too: but, I would say: "some men are all fake..." or, "the men I've met seem to be fake."
 

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Problems with women can often be traced to poor relationships with older female siblings and of course a Mother. Domineering females and even recessive females can cause a world of problems as one is growing up. This is one that needs professional therapy and time to deal with. A Board is not going to give you the help you need. . . .

This would be true if it wasn't a load of total caca.
 

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Since you're stereotyping all women....(women tend to annoy me....they're more fake). I could say the same thing about men, too: but, I would say: "some men are all fake..." or, "the men I've met seem to be fake."

You should probably read what I type before you get an opinion about what I type.

I never said "all"

& you can say what you want about men, I don't trust them for shit either lol. In some ways I trust women more than men
 

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I'm not a fan of therapy, you pay someone to tell you what you already know and or prescibe some antidepressant medication to let you function normally in society?

I'm not arguing over its effectiveness just that there are better alternatives, it's not the holy grail of mental health.
 

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I'm not a fan of therapy, you pay someone to tell you what you already know and or prescibe some antidepressant medication to let you function normally in society?

I'm not arguing over its effectiveness just that there are better alternatives, it's not the holy grail of mental health.
i'm a fan of therapy if it's the right sort of therapy given for the right sort of issues by the right kind of person.

i found it very helpful.