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I sent him some excellent advice coming from a true and similar story background such as his. One person committed suicide from the depression so the ending wasn't all that great. But being a loved one of said person I thought I could give him something he could grasp onto about how living in a depressed mode over the way you were raised and forced to gender-bend to please a parent might want to make you find a tall bridge and jump. To take control of his destiny instead and not let his mother win out by making him cold and paranoid of all women. Finding an appropriate professional to work out these issues would be beneficial. Leaving him with wishing him the very best.
But yes I have tried to kill my self before in 1995 or 1996, nearly successful in doing it, I was interrupted by my dad.. (As far as I know he does not know of my attempt). More then likely it was due to the amount of anxiety. I was bullied at school as well and that did not help at all. I tried getting help from the school but they did nothing.... all they did was kick back and collect their paycheck.


I believe he only wants attention and coddling while he scurries about looking for one more excuse as to why he won't deal with it. One more excuse about how it isn't his fault. One more reason to blame others for his behavior now. Frankly, I saw this ages ago and somehow SomePerson has continued to weave his instability into this thread when he has many paths he could take to get this shit under control. He doesn't want to. And he continues to waste peoples time who haven't figured out what his intentions are. People who are lending compassion and empathy. Makes me upset when I think about that part.
On the anxiety I can deal with most of it now days. Except for the sleeping disorder.
I'm unable to relax to get to sleep at a reasonable time.
 

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you seem to fail to understand.

either you want help or not, but all we get is excuses but this but that but but but.
Your actions here indicate you just want to tell your story and bury yourself in selfpitty while the world points and says awww that poor boy he had such a hard time.

People gave some great advice here, all you need now is to act on it to move to the next level.
 

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you seem to fail to understand.

either you want help or not, but all we get is excuses but this but that but but but.
Your actions here indicate you just want to tell your story and bury yourself in selfpitty while the world points and says awww that poor boy he had such a hard time.

People gave some great advice here, all you need now is to act on it to move to the next level.

thread over
 
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I am a combat veteran and I was a molested child. What do these have in common and how does it relate to you? Simple bro scope me out here..... Both of these are facts about me and both of them are things that are either traumatic or are attached to traumatic events. Because of the things I have experienced I have felt hate and anger much of my life for one reason or the other. The thing I came to realize though was this; as long as I felt hate in my heart I was hurting myself not the ones who hurt me. By holding on to the hate and contempt I was allowing the man that molested me to molest me everyday of my life. The ripple effect from that was that everyone around me was having to suffer from it too. I was giving him power over me. By holding hatred and anger towards certain people and cultures I was making myself stay at war everyday of my life. I finally had to accept that the things that happened to me were not because something was wrong with me or I was just bad. All kinds of stuff will happen and does happen to us, we cannot control that entirely. All we can do is control how we handle it. You are measured by your actions not your circumstance. I had to quit feeling like anyone owed me something and that if I ever could get it I would be ok. The thing was I owed me something and I was the only one that could give it to me. I owed it to myself to learn to love myself, nobody else will ever love you if you dont love yourself it all starts there. You also will never be able to love anybody. It is easy when someone is bad to you like your mom or my greatgrandfather, to feel hate. It is very important that we feel loved and accepted by our families. Those relationships are the first ones we have and we learn how to treat others and how to be treated from those relationships. I suppose as others have said that you should get some counseling. I also know in my heart that one thing you can do is look back on how far you have come and think about those things that have happened, and know that you made it through it and because of it you are so much stronger. You are stronger and harder than most anybody else ever will be. You can take away from these experiences the knowledge of how important it is to make sure those around you feel loved and protected. You know first hand the importance of doing the right thing because you know what it is like when somebody does not. I wish you the best.
 
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