dissuade size queens

[coordinatedchaos]

why is there this trend these days to discourage people from being size queens?

People are entitled to their preferences. So are all preferences bad now?

I'll say this - so people cannot have preferences sicne some guy with a little dick has hurt feelings? and wants the world to conform to comfort him?

I know it's blunt to state - but imho that's the truth of it. People get turned down for all manner of reasons - race, height, body shape, etc., even conventionally attractive people get turned down. Maybe not as often, but it happens. How many people say "I don't like Taylor Swift". Most would say she's classically hot, but she's not everybody's type.

if a person likes a big dick, so be it. they;re not evil, or the Devil, or Hitler and Stalin combined.

 

[Rooker]

why is there this trend these days to discourage people from being size queens?

People are entitled to their preferences. So are all preferences bad now?

I'll say this - so people cannot have preferences sicne some guy with a little dick has hurt feelings? and wants the world to conform to comfort him?

I know it's blunt to state - but imho that's the truth of it. People get turned down for all manner of reasons - race, height, body shape, etc., even conventionally attractive people get turned down. Maybe not as often, but it happens. How many people say "I don't like Taylor Swift". Most would say she's classically hot, but she's not everybody's type.

if a person likes a big dick, so be it. they;re not evil, or the Devil, or Hitler and Stalin combined.

I’m unaware of any propaganda campaign against size queens. Is this an online thing? Is it amongst the gay community? How is this discouragement presented?

I fully agree about preferences. I’ll try to think of reasons to dissuade though, or at least possible motivations.

 

[Rooker]

Oops, posted on accident and didn’t want to miss the edit timer.

One possible reason to dissuade might be to focus less on something physical if you want something more meaningful. I assume size-queens are in it mostly for the physical aspect plus the psychological thrill that comes along with? Like any physical attraction? Certainly people can find both short-term physical and long-term emotional attraction in the same person, but if you want both, you probably need to look for both and not hyperfixate on the other.

So it’s like any other physical preference. Again, I’m unaware of any dissuasion occurring but I’ll take your word for it. Even as it happens though, it just seems like a variation of guys who insisted they only wanted a woman who weighed less than 120 pounds. It’s cool and all, but be prepared to miss out on better experiences.

 

[SaltnPepper32]

From my own experience, I think people subconsciously view having sex with bigger guys as inherently more sexual. It sounds strange when you put it into words, but I’ve seen this play out in real life several times. Peeps in my friend group have been (playfully) labeled as “sluts” specifically for having slept with me. Even though we're all aware that we all sleep around.
It may also be that just having any preference at all makes it seem like you're actively thinking about sex, which people may interpret as "slutty". I dunno. There's also an unspoken assumption that bigger is better, maybe it's just people not wanting others to buy into the cliche?

 

[LilJock]

I agree 100%. Size preference is just like any other. I get 'em on the looks, lose 'em on the dick. That's life. Over all, it evens out. I seldom sleep alone. (Actually, I'm married, so that's very seldom!)

 

[Pepelequ]

why is there this trend these days to discourage people from being size queens?

People are entitled to their preferences. So are all preferences bad now?

I'll say this - so people cannot have preferences sicne some guy with a little dick has hurt feelings? and wants the world to conform to comfort him?

I know it's blunt to state - but imho that's the truth of it. People get turned down for all manner of reasons - race, height, body shape, etc., even conventionally attractive people get turned down. Maybe not as often, but it happens. How many people say "I don't like Taylor Swift". Most would say she's classically hot, but she's not everybody's type.

if a person likes a big dick, so be it. they;re not evil, or the Devil, or Hitler and Stalin combined.

If nobody has a little one there would be no big ones. A guy like me can make a average cock look and feel huge to the beholder. Then next to a true 9 or 10 inch one I make look truly GIGANTIC!

I'M extremely tiny and also a flaming size queen and I LOVE it!!

 

[txboy2329]

why is there this trend these days to discourage people from being size queens?

People are entitled to their preferences. So are all preferences bad now?

I'll say this - so people cannot have preferences sicne some guy with a little dick has hurt feelings? and wants the world to conform to comfort him?

I know it's blunt to state - but imho that's the truth of it. People get turned down for all manner of reasons - race, height, body shape, etc., even conventionally attractive people get turned down. Maybe not as often, but it happens. How many people say "I don't like Taylor Swift". Most would say she's classically hot, but she's not everybody's type.

if a person likes a big dick, so be it. they;re not evil, or the Devil, or Hitler and Stalin combined.

In present day, being known as a "preference queen" is definitely seen as a negative connotation in today's gay circles. It typically means a stereotypical gay white male who is only into other white males, under 40, who work out and have a nice body. I think it's really crazy to put that label on someone, especially being called racist or worse, for being sexually attracted to what you're attracted to. I have had multiple men of color call me that for me saying, I'm not interested. I'm white, and they're coming after me, so obviously they're attracted to white men as well. Why can't we both be interested in the same thing? What you're sexually attracted to is in your brain, it's the same as being gay, you're just born that way. If you're not into something, you can't force it.

 

[Bubblebuttman]

The crux of the issue is that some traits are immutable or unchangeable. You can't change your height or your dick size. This can feel psychologically bad for anybody especially if they experienced romantic and sexual rejection repeatedly, on their end. At least with weight you can gain or lose by some effort.

The hard truth is that there are still some forms of look discrimination that are socially acceptable.

 

[Waylonn]

I experience the opposite. on the datingsapps the ladies are very open in their communication that they are sizequeens or they get more interested the moment they know u r hung. and thats how it should be and if they got hate.. too bad for the others. everybody can have their wishes

 

[coordinatedchaos]

The crux of the issue is that some traits are immutable or unchangeable. You can't change your height or your dick size. This can feel psychologically bad for anybody especially if they experienced romantic and sexual rejection repeatedly, on their end. At least with weight you can gain or lose by some effort.

The hard truth is that there are still some forms of look discrimination that are socially acceptable.

And? People can still have preferences on any basis. It's up to them not to force the world to adapt sicne they're too sensitive to handle it. Some people have racial preferences, so there is no inherent difference.

 

[Rooker]

The idea that looks “discrimination” is a term and supposedly negative is so fucking weird to me.

Fucking victimization.

 

[Pepelequ]

I like a good size queen. They're honest and unashamed not to mention horny.

I experience the opposite. on the datingsapps the ladies are very open in their communication that they are sizequeens or they get more interested the moment they know u r hung. and thats how it should be and if they got hate.. too bad for the others. everybody can have their wishes

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[Cum_is_Great]

The idea that looks “discrimination” is a term and supposedly negative is so fucking weird to me.

Fucking victimization.

I don't think you guys should let others being upset, upset you. It's ironic.

 

[Rooker]

I don't think you guys should let others being upset, upset you. It's ironic.

That’s not irony.

And expressing an opinion is not being upset. Lest you think anyone that posts acting is “triggered”.

So let’s just start now, and get it over with. I’ll accuse you of being triggered by what I said, then you’ll do the same to me. We can repeat that for hundreds of posts? Sound good?

 

[Cum_is_Great]

Well it was the last two words that made it seem like you were upset is all

Triggered? That's not even a term I've heard used in like 10 years. Though it does seem my point came across and that's all I was looking to express. Be well.

 

[Rooker]

Well it was the last two words that made it seem like you were upset is all

Triggered? That's not even a term I've heard used in like 10 years. Though it does seem my point came across and that's all I was looking to express. Be well.

Really? You haven’t heard that word? Well good for you.

I see the point you’re trying to make. If you prefer I or anyone else never dissent, please let me know.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

Really? You haven’t heard that word? Well good for you.

I see the point you’re trying to make. If you prefer I or anyone else never dissent, please let me know.

Obviously not. But you are dissenting to their dissent. It's ironic because everything you said above is valid, but equally applies to people who hold the opinion of "looks discrimination", including them not being upset or triggered.

I didn't say I never heard the term. Just haven't in like 10 years

 

[Rooker]

Obviously not. But you are dissenting to their dissent. It's ironic because everything you said above is valid, but equally applies to people who hold the opinion of "looks discrimination", including them not being upset or triggered.

I didn't say I never heard the term. Just haven't in like 10 years

I can see now that you are someone who enjoys the message board trope of “you’re upset because you responded”. I merely meant to give a direct, metaphorical slap in the face to the idea that not being attracted to someone is akin to actual discrimination.

I think your focus on me responding meaning I am upset is a silly notion, but I hope it serves you well in your social circles. If it’s all the same, I have no interest in discussing something with someone that thinks everything I say is a result of me being “upset”.

(Yes, I spent 45 seconds writing that, so go ahead and tell me how upset I am so you can have the online win.)

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I can see now that you are someone who enjoys the message board trope of “you’re upset because you responded”. I merely meant to give a direct, metaphorical slap in the face to the idea that not being attracted to someone is akin to actual discrimination.

I think your focus on me responding meaning I am upset is a silly notion, but I hope it serves you well in your social circles. If it’s all the same, I have no interest in discussing something with someone that thinks everything I say is a result of me being “upset”.

(Yes, I spent 45 seconds writing that, so go ahead and tell me how upset I am so you can have the online win.)

Genuinely am not understanding the hostility but no worries. No, I am not but it seems for some reason you assume it of me. Oh well. Thanks for the exchange. Till next time.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I can see now that you are someone who enjoys the message board trope of “you’re upset because you responded”. I merely meant to give a direct, metaphorical slap in the face to the idea that not being attracted to someone is akin to actual discrimination.

I think your focus on me responding meaning I am upset is a silly notion, but I hope it serves you well in your social circles. If it’s all the same, I have no interest in discussing something with someone that thinks everything I say is a result of me being “upset”.

(Yes, I spent 45 seconds writing that, so go ahead and tell me how upset I am so you can have the online win.)

Incidentally, my initial posting quoting you was in error. It was meant to be a post for the topic in general. I can understand the misunderstanding that way, so apologies for that.