Distant Straight Friend

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So long story short a month ago I told my friend that I had a crush on him. He seemed cool with it, but he respectfully declined and said he was straight and wanted to remain “bros” The problem is that now I think he is distancing himself from me. I honestly don’t believe he is 100% gay. Me and him have a lot of Chemistry. Everyone at our job and our friends thinks he is into to me. The other gays at work says they can even hear it in his voice when he calls my name. And the one guy said the same thing after his first day working with us.

As far as him distancing himself from me we still take work breaks alone together, but I noticed when we text he is very short with me now. He used to text me all night long. However, when we go drinking together we have one on one alone talks that last for hours in his car and it seems like he could make a move any moment.
 

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In Love With My Friend Cliche

You've posted about this before, you should have just continued that thread so people can understand the situation.

My advice as it was back then is to just focus on being friends and wait for him to make a move if he wants to. He already knows you are gay so if he wants to go further it's up to him.

You are wanting something so bad its making you see things that may not really be there. You need to take a step back, create some space for him to make a move if he wants to or if not you can still feel ok with what you have and find someone else more compatible.

You have already damaged your friendship, if you keep obsessing about taking things further you will probably lose him as a friend. The more you push, the further he will run.
 

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So long story short a month ago I told my friend that I had a crush on him. He seemed cool with it, but he respectfully declined and said he was straight and wanted to remain “bros” The problem is that now I think he is distancing himself from me. I honestly don’t believe he is 100% gay. Me and him have a lot of Chemistry. Everyone at our job and our friends thinks he is into to me. The other gays at work says they can even hear it in his voice when he calls my name. And the one guy said the same thing after his first day working with us.

As far as him distancing himself from me we still take work breaks alone together, but I noticed when we text he is very short with me now. He used to text me all night long. However, when we go drinking together we have one on one alone talks that last for hours in his car and it seems like he could make a move any moment.
You have to respect his wishes. You are fabricating this in your head and making it to how you want it to turn out. He is who ever he describes himself as. You cannot force someone to be who you believe they are. They will realise who they are, if it comes to that, in their own time.