Diversity Dating

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by cmk71, Oct 11, 2009.

  1. cmk71

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    Ok.....I am trying to diversify my non existent dating life. But guys of different races just don't come up to me often enough. Maybe it's where I live (DC/VA/MD area).....I just don't get it. And I am so sure being a little shy doesn't help things either.

    I use to think it was because I am tall, but being 5'10 just is'nt really viewed as very tall as it use to be, especially on the East coast.

    Don't know but it's frustrating......
     
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    What race are you?
     
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    there's tons of interracial dating/relationships in the area you live in..
    i have two family members that live in those areas who are in interracial marraiges(with bi-racial kids) it might be your shyness that's slowing you down a bit. my female cousin is 5'11 and was shy as well about being approached/approaching men
     
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    Use to think it was because I was tall but I am only 5'10...and that's just not that tall anymore, especially living on the east coast with all these tall women that I see! And I don't want to seem to aggressive with asking them out (some men, some men don't).
    What is it?--cmk71

    You never know what the problem could be. It could be a lot of things. Why not ask them what could be the problem? You never know until you ask them.
     
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    If that avatar is really you I can't imagine why anyone would have a problem dating you. I love tall women my self - that shouldn't be a problem. Try being a little more approachable or forward with guys and see what happens.

    -Ranger
     
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    Tall is intimidating to folks and a lot of people tend not to date outside their sphere, and black women are particularly intimidating to non-black guys. So you're doomed! No, no, you just need to find places where interracial dating isn't just the norm, but it's cool. Go to indie art shows in the city, find your local Bohemians... And be aggressive, it's a turn on to those kind of guys (At least over here on the West Coast it is, I'm sure DC is the same way, though).

    But I'd recommend avoiding at all costs dating the culture when it comes to guys from misogynist cultural backgrounds. I'm not saying you shouldn't date Arab guys, for instance, just make sure they're Arab guys who are willing to admit that Saudi Arab is fucked up in its treatment of women. Unless you're into that kind of thing.
     
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    Have you considered diversifying not just your racial relationships but also your sexuality?
     
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    i am arabic man i like tall wamen
     
  10. Principessa

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    Sounds like good advice.:cool:
     
  11. matticus201

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    I think some of the others said it best, maybe try being a bit more outgoing and aggressive about meeting people. To me, there's nothing better than a friendly person who just strikes up a conversation. You can usually tell pretty quickly if that person is or isn't interested in talking to you, and if they aren't, a friendly "Have a good night" is in order, then you're off to the next person to chat them up a bit. I really think being outgoing is one of the keys. The other is mutual interest. If you like salsa dancing, go to salsa clubs. If you like wine, go to wine tastings. By doing this, you're bound to meet someone nice, and you already know you've got something in common. =)

     
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