Diversity of Penis Size

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  1. quarrel

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    Ladies,

    I once had a woman remark to me that she was amazed at how much variation there is in penis size among men. When younger, she thought all penises were pretty much the same, but she learned that was far from true.

    Is this a common belief among inexerienced women? It seems like sex ed classes may understate the difference and variablility.

    Were you surprised when you encountered a very large penis or a very small one?
     
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    personally i was thrilled as it was like the baskin-robbins of dick!
     
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    Is it a common belief amongst inexperienced women? Yes and no. I would say it is more of a belief when we are at school but we know long before we leave that there are variations in size. When I had sex ed, the penis was referred to as 'the penis'. I truly believed that the penis was the same in every man. Obviously a different colour depending on the man otherwise the same. It was only when I got to age 14 (or thereabouts) and some of my girlfriends started sleeping with boys that I learned that there were differences in size. When I became a young woman (17-18), I realised there were differences in appearance too.

    Was I surprised when I saw my first big one? I didn't have a point of reference to compare my first one to but looking back the very first man I slept with had an above average size penis. I don't remember feeling any sense of shock when I saw it. To tell you the truth, I have forgotten what I felt - which is sad. :(
     
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    Hmm... I was never in awe of my first boyfriend's penis, I just found it normal - even though I remember him pointing out to me that he was bigger than average with his eight-something incher. My second boyfriend was just over three inches. I remember my chin dropping - but I forgave him as he found my g-spot and gave me my first orgasm.

    I don't think penis size was part of the curriculum in my schools.
     
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    It isn't. I don't know about schools in your country but the UK we used to have sex ed classes. They were very basic. They talked about puberty, menstruation and sex and pregnancy but sex was described in very mechanical terms with none of the stuff about relationships around it. The nitty gritty we had to find out for ourselves.
     
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    ^ Same here.
     
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    From a guy's perspective, there are two things that stick out in my mind:

    The first is about 6th grade when we first started showering together after gym class. I was very surprised to see that many guys had started developing and some of them were really big. (Thinking back on it, they were probably already bigger than the average adult)

    Then I remember the first time I saw some porn, both video and magazine and being astonished at how big the guy's cocks were.
     
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    I'm not a woman but I thought they were pretty much the same until I was 20.

    Pathetic I know.
     
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    I think those same experiences are why a lot of guys have concern over their own size. Between early developers and porn, they start out with uncertainty or at least an inkling that they don't measure up.
     
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    and it really kinda hurts over time.
    which i think many do not understand
    and just think we want to hear "you got such a big dick"
    when in actuality we are moreso looking for the truth.

    men do not get A-cup...B-cup...C-cup...Dcup, size placement.
    so we never really have anything to go by except other cocks
    which leaves truth up to your eyes measurement.
    not very trustworthy.:wink:
     
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    What I don't understand is why it matters? Penises, unlike breasts, do not need supports (unless guys are playing sport, in which case they wear a jockstrap). Breasts do need support and in order for that support to do its job effectively, bras need to fit the breasts they are supporting (hence the cup sizes, etc). Most women do not think about breasts beyond the bra size and only then so they know what size to buy each time they go out! Obviously, some do but the majority of us really don't. I realise I am on a big dick site but I really don't get this - I don't know how to describe it - obsession. Yes, obsession - with measuring and comparing penis size. I personally don't measure guys. Like you, I rely on what my eyes tell me and I do not try to scope the goods before I bed a guy. So I literally don't know what I am getting each time. While I admit I find looking at large dicks an incredible turn on I, like most women, would be happy with a man who had an average sized dick (particularly if he knew what to do with it!) so if you are average sized, relax. Yeah a few women like them above average too (myself included) but precious few are looking for what I would call circus penises. The reality is unless we have no cervix or internal organs to get in the way, most of us could not accommodate anything above 8 and a half inches. Give the majority average - slightly larger than average and they will be happy.
     
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    if the glove dont fit you must acquit. there is a cock, a cunt, a mouth an ass and a set of hands for everyone to have a nice match. if you don't like the fit then move on or if the fit is secondary to the person, then go to plan b. we're put here on this planet to have fun and sex is a part of it, not the whining and bitching about it.
     
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    an A-cup breast hardly needs support.
    nor a B-cup, unless doing sports,

    i think the support is starting to be needed only at a C-cup.
    all my point was saying is that,in your subconcious and unconcious
    you as a female know where you stand as far as the breast goes.
    and yes women obsess about breast size and ass size,
    i am not irritated by it at all...i actually understand it.
    even when a woman goes to the obgyn,she will know if she needs
    a smaller speculum or a larger speculum.
    again a luxury us men do not have.

    some people i think have a hard time stepping outside of
    their personal perspective to see the objective of another.
    it is kinda sad.

    :smile:
     
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    Here was sex ed at my high school, as taught by our offensive line coach, one day during a class called "Health."

    "So, um, today is the part of the class where we talk about, um, what men and women do when they, um, are adults, and, um, get together and have what is called 'intercourse,' right there. (Aside: Coach often ended sentences with the phrase "right there" -- it didn't really mean anything, but he used it the way some people say "y'know.")

    "And, those of you who have taken biology studied about the, um, the reproductive system right there, and so, um, those are the parts that are involved when we are talking about, um, the intercourse right there.

    "And the woman has an egg, and the man has, um, the sperm, and they get together and make a baby, right there. Through intercourse.

    "So, um, are there any questions?"

    (I was so amused/horrified/embarrased for Coach to be hearing this from him, I remember it pretty much word for word, 25 years later.)
     
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    I beg to differ - a B cup does need support. And 'women obsess about breast size and ass shape' is a bit of a generalisation. SOME women - a relatively small percentage, at that - do. I don't and many other women don't. Life is too short to worry about the size, shape and hang of some boobs or an ass that is going to be two feet south of where it is at the moment by the time we hit 70 anyway! But this doesn't matter because breasts are not the same as a penis/balls.

    I don't know about smaller or larger speculum. They seem to only come in one size where I go. But here is the lick - women don't know what size their vaginas are. Should we be clamoring for a unit of measurement too?

    What is even sadder is people who cannot answer a simple question! I hear what you are saying but the question that I asked and which has STILL not been addressed is why does it matter? Supposing you knew what size your dick was. HOW is having that information going to make a difference to you or anyone else in the grand scheme of things? How is it going to help you? What would you do with that info? I have asked this question again and rephrased it in three new ways deliberately. Let's just say (hypothetically) that penis size were officially measured by the size of the appendage and the size of the balls and you found out (hypothetically) that you have medium balls and medium-large appendage (or whatever) - HOW IS KNOWING THAT GOING TO HELP YOU? It is the reasoning behind the need to know that I am seeking to understand. I have thought about it and I am not sure what difference knowing this would make. It is not as though things need to be tailored especially for the penis most of the time (my original point), hence the question. The fact that I am expressing curiosity about this does not mean I am unable to appreciate that other people have a different view or objective. Indeed, I am seeking to UNDERSTAND that view/objective and, with all due respect, you have said nothing to advance that understanding at all.
     
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    It is the reasoning behind the need to know that I am seeking to understand.

    Runco,the reasoning is,

    if i see that i am not an ideal mate, and just "ok"
    i will quit trying to convince myself that i am sexy to women.
    if i knew that i had a "A-cup" breast as a woman
    and i know the vast majority of men will not really even give me a second look,some will but majority will seek the woman with a B or C-cup.
    i will not set my standards too high,
    whereas if i have a C-cup, i can count on many men
    being interested in getting together with me.

    that gives a person security...it may not be right,
    but it is there because of size.
     
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    Thanks for the explanation but you know something? Even the flattest chested woman should set her sights high. Why? Because there is someone out there for everyone and I would say the split for and against small breasts is 50-50. Those are good odds when it comes to finding a decent partner. I was really surprised by your answer (and felt more than a bit sad that you feel this way). Modern society has so much to answer for. We already drive women nuts with breast size - so much so that a whole industry has sprung up around breast enlargement (in particular). Men can now get their penises enlarged and we are seeing increasing numbers of women getting their vaginas remodeled. Butts can be changed, pecs inserted, fat can be sucked out and so on. Where the hell does it end? I can honestly see a future where people will give birth to biological children who look NOTHING like them due to remodeling.

    Yet once upon a time people didn't give a toss about any of this. I remember porn years ago. No one shaved or waxed their chests or pubic region. Women had boobs and vaginas in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Women had hair growing everywhere down below, as did men. Large penises were not mandatory. It wasn't a turn off - far from it. The real turn on WAS the fact that there was so much variety. Now? Everything has to be so....sanitised. Uniform. Fault has to be found with everything and everything has to be 'fixed'. The thing that really pisses me off? If people do not 'measure up' they are made to feel deficient. It's ridiculous.

    I strongly urge you to resist the madness that demands everyone categorises and measures themselves against some arbitrary and unattainable 'ideal'. Nine times out of ten these ideals are set by the plastic surgery industry. Why? Why do you think - there is money in it for them. If I paid attention to the latest research, I would top myself. Apparently I am too tall to be desirable to men. I earn too much money. I am too independent and too assertive. Ergo, no man will want me ever. It's all a pile of shit, of course but I see women shriveling up in the face of this 'research'. Some of them honestly believe it and give up hope.

    The fact that your penis might be one size or another shouldn't matter to anyone and indeed WON'T matter to the majority of women. Seriously. The majority of women do not shop for penis like they are in the supermarket. You would probably be very surprised to know that 55% of men are dissatisfied with their penises. Yet ask the wives and partners of these men and 85% of them are very happy with their partner's penis size. These are researched and statistically sound facts. This tells me that you should NEVER set your sights low on account of something as trivial as your penis size. You may think your penis is lacking (and yeah there will be some women out there who will demand nothing less than a circus penis) but trust me, women - 85% of women (even on this site) - will think differently.
     
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    What a good post Runco.
     
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    Runco, you are an idealist I see which is what we should all aspire to be, however most of us haven't attained this view yet...unfortunately.
    Plain and simply...as you said yourself, you enjoy looking at and having sex with men with bigger than average penises. Men want to be desired and if having an average or bigger than average penis will help, then they measure to see if they are bigger than this "average", which is pretty vague to begin with and helps to creates to all the confusion and the never ending saga.
    And just like women dress up and wear make-up primarily to impress other women as they "compete for femininity" primarily subconsciously of course, men like to compare their penises to other men looking for masculine affirmation. Obviously none of this matters in the grand scheme of things, especially in the modern world we live in...but these primal insticts remain.
    I really dont feel this is that hard of a concept to grasp and for the record, I've measured my penis dozens of times knowing it wont change.:confused:
     
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    My Man-boobs need support!:eek:
     
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