Do actions (sex) speak louder than words (compliments)?

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  1. Jovial

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    Ideally, we'd all like our partner to give us compliments and also fuck our brains out often. But how much more is the sex worth than the compliments?

    I mean would you rather your partner...

    1) always tell you how nice and great you are but then rarely wants to have sex.

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    2) rarely gives you compliments, doesn't tell you he/she likes you, but wants to have sex often and satisfies you sexually?


    I say if someone wants to have sex with you, that's the best compliment they can give you. Someone can give a compliment and not mean it, but it's hard to fake great sex.

    I wasn't sure where to put this thread.
     
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    Actually, this is a hard question. Yesterday was my 11 yr anniversary...and looking ahead and at a majority of the relationships of friends and family members...they all have their slow spells when it comes to sex. HOWEVER, In the lull times the compliments come in and help where the lack of sex sometimes would cause problems and save the day. Personally, a happy harmony of BOTH is ideal...but not always is it something that happens because people get wrapped up in their jobs...daily drama's that sometimes both get put on the back burner. But, as far as REAL relationships go..I'd have to opt for the compliments, because I know the sex doesn't last forever and ultimately the companionship is what lasts. *I myself plan on having sex till I cant anymore.* hehehhe


    Also, I'd like to add you can have great sex that is VERY satisfying and NOT with a partner...so I'm putting the view more towards people in relationships where the relationship isn't an OPEN relationship. (mine is open and has been for the 11yrs and counting) :)
     
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    Actions speak louder than words I'll take sex or physical contact any day over words!


    When Lisa and I disagree or fight its the sex or physical contact that lets me know she still loves me.
     
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    #2 - Actions (sex) speak louder than words. Don't get me wrong, I love compliments! :wink: But I know he means those pretty words when he follows them up with some good loving. :heart:
     
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    Of course I'd prefer to have both, but given the choice of one OR the other, I'd take the actions (sex).
     
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    #2 sex no question
     
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    Although I would agree actions typically speak louder than words, I would also worry that they're just using me. After all, for all you know, you might be misinterpreting the sex as a compliment...

    But in general it's probably healthier to take it as a compliment.
     
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    Both options seem like a means for a lazy partner to avoid doing anything meaningful. Words are just words unless they're backed with actions that show you care. And someone having sex with you doesn't necessarily mean they think you are nice and great. It might just mean that they're horny and you're in the room.
     
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    True, but what I'm getting at is that even if someone is just horny and wants you for that reason, they still chose you rather than someone else. And they chose you over masturbating alone. So there is still some meaning in the act.
     
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    it means that you were there at the time and a nice cock/ass is better than masterbating and saves the trouble/time for them finding someone else. People like sex...and if you're good sex...regardless of love they will go for the familar sure thing to get off. Sux but it's how it is.
     
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    So it still means they like you for these reason, even if they are shallow reasons. But I see your point. It can depend on the situation.
     
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    Exactly! But if it's the case where you're the one wanting the sex and have feeling for the person that you are into but they just do it for the sex...you can be drawn in even more when they just like the sex and have no other reason for doing it other than just the sex. Then you're left hurting in the long run. Better to just get out of that situation totally... THEN if they realize ...hey...I did like them for more than the sex, they will be coming back to you...if you're not already over it/taken.
     
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    Sex..with NIck!:tongue:
     
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    That's like the old saying, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

    If you want great sex, you should be complimented for it. Why would I want them to say I suck at sex and my penis is scrawny? Those mean comments do little to boost up my pimp juices. Compliment me! Say nice positive things about me that make me feel good.

    Good sex requires good compliments. So you can enjoy good sex and good compliements like enjoying good cake and eating it too!
     
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    Actions scream your love for your partner not only in sex by how you touch them or lack there of.

    And especially in the Sex part of it. A person can say all kinds of sexual things and be totally fake about it. But their body well tell on them EVERY TIME.
     
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    I never give compliments so I don't know.
     
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    Do you ever receive compliments?
     
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    Something inbetween I think, when they have sex a lot with you, then you know they appreciate it. But I also need compliments about other stuff like I will compliment them...
     
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    I am going to go with the second option Jovial suggested. That would just piss me off to be complimented and then almost nevr have sex. In good relationships i have had, the great sex was a daily thing and I was very happy. I didn't need to be complimented. So yes, imo sex does speak louder than words.
     
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