to the OP, i think it's easy for you to want this fantasy because for you it actually can be a fantasy. you have a big dick so you can pretend you have a small dick without any recourse. it is a luxury and fact of your situation unless you're fibbing about your size but we will take you at face value. with that said...
i think sph is a personal choice and some relationships are very happy with it. it's more related towards a cuckold-type relationship. as a guy, i always wondered what was going through men's head when they get pleasure from being put down or humiliated. i'm sure it stems deep within our own minds somewhere and was learnt at some point in our early years.
i also think that fantasy is "safe". if your wife truly cuckolded you with a guy who was bigger and thick, would you really be able to swallow that loss of pride? granted it's only fantasy and it's not real however the only way to really know how it feels is to go find a bigger guy who has a very alpha-male type personality and let him at your wife while he talks down to you as well as your wife doing the same. it's only at that point in time where you can truly know if you like sph because the fact will stand that the guy fucking your wife is bigger, better, and fucking her harder than you ever could.
sph doesn't do anything for me whether to receive it or give it. i have turned down couples requesting this in my past life; now i have been with couples to introduce the wife to a "bigger" dick but it was a mutual experience and the husband was cheering me on but never would i look down on him or immaculate him even if he was smaller than me or couldn't fuck as good as me. i would always be polite and thank him for allowing me to fuck his wife as well as her for allowing me to fuck her. perhaps i'm too polite however i always worry about the mental implications after the fact.
well, to each their own. i'm sure there are many guys on here who are big and are into this and wish someone one humiliate them. kinda like the high-paying corporate executives who hire escorts to dominate them in the bedroom because they dominate all day long in their career. a change of pace is good. if it works for you, who are we to say otherwise?
