Do any of you use the Adult Friend Finder or sites similar to them?

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  1. Hugh G. Rection

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    I always see these website ads with pictures of random girls who are supposedly from my town for websites like Adult Friend Finder, and I never used to believe in them until this guy I know went on one when he was drunk one night and met up with a girl and screwed her.
    So do people actually use these sites ?
     
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    I signed up once because I was curious, but I never actually tried to contact anyone.
    I found it more entertaining when I found the same images of girls listed on other towns/states with different names. :)
    A lot of those images are obviously there to rope in new subscribers.

    I really wish the women I saw there were in my home town!
    I'd love to know if any women here have actually used it.
     
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    Yeah when you start to see strange little town names (where a whopping 200 people reside) in your area and a hot chick posted like she lives there just waiting for you to contact her. What a crock!
     
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    I have used both Adult Friend Finder and Plenty of Fish to find a bi male to play with my boyfriend and I.
     
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    Dis regarding the pictures scam I'm interested if people really do use it even in the smaller towns. They always "claim" people are just waiting in your town.....So if your town has no members can they still legally make that claim???
     
  6. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I had an account on AFF for a while.
     
  7. whatireallywant

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    I still have an account on AFF (although I am just a standard member, due to my budget). I have met people through it, too. I do think it's easier to do this if you live in a city than if you live in a small town, though.

    For me, AFF is about the only way I can tactfully, actively seek out big guys. That's one of the reasons I signed up. (That and no sex for 6 years! :eek:)

    While right now I am only seeking out a FB or FWB, I am open to something more serious as well. I am open to all the possibilites, just depending on who I meet.
     
  8. Guy-jin

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    So what is it, basically just a site where you put together a personal in order to hook up with people?
     
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    Quite true.
    My sister lives in LA and said she used it, and other less blantantly sexual dating services, to land lots of guys.
    She would tell me of multiple guys each week.
    Which is what prompted me to check it out.

    But for me, in a smaller town, the results that pop up were suspect, not to mention not numerous.
    So I never tried it out.

    Hell, online is how I've met all the woman I've been with in the last 8 years. Which surprises me because I always believed online dates/hookups were creepy and ficticious.

    But, it hasn't been through things like AFF.
    It's been through discussion forums, or via work-related chit-chat over e-mail, etc. Where I just got to know them through casual dialogue.
    That's a slow process if you are just looking for sex. So all my sex tends to be happenstance as a product of friendships.
    Which is fine with me. :)

    Sure, it would be nice to have spontaneous encounters, but whadda ya gonna do? I'm probably saving myself from a disease this way. :D
     
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    i have an account on there. i've had it for at least a year, but i don't really use it. it's not very useful for me since i don't have my own vehicle, and i sure as hell am NOT going to let any of them come over to my place. lol. noooo way. so i took my profile down for now. there were some guys on there that i was interested in, but i'm a little nervous about it being online. you never know.
     
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    I have an account there. Being a female, it doesn't really take a lot of effort to keep an account. I made a profile, uploaded pics and didn't pay a thing.

    Interestingly enough I have found my pictures used by the different 'finder' sites for that very purpose.

    The quality of people are hit and miss, I suppose that is just true of life in general. I met a man who was/is very significant in my life and I have encountered so many over the top, oh my gosh you are just strange folks as well.
     
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    There are real women on AFF...quite a few of them. Lots of fakes and spam to. I'd say the ratio of fake profiles and spam to real women is about 3 to 1 or so. It doesn't take alot of experience on there to figure out when a profile is likely to be a fake/spam.

    Like anything else, there are pros and cons to using a site like that. Overall, though, the women I've met from AFF, etc. have been way more sexually compatibile with me than women that I met through 'normal' approaches (clubs, grocery stores, friends).
     
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    The beautiful "random" girls you see in the ads are nude models with your town info (gathered from your IP address, I think) just pasted in below. There are real women on the site, though -- just not the ones they use to advertise.
     
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    In order to meet real women, any man must be willing the answer the following question in the affirmative:

    "Ever ride a hog?"
     
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    Yes. I have had a profile and am a member of AFF and a few other sites - and have met quite a few real, fun, attractive people out there and had lots of fun. So yes, you'd be surprised how real - and how many people - and very hot women are out there on them. Craigslist is a great place to look for NSA fun as well.

    There are all kinds of real, normal, cool women out there that are wanting to let themselves be wild but are too afraid of their social circle finding out. AFF and other sites are the perfect way for them to explore this. And lucky for me - many of them want to experience a true big cock for the first time. I must say it has worked out very well for me.
     
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    Yes, real people use them and have some success.

    Yes, it's sole purpose is to act as a means to connect people who want to have sex.

    So did I. I had a lot of responses but they allseemed kind of freaky/scary. So I never responded and closed out my account.


     
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    I had an account with AFF briefly in 2006. I suspect it might work well enough if you are:

    • a straight guy who lives in a major metro area (like LA, NYC, or the like)
    • a gay or bi guy/gal in any populated area
    • a straight woman who lives almost anywhere at all :tongue:
    But as a straight guy not located in a major metropolis, I found that there were actually only a handful of genuine female members of suitable age in my area. As compared to like 200 men. :rolleyes:

    There are a couple of crippling problems with these kinds of sites. First off, they are mainly marketed to horny, lonely guys, via sexy picture links on other sites. Perhaps as a result, males outnumber females by like 20 to 1 or worse. This creates a dynamic where the women are inundated and the men get little or no action, which doesn't work out well for anybody.

    A good test to run on this kind of site, if they will let you do a search without becoming a paid member (iirc AFF does), is to search for, say, males 25-45 within 100 miles of your location, and then do the same for females. See how many of each there are, and what portion of each are paid subscribers. If the ratio is drastically unbalanced, give it a miss or take your chances. Also, look at how many of those accounts are still active; often sites are reluctant to purge women's accounts even if they haven't been accessed in months.

    Secondly, these sites will try to compensate for the lack of eligible females by adding robotic profiles. If you read enough female profiles attentively (as I did), you begin to notice that there are a limited number of paragraphs that show up (misspellings and all) in varying order in profile after profile, set against completely different pictures. These "robo-members" do not of course respond to contacts. :biggrin1:

    Third, if you are a guy (can't speak for women members) you will receive what look like contacts from women. However, once you start up a conversation they will tell you about how their pics or contact info are to be found on their profile on some other site. Which is, naturally, a pay per view site. Dealing with this is annoying. The dead giveaway is when they want you to contact them at an external email address. Don't do it unless you want porno site spam out your ears. They're just phishing for your email address, and possibly CC data as well.

    I understand that there are people who use these sites successfully, and as I said above I believe even single men might find them useful if there are enough women members in their area. But you will be navigating a figurative minefield mainly designed, IMHO, not to join happy couples together but to separate desperate and incautious single people, especially men, from their money. YMMV.

    Cheers,
    -DC
     
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    Yes(AFF), i'm logged on as a standard member with the user name dadyloves, i've had alot of responses from local girls, and requests to meet members but my wife and i are real picky(also, we don't just jump), so we've yet to contact anyone by registering as a silver or gold member, just some hotlisting.
    I have a friends network and have a bulletin board, as a standard member the only way i can add anyone to my friends list is for them to look at my profile then i can do a request to see if they want to be in my friends network or not.
    Being in the friends network as a standard member allows you to browse their gallery if they have one.
    The mods there are very strict, anything out of line is emediatly deleted and/or denied, any obusive members are emediatly banned for life.
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  19. Axcess

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    I never have accounts on those sites .
     
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