Do black guys do it for you?

[emmyfan]

what you say about this one? I never read "no blacks" from white profiles, but I have seen "no whites" from blacks

Ha! That must be the only profile you have seen. There are a lot of profiles that say no blacks and no asians.

 

[cedarizzo]

what you say about this one? I never read "no blacks" from white profiles, but I have seen "no whites" from blacks

I've seen it listed on many profiles across many different websites. I've seen white guys who say "no blacks". And I've seen (and know a few) black guys that say "no whites".

 

[cedarizzo]

I've seen it listed on many profiles across many different websites. I've seen white guys who say "no blacks". And I've seen (and know a few) black guys that say "no whites".

I've also seen white guys that say "no whites" and black guys that say "no blacks".

To each their own. Everybody has different tastes/preferences in men.

 

[Genuinkguy]

I've also seen white guys that say "no whites" and black guys that say "no blacks".

To each their own. Everybody has different tastes/preferences in men.

Exactly, it doesnt have to do with racism.

 

[Genuinkguy]

Another one for those who thinks its just one or two that dont want whites, until now I never found one saying no blacks, and to be honest I always try to talk with blacks many dont reply, some reply but dont want to meet, and so on...

 

[emmyfan]

I just wish more people were more open to different experiences and not rule out a certain group/race of people.

Sometimes I feel like gays tear each other down just as bad if not worse than straight people tearing down gays. How many bars are there where you see gay men and lesbians socializing together? Some gay men hate being around lesbians and vice versa. Very sad.

 

[find83]

I just wish more people were more open to different experiences and not rule out a certain group/race of people.

Sometimes I feel like gays tear each other down just as bad if not worse than straight people tearing down gays. How many bars are there where you see gay men and lesbians socializing together? Some gay men hate being around lesbians and vice versa. Very sad.

It's the ghetto effect

 

[find83]

Yes they do. I actually prefer black LOL

 

[malakos]

I just wish more people were more open to different experiences and not rule out a certain group/race of people.

Omg, what does it even matter? Personally, I have numerous parts of my life that are far more important than this question. I feel like scrutinizing my sexual tastes would be wasted time I could've invested on other things, and I would say that even if I thought that scrutinizing one's tastes could effect any change (which generally I don't think it can).

 

[emmyfan]

Omg, what does it even matter? Personally, I have numerous parts of my life that are far more important than this question. I feel like scrutinizing my sexual tastes would be wasted time I could've invested on other things, and I would say that even if I thought that scrutinizing one's tastes could effect any change (which generally I don't think it can).

OMG, did you read the rest of my post?

All I said was that I wish others were more open. Also, I mentioned how socially gay men and women do not like to socialize with each other. It was just an observation.

I did not call anyone racist or any other names. Good grief!

 

[AdamHenry]

I've also seen white guys that say "no whites" and black guys that say "no blacks".

To each their own. Everybody has different tastes/preferences in men.

I won't mess around with someone who will disregard their own race. They got issues. That shit is just the tip of the iceberg.

 

[cedarizzo]

I won't mess around with someone who will disregard their own race. They got issues. That shit is just the tip of the iceberg.

I believe everybody is entitled to their own tastes.

 

[AdamHenry]

I believe everybody is entitled to their own tastes.

Cool that. You can wander into those murky waters if you want. Been there done that. They got issues.

 

[HybridChild]

My first was with a black guy... he was taller than me and very dominant... i loved it

 

[takethecurve]

Another one for those who thinks its just one or two that dont want whites, until now I never found one saying no blacks, and to be honest I always try to talk with blacks many dont reply, some reply but dont want to meet, and so on...

Here is literally an entire Twitter so you can see the things you keep saying you've never seen.

Grindr Racism (@GrindrRacism) on Twitter

 

[AdamHenry]

Here is literally an entire Twitter so you can see the things you keep saying you've never seen.

Grindr Racism (@GrindrRacism) on Twitter

Good reading. Confirms and validates my suspicions. The Gay community isn't any better.

 

[Nudistpig]

You can't call someone a racist just because they are not sexually attracted to black guys.

It's like calling someone a misogynist because they are gay.

The analogy isn't accurate. And I think you're right. Expressing that preference, especially only when asked doesn't make you a racist. Just like saying you only like men doesn't make you misogynist (keeping in mind being gay incorporates the idea that women aren't sexually of interest whereas gayness doesn't inherently mean melanin level preference... that's a personal choice).

However, when a gay guy makes puking gestures and carries on about the idea of a vagina... I'd say that's at very least internalized misogyny. The same way as putting something in writing on a profile about dislike of Black men is a bit racist (and often a lot depending on how it's worded).

I'll use myself as the example. I grew up in a very white part of the world. Also a very racist part of the world. I discovered through close friendships and discussion that what I thought was just a preference actually had deep cultural roots and was self hatred a bit too for being brown myself. I realized I was 100% comfortable with Black women (to the point of sleeping with them easily...far more easily than white women) but completely afraid of Black men. This pointed to something being not quite right.

So after working on it I found that my deep inner core perception was based in my racist upbringing and culture. It wasn't intentional nor even consciously expressed. But it was there. So I worked to change it because I wanted to. Was I racist? Yes on some level. Was it my fault? Not really. Not working to change would have been.

You know you best. I'm not suggesting you're the same. I'm offering my experience as something to consider.

 

[Brodie888]

The analogy isn't accurate. And I think you're right. Expressing that preference, especially only when asked doesn't make you a racist. Just like saying you only like men doesn't make you misogynist (keeping in mind being gay incorporates the idea that women aren't sexually of interest whereas gayness doesn't inherently mean melanin level preference... that's a personal choice).

However, when a gay guy makes puking gestures and carries on about the idea of a vagina... I'd say that's at very least internalized misogyny. The same way as putting something in writing on a profile about dislike of Black men is a bit racist (and often a lot depending on how it's worded).

I'll use myself as the example. I grew up in a very white part of the world. Also a very racist part of the world. I discovered through close friendships and discussion that what I thought was just a preference actually had deep cultural roots and was self hatred a bit too for being brown myself. I realized I was 100% comfortable with Black women (to the point of sleeping with them easily...far more easily than white women) but completely afraid of Black men. This pointed to something being not quite right.

So after working on it I found that my deep inner core perception was based in my racist upbringing and culture. It wasn't intentional nor even consciously expressed. But it was there. So I worked to change it because I wanted to. Was I racist? Yes on some level. Was it my fault? Not really. Not working to change would have been.

You know you best. I'm not suggesting you're the same. I'm offering my experience as something to consider.

If a straight friend was revolted by the idea of sucking cock, I wouldn't call it homophobia, internalized or otherwise. It wouldn't bother me at all.

 

[Jonnynudist]

I absolutely love black guys

 

[wsnki07]

The analogy isn't accurate. And I think you're right. Expressing that preference, especially only when asked doesn't make you a racist. Just like saying you only like men doesn't make you misogynist (keeping in mind being gay incorporates the idea that women aren't sexually of interest whereas gayness doesn't inherently mean melanin level preference... that's a personal choice).

However, when a gay guy makes puking gestures and carries on about the idea of a vagina... I'd say that's at very least internalized misogyny. The same way as putting something in writing on a profile about dislike of Black men is a bit racist (and often a lot depending on how it's worded).

I'll use myself as the example. I grew up in a very white part of the world. Also a very racist part of the world. I discovered through close friendships and discussion that what I thought was just a preference actually had deep cultural roots and was self hatred a bit too for being brown myself. I realized I was 100% comfortable with Black women (to the point of sleeping with them easily...far more easily than white women) but completely afraid of Black men. This pointed to something being not quite right.

So after working on it I found that my deep inner core perception was based in my racist upbringing and culture. It wasn't intentional nor even consciously expressed. But it was there. So I worked to change it because I wanted to. Was I racist? Yes on some level. Was it my fault? Not really. Not working to change would have been.

You know you best. I'm not suggesting you're the same. I'm offering my experience as something to consider.

Great points