I made a post back in March 2019;
“I like the guy based on his good looks and personality. His skin color doesn’t even cross my mind.”
I completely agree with this! As I said above, I've been with white guys and Latinos, so skin color is not the overriding factor for me.
I do think back to a 65th birthday party a few years ago for a lovely black woman my husband had worked with for 30 years. We were the only white faces in a ballroom with about 100 people. After the party on the drive back home, I said, "That was a lot more fun than if it had been an all white party. They know how to let go and have fun!" My husband agreed.
There is often in black communities a shared sense of purpose , energy and history, whereas groups of white people are riven by politics, guilt and suspicion.
(I am talking about COMMUNITIES, not individuals. Of course there are exceptional individuals of both races.)
Also, the music is better! In popular music as well as in black churches, the energy and spirit just connects for me. I'm a former church organist, so I know both white gospel music, high Episcopal liturgical music, the Catholic mass, etc. And I've been to black Protestant and Episcopal Church Rd. The formality and structure of the white churches is very different from the soulful, energized spirit in black churches.
And where would popular music be without jazz, Soul, rhythm and blues, Ska, rap, etc.
I feel that kind of energy when I'm with a black lover---every one of them!---and I've never felt that from a white guy, they are all full of hangups, guilt and shame in my experience. I know who I want to party with and I'm a sober man!
My current FB is also fairly intellectual and we have talked about the importance of building interracial relationships of all sorts as examples of healing in these divisive times. His two long term relationships have also been with white guys, though he has also had black lovers. His pattern in relationships actually mirrors mine.