A male friend in his late 30's has never had sex without a condom. I was shocked because I know he has had a few long term relationships. I kinda thought that was one of the benefits of being in an exclusive long-term relationship. You both have been tested and you can do the nasty without that annoying rubber between the two of you. A male friend of his admits to starting out with the condom on; but at some point during sex he pulls out, takes it off and fucks w/o the condom! :yikes: :wtf2: Then I read the comments that go with the article below and apparently a lot of guys do this. WHAT THE FUCK!?! I admit as a woman the best part of a condom is the lack of messy clean up afterwards. But I also really like knowing that I am protected from STD's and in my youth an unwanted pregnancy. No man has the right to take that from me. :12: Do Condoms Suck That Much? A Note On Playing It Safe: The Frisky thinks safe sex is smart sex - so please practice it in the way thats right for your relationship. So, NPR posted a story saying that condom-less sex is the new engagement ring, because going bareback shows the same or similar kind of intimacy and trust and commitment that traditional marriage does. I see their point, though the man-friend and I dropped the connies well before we got engagedbut only when wed agreed to be monogamous and had done the all important STD-tests etc. Over at fellow lady blog Jezebel, outgoing Features Editor Moe says about sex without a condom: ...here is the irrefutable: it feels awesome. Maybe that is because I have only really engaged in bareback sex with the types of dudes who dont fear HPV and whose diseases I dont particularly fear, because the worst thing I can think of about most of them is the ensuing lifetime of awkward conversations... In other words, sex with condoms sucks, the worst that could happen to me if I go without condoms with a dude is maybe I could get pregnant or get HPV or diseases I dont particularly fear and of having those diseases, the worst part is having awkward conversations with future sex partners. There is so much that is ridiculous about that statement, but Im not in the business of ripping people apart for their personal sexual choices. BUT the thing that struck me as most interesting is the notion that sex with a condom is so horrible and feeling-less and lame that risking infection is worth it for the awesomeness of sex without a condom. Maybe Im nutty, but I never minded using condoms. Im a paranoid freak so sex with a condom has always been preferable to the best case scenario of going without (having to make an annoying trip to the gyno because I had unsafe sex and need to get tested and/or checked to make sure Im not with child) and the worst case scenario (you know, HIV, herpes, an unplanned pregnancy, etc.).